Everyone joins MSF because they'd like to find someone who floats their boat but part of the game is going on dates with people who don't turn out to be quite right for you. Unless you're one of those lucky few who falls for the first person they meet up with (and it does happen) you'll go on a few dates with people who don't even get you near the water park.
If you don't feel an attraction between you and you don't want to see them again, how can you let them down gently? Firstly, give yourself a chance for an easy exit. Arrange to meet for a cup of coffee or a quick drink and let your date know beforehand that you'll need to leave after an hour. That way you give yourself plenty of time to size up the chemistry but don't have to sit through an awkward, lengthy evening if there isn't any.
If you don't think it's a runner, be honest about it. Don't leg it whilst they're in the loo, don't tell them you have to rush off because you think you've left the iron on and don't pretend you really like them, agree to meet again and forever after ignore their phone calls.
Simply say something like 'I don't know how you're feeling but I don't see a second date for us'. Hopefully they will have picked up on the general vibe of the date and will have anticipated this.
If you don't feel you can tell them this face to face then do them the courtesy of letting them know afterwards. Drop them a mail or give them a ring and explain the situation. And keep it light - it's only a date after all, you aren't ditching them at the altar.
A light-hearted approach is essential to the whole date. Apart from making you seem more desirable anyway it'll take the pressure off of both of you. Try not to invest too much in a first meeting, even if there seems to be a spark in messages and phone conversations beforehand. The less you invest, the easier it will be if it doesn't work out and the more exciting it will be if it does.
What are your top tips? Had any experiences you would like to share? Agree or disagree?
