Advice: getting what you want
Last week we gave you some advice on Knowing What You're Looking For; that is, approaching your time on mysinglefriend.com with a clear objective, whether it's marriage and babies, some brilliant dates, or just a bit of a giggle. Once you've sorted out your priorities and joined the site, the question is, how do you pursue your goal?
Be clear
We mentioned this last week, but it's worth saying again: if you're looking for something specific, eg. a long term relationship, and aren't interested in anything else then you need to let people know. You don't need to make a meal of it, but a casual reference thrown in should help to deter those who aren't traveling the same path as you. Equally, if you're just looking for a few good nights out and nothing more, and you don't want to get tangled up in anything else, then say so.
Be proactive
Being proactive is always at the top of our list when it comes to dating advice, and it applies here more than anywhere. Once you know what type of person or relationship you're looking for you have to be proactive in seeking it out as it could take a long while for them to simply appear in your inbox. Keep a close eye on the new members appearing in your home page and read their profiles carefully - you'll be able to pick up some clues about what they're looking for. The genius of MSF is that their friend does the hard work for them and is likely to know what your potential date wants and not be afraid to say it. Once you've picked out a few likely targets, message them immediately - there's no sense in hanging around.
Be flexible
This next bit of advice flies in the face of everything we've just said, but life, love and online dating are all contrary beasts, so please bear with us. If, on your travels through the site, you come across someone who purports to be looking for everything that you aren't but you still think they seem rather lovely, then get in touch with them. Letting your heart rule your head and following your instinct is often the best way to do things so it would be a shame to pass a profile by simply because they're looking for a bit of a laugh and you're looking for something long term. Being clear about what you're looking for is brilliant, but don't let it make you so inflexible that you pass up what could be great opportunities.
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