MySingleFriend blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2014 Success Story: Siobhan & Graham Part 2 You may remember our lovely couple Graham &amp; Siobhan, who met on the site earlier this year. (If you don't remember, <a href="" target="_blank">read Part 1</a>) After a whirlwind romance they planned a trip to New York together at the end of November. Graham got back in touch to tell us what an amazing time they had in New York and we can’t quite believe what came next!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=";S3.png" style="width: 400px; height: 296px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> <br /> “We had a great time in NYC...<br /> <br /> I had planned to ask Siobhan to marry me at the top of the Mandarin Oriental in the restaurant...suited and booted; with views of the NY skyline but as has been the way in our relationship ...fate kicked in...<br /> <br /> We were shopping on 5th Avenue and decided to stop for a drink about 7.00 and some food in an Irish bar... (don’t forget Siobhan is Irish ...a former Miss Ireland no less)<br /> <br /> As we stepped in and up to the bar ....two slightly drunken girls from London said...<br /> <br /> "Cor ...look at these two... they seem very much loved up!"<br /> <br /> A few laughs and banter on from that point ....and one of them said..<br /> <br /> 'Well haven’t you got a ring?"<br /> <br /> "Are you going to propose?"<br /> <br /> So... without further debate...<br /> <br /> I did, to the cheers of the whole bar.... It was unplanned, off the cuff and perfect.<br /> <br /> Woohoo... and she said yes!”<br /> <br /> Congratulations to you both! You have a truly amazing story and we couldn’t be happier for the both of you!&nbsp;Have an amazing Christmas!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;;member?&nbsp;<a href="">Join now for free!</a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<strong><a href=""></a></strong>&nbsp;<br /> Fri, 19 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 Sarah Beeny's festive dating tips There’s something about Christmas time that makes it not like any other time of the year. There’s carol singers on random street corners, Christmas lights line the streets, and best of all mulled wine and mince pies are in endless supply. &nbsp;The cold weather makes it pretty tempting to stay tucked up indoors, but if you’re single Christmas time is also a great time for dating. We know this time of year gets singletons in the mood for dating so we’ve put together a few tips on how to make the most of the festivities...<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 400px; height: 249px; margin-left: 170px; margin-right: 170px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Sarah Beeny’s tips on how to navigate the festive dating season:</strong><br /> <br /> <strong>Dress well</strong><br /> <br /> In this cold weather it’s easy to hide under a woolly jumper and parka coat but putting a little effort into your style won’t go unnoticed.<br /> Every year the Christmas jumper debate always splits opinion. We love them here at MSF... they show you don’t take yourself too seriously and can laugh at yourself, but as with most things there’s a time and a place for them.<br /> <br /> <strong>Don’t be tempted to stay in</strong><br /> <br /> After work when you’re tired and its cold outside, the only thing on your mind will be going home and staying warm. To avoid being sat home alone watching a Christmas film for the hundredth time, RSVP to as many Christmas party invitations as you can, make an effort to mingle and talk to new people. Drinks parties are a great place to meet people you wouldn’t normally and expand your circle, so make sure you’re not hiding away in the corner or lingering by the buffet the whole evening – be approachable.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 400px; height: 267px; margin-left: 170px; margin-right: 170px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Be proactive </strong><br /> <br /> If you do decide to stay at home, why not update your dating profile? &nbsp;Add some new pictures or re-write your descriptions with things you’ve been up to recently. When other users read your profile they’ll know you’re actively using the site and notice your new pictures.<br /> We’re running a Happy Hour promotion on the site in the lead up to Christmas, making all communication on the site free between the hours of 6pm-8pm. Make the most of free communication and get to know some of your fellow MSFers, why not set up a Christmassy drink with someone you fancy? Don’t just wait around expecting others to message you first, be proactive.<br /> <br /> <strong>Make the most of the festive activities that pop up in December</strong><br /> <br /> Hopefully you’ll have some time off work near the end of the year, so check out what’s going on in your local area and visit the Christmas markets. Attend the local carol service or your local Christmas fair – it’s a great way to meet people in your neighbourhood.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 400px; height: 283px; margin-left: 170px; margin-right: 170px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Don’t forget your Christmas party etiquette</strong><br /> <br /> Christmas parties are a great way to get to know your colleagues, just make sure you don’t get to know them a little too well and that you can still look them in the eye the next morning in the office. You don’t want to end up the butt of the office joke for the next year!<br /> <br /> <strong>Keep a look out for some mistletoe</strong><br /> <br /> Lots of hopefuls will be looking for a kiss under the mistletoe this festive season, so if you’re walking through a doorway with someone you fancy, you know what to do...<br /> <br /> Last but not least...keep count of your mulled wines as they have a tendency to sneak up on you and can have you feeling a little merrier than you had intended!<br /> <br /> Have a very merry Christmas!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> Wed, 17 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 The MySingleFriend app has arrived! MySingleFriend has always been all about involving your friends in your dating experience because we know that dating is more fun with friends - now through the app it couldn’t be easier or more fun!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=" App Screenshots iphone 5 v1_1_psd(1).png" style="width: 300px; height: 520px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; float: left;" /><img alt="" src=" App Screenshots iphone 5 v1_5_psd.png" style="width: 300px; height: 520px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; float: right;" /><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Here’s a little run down of how the app works and how to make the most of its’ features:<br /> <br /> <strong>As a single...</strong><br /> <br /> As a single looking to date on the app, you can browse singles by easily swiping through profiles and when one catches your eye you simply tap through to their profile. From there you can let them know you’re interested by liking their profile, message them or share the profile with your friends.<br /> <br /> You can invite multiple friends to be your wingmen and be each other’s matchmakers. These wingmen will write your description for you. Having multiple friends means you can choose between descriptions and quickfire answers that different friends have completed for you.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> Updating your profile is a piece of cake; you can upload pictures from your camera roll or directly from Facebook, request new descriptions and switch between friends answers instantly.<br /> <br /> <strong>As a wingman...</strong><br /> <br /> <em>Recommend </em><br /> <br /> Do you have a friend who you can’t believe is single and needs that extra little push in the right direction?&nbsp; Now through the app, you can simply sign up as a wingman and send them recommendations of who they should be dating! &nbsp;You can share profiles through the app or externally through SMS, Whatsapp, email or Facebook. We couldn’t be making it any easier for you to set your friends up!<br /> <em>Veto function </em><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Does one of your friends keep dating a different version of the same guy? Or do you have a friend that only dates blondes but really needs to branch out? As a wingman on the app you gain the power of veto. You have the power to veto those singles you think your friend shouldn’t be dating. You can save them from making the same dating mistakes and recommend them someone who is better suited instead. Of course it’s ultimately your friends’ decision who they do or don’t date, but you can point them in the right direction...(all vetoes and recommendations are private between the single and the wingman).<br /> &nbsp;<br /> MySingleFriend is taking matchmaking to a whole new level by allowing wingmen to matchmake multiple friends. You can browse through our member base and send vetoes/ recommendations of those that catch your eye or you can do a more advanced search with a particular friends’ preferences in mind.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> We all want our friends to like who we are dating, veto is a great way to red flagging anyone you think they shouldn’t be dating and save friends from their own bad taste.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=" App Screenshots iphone 5 v1_3_psd.png" style="width: 300px; height: 520px; float: left; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px;" /><img alt="" src=" App Screenshots iphone 5 v1_4_psd.png" style="width: 300px; height: 520px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; float: right;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <div style="text-align: center;"> With a little help from your wingmen, we’ll find you your ideal date on MySingleFriend!</div> <br /> Download the app now for free in the iTunes App Store and share it with your friends so you can start dating or matchmaking!<br /> <br /> Let us know how you get on...<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;;member?&nbsp;<a href="">Join now for free!</a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<strong><a href=""></a></strong>&nbsp;<br /> Mon, 15 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: David Only ten days to go til Christmas! The festive season is well under way and the perfect time to mingle and meet new people, with 74% of MSFers saying the festive season gets them in the mood for dating...<br /> <br /> This week’s profile of the week is a chocolate conoisseur, who has lived in Sweden (twice!) and has built an igloo in the polar circle!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 300px; height: 319px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /><br /> <br /> Here’s what his friend Rebecca would like you to know about her friend David:<br /> <br /> <em>“Well, what can I say, David is my super cool bud. He always manages to make me laugh at his random jokes, even on an awful day, when I would like to scream, he can actually make me smile!<br /> <br /> He is a keen chef and has often helped me on my dates with his great recipes and advice, which I think is super cool for a guy to be an accomplished chef whilst I cannot even cook a grape and he even manages to successfully advise me, the most useless cook in the world! And he is also a chocolate connoisseur which is super handy for random chocolate choices that are amazingly yummy.<br /> <br /> Oh and he is a lawyer, and whilst people often think UGH lawyers, the upside is that David is super bright and could probably have a conversation with a dead melon, so no worries on awkward silences ladies, he can chat about just anything and at least appears to know something about what he is saying, although I'm sure on the odd occasion he just makes it up!<br /> <br /> Which brings me on to his ski-ing abilities......apparently he can ski, and once told me a hilarious story about a very dodgy ski-ing adventure where he actually managed to pretend he could ski, right up until the moment his ski-ing instructor directed him to leap off down a 1000 ft decline having never been ski-ing a day in his life before, mad or brave, not sure which!<br /> <br /> And finally this crazy dude runs like a maniac up tall mountains and what-not whilst leaping over obstacles, but, I should impress he is not one of those crazed fitness fanatics as he can happily sit down, watch a movie and chill with his friends too :)&nbsp;<br /> <br /> He is a catch people so hurry up!”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 400px; height: 599px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /></em><br /> <br /> If you’d like to know more about David, <a href="" target="_blank">check out his full profile here</a>.<br /> <br /> Have a great week!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;;member?&nbsp;<a href="">Join now for free!</a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<strong><a href=""></a></strong>&nbsp;<br /> Mon, 15 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: Sofia Happy Monday MSFers! This week’s profile needs no introduction at all, her friend Tessa has done a great job we couldn’t help but share...<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 246px; height: 248px; margin-left: 240px; margin-right: 240px;" /> <div style="text-align: center;"> <br /> <em>I'm delighted to present this poem "Ode to Sofia":</em><br /> <br /> <em>“Please, let’s welcome my friend Sofia,<br /> she is new to this website here!<br /> I've decided to do the introducing,<br /> so a poem is what I am producing.<br /> About her, of course, not about me<br /> and mainly focused on how she will be<br /> A cracking girl to get to know.<br /> One who has always gone with the flow.<br /> (sorry about that I'm trying to be 'hip<br /> I will try not to make a habit of it)!<br /> <br /> So what can I tell you about my pal?<br /> she is a kind and caring and nutty gal,<br /> she's unintentionally funny and really quite tall,<br /> she has a 'tripping' habit, which makes her fall<br /> and makes you laugh a hell-of-a-lot!<br /> (Even though you know you should not)<br /> Lucky for you, she can laugh at herself.<br /> An important quality in one-self.<br /> So she will join in with all the laughter<br /> but make a conscious effort from thereafter,<br /> to start to tread with a bit more care,<br /> So she doesn't fall on her derrière....... again.<br /> <br /> Apologies, I’m getting a tad side-tracked,<br /> When I should be focusing on the facts<br /> such as: how she is a fantastic friend,<br /> and loyal until the bitter end!<br /> With a massive grin showing perfect teeth,<br /> and definitely under size 10 feet,<br /> a lock of blonde hair and cracking</em>&nbsp;tits<em>,</em><br /> <em>you would be made to give her a miss!<br /> So invite her in to your little world,<br /> and see what things could possibly unfold.<br /> Don't be a stranger and don’t be shy,<br /> and don’t let this moment pass you by,<br /> drop a small note to Dr Sofia,<br /> Your life could improve starting right here!”</em></div> <br /> <em><img alt="" src="" style="width: 400px; height: 455px; margin-left: 160px; margin-right: 160px;" /></em><br /> <br /> If you’d like to know more about Sofia, <a href="" target="_blank">click here</a> to read her full profile!<br /> <br /> If you'd like to nominate someone for profile of the week, get in touch at <a href=""></a> with their name a few reasons why and we’ll check out their profile!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;;member?&nbsp;<a href="">Join now for free!</a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<strong><a href=""></a></strong>&nbsp;<br /> Mon, 08 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 How to Build Selfie Esteem & Photo Confidence We live in a world where social media demands we regularly post selfies and photos so for anyone that’s camera trigger happy, you’re probably having a blast! Celebrities have taken selfies by storm to build their brand and while they’ve been playing around with filters, it makes the rest of us feel quite insecure about our own social appearance.&nbsp;&nbsp;It’s easy to rock an Instagram shot using filters but when it comes to taking photos for your My Single Friend profile, you really want to make sure your snaps are as honest as possible.&nbsp;&nbsp;It’s all about showing off your best assets and hoping your future mate will adore you for your natural self.<br /> <br /> On the other hand, disliking your unfiltered photos can develop low self morale based on your body or facial complexes. This low confidence problem can be easily avoided with a few tricks I like to call building ‘selfie esteem.’&nbsp;&nbsp;My pointers will give you the foundation in mastering the art of creating amazing profile photos that will guarantee eyeballs and possibly…that first date.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Follow the Light:</strong><br /> <br /> Taking a photo in even light can shave five years off your face, instantly. Good, natural light is now your new BFF! Stand with your back against a window when you take your selfie as this will reduce blemishes and make your skin appear smoother.&nbsp;&nbsp;Also face head on to the camera as this will even your skin tone and blast away any pesky wrinkles and eye shadows. Your final shot will look like you had a mini face lift.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> A great example using natural light I love is&nbsp;Lea Michelle. With the light behind her, her complexion looks incredible, right?<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=" Michelle(2).JPG" style="width: 300px; height: 321px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Keep It Arms Length:</strong><br /> <br /> If you’re using a timer camera app for a full or half body shot, don’t hold your arms right by your sides. Most people, especially women, don’t like their arms and by squishing them against your sides, they’ll look bigger.&nbsp;&nbsp;Simply place one hand on your hip and the other about an inch away from your body. This will make you look slimmer and accentuate your body. Check this photo of&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;Jessica Alba who’s mastered the ‘arm’ art at another&nbsp;celebrity appearance.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=" Alba2 (1).JPG" style="width: 300px; height: 506px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /><br /> <br /> If you’re using a timer camera app for a full or half body shot, don’t hold your arms right by your sides. Most people, especially women, don’t like their arms and by squishing them against your sides theyll look bigger. Simply place one hand on your hip and the other about an inch away from your body. This will make you look slimmer and accentuate your body. Check this photo of Jessica Alba who’s mastered the arm art at a celebrity appearance.&nbsp; &nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Keep It Streamlined:</strong><br /> <br /> If you’re body conscious and want to appear slimmer, for selfies you need to avoid looking down at the camera. This will create double chins which is not flattering. For half or full body photos, just shift the weight onto your front foot and bend your back leg slightly. Your posture will automatically adjust so your body is slightly angled and not facing square on. It’ll also alter your shoulders as they’re your widest point and you want to avoid looking bulky.<br /> <br /> See how&nbsp;Beyonce and Rihanna angle their bodies as an example and their front foot position.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=" &amp; Rihanna.JPG" style="width: 300px; height: 363px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Helping Hands:</strong><br /> <br /> Try posing for a few photos and experiment using your hands to magnify your best assets. If you’ve incredible eyes, rest one hand against your cheek with fingers facing upwards and this will draw attention to your best feature. Maybe you’re not keen on your stomach; you can lean on an angle with one hand resting on your hip, touching your stomach. This will give the appearance of a flatter tummy.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> So the next time you’re checking out My Single Friend profile photos and snooping around at celebrity Instagram profiles, start to mirror copy their same poses. You may be surprised at how confident you become with the results and it’ll do wonders for your self esteem.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 250px; height: 372px; float: left; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px;" />This post was written by guest author,&nbsp;Kate Branch, a Sydney local and author of &nbsp;<a href=";qid=1405538462&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=how%20to%20look%20good%20in%20photos" target="_blank">How To Look Good In Photos</a><br /> <br /> Kate Branch has a Major in Photography, a successful photography business, and Masters in Art Therapy. Kate’s book provides logical tips for accentuating facial expressions, posture, how to position hands and body angles so the photos are a gem, first time around. Ironically, the book has very little to do with photography, yet more about the person(s) in front of the camera to build confidence and self esteem in a world where selfies and social postings of photos are now the norm.<br /> <br /> Check out more of <a href="" target="_blank">Kate’s&nbsp;tips and tricks on YouTube</a><br /> <br /> <div> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> MSF X</div> Fri, 05 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 Happy Hour Free Messaging! MySingleFriend are kicking off the festive season by bringing you <strong>Happy Hour Free Messaging</strong>!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=" Happy Hour Emaill Banner(1).jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 254px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> <br /> We know that it’s cold and depressingly dark outside so we’re giving you a little something to look forward to each evening. On weekdays, between our happy hours 6-8pm, messaging on the site will be completely free all the way up til Christmas Eve.<br /> <br /> No plans for the evening? Sign in to <a href="">MySingleFriend</a> and get chatting... we’re challenging you to get a date by 8!<br /> <br /> This is how it’s all going to work:<br /> <br /> At 6pm your inbox will open and you will be able to send and receive messages on the site for free until 8pm! Our MSF Happy Hours will run <u>every Monday -Friday </u>up <u>until the 24<sup>th</sup> December. </u><br /> <br /> We know that Rome wasn’t built in a day, so for those of you that need a little more time and want to keep on chatting after 8pm we’re offering you 25% of all subscription packages after our happy hours end...<br /> <br /> Happy messaging...Can you get a date by 8?!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"></strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><a href="" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;" target="_blank"></a></strong> Tue, 02 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: Nikki <div> Pinch, punch, first of the month! It’s the first day of the last month of the year -meaning we’ve got 30 days make 2014 count and finish the year on a high note. Are you up for the challenge?<br /> &nbsp;</div> <div> Our newest profile of the week Nikki is! She loves to make the most of any opportunity that comes her way; she is a lover of brunch, open fires, long walks, holidays, food, wine, hip hop...&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 300px; height: 401px; margin-left: 200px; margin-right: 200px;" /><br /> &nbsp;</div> <div> Here’s what else Rebecca had to say about Nikki:<br /> &nbsp;</div> <div> “There are so many things I can tell you about my awesome friend Nikki... She's fun loving, smart, stunning, loyal, determined, hilarious, generous and has a heart if gold. Whilst of these things are 110% true; it's still what most people describe their loved ones as. So instead I'm going to tell you about all of the things that make her so unique and stand out from all the other great women out there.&nbsp;</div> <div> &nbsp;</div> <div> She's the type of friend who won't just bail you out if jail, she's in there with you ready to back hand the person that tries to steal your cigarettes. You can take her to the classiest bar or dingiest bar, she won't care and is such a social butterfly that my friends like her more than they like me.</div> <div> &nbsp;</div> <div> Nikki has an infectious laughter and dry sense of humour that ensures there is never a dull moment. She will dance the night away and finish the evening with an impromptu skinny dip. Nikki will make you try every cocktail on the cocktail menu and ensure you sit up all night so you don't miss the most amazing sunrise.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 300px; height: 386px; margin-left: 200px; margin-right: 200px;" /></div> <div> &nbsp;</div> <div> Nikki loves life, it's adventures and the challenges that come with it. She has travelled the world, tested her limits and strives to learn more daily and enjoy every new experience.</div> <div> &nbsp;</div> <div> She stands out in a crowd and although I could give you all the reasons why, I don't need to because when you meet her you will know. You'll also wish you met her sooner, because you'll realize you have missed out on some of the best moments of your life- that I can guarantee you.”<br /> &nbsp;</div> <div> If you like the sound of what you’ve read so far <a href="" target="_blank">click here to read her full profile</a>. Nikki is looking for someone to explore London with so if you’re equally adventurous, get in touch!<br /> &nbsp;</div> <div> Have a great week!&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;</div> <div> MSF X</div> <div> &nbsp;</div> Mon, 01 Dec 2014 00:00:00 +0100 The love scientist’s guide to dating Do you know the feeling?&nbsp; The feeling you get when you’ve gone out with someone you really felt a connection with, only to wonder whether they felt the same? Luckily science has some tips to improve your dating skills and make sure that you’re never left wondering…<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 400px; height: 264px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Here’s how to win big at dating:<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong><em>Be Thoughtful</em></strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Showing thoughtfulness conveys the idea that you’ve been paying attention to the other person, and what they’d like.&nbsp; It’s a huge turn-on, especially for women, since science shows we’re assessing guys’ willingness to commit and thoughtfulness is a top indicator of that.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> So if they like art, inviting them to an exhibition followed by a drink is perfect; but if attending cultural events sound like torture to them, extend an invitation for something that’s a little more up their street.&nbsp; Show them that you’ve been paying attention by picking up on the little things they’ve said.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong><em>Be Fun</em></strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Nobody sorts socks on the first date, for good reason. &nbsp;We tend to connect people to the events around them, unconsciously deciding that if the surroundings are fun, you’re fun, and if the surroundings are dull, you’re dull.&nbsp; It may not be fair, but it’s a basic aspect of human cognition.&nbsp; &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> However…if you yourself are fun and you have chemistry, the venue and choice of activity might not matter much at all.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong><em>Be Exciting</em></strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Similarly, most people confuse an exciting environment with excitement about you.&nbsp; We notice our pounding hearts and (mis)judge that the person nearby must be the cause of our increased heart rates.&nbsp; In one famous experiment, men even confused fear for infatuation~ men who crossed a shaky suspension bridge were twice as likely to call the woman waiting for them at the other end as opposed to men who had crossed a stable concrete foot bridge.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> What does this mean for you?&nbsp; As long as it’s sensitive to your partner’s desires, visiting theme parks, seeing action/adventure movies, or going hiking, biking, or skating can all be mood-enhancing dates.&nbsp;Get your heart-rate going!<br /> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong><em>Be Positive</em></strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Many studies have shown that at a core level, similarity attracts. Highly similar pairs are the most likely not only to keep dating, but to fall in love, marry, and stay happily married for a lifetime…so be yourself.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> If you’re upbeat, you’ll give off positive energy and people will want to be around you. Try not to criticize, especially on the first few dates and be complimentary. If you like the person you’re out with, say so.&nbsp; Honest appreciation is attractive.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong><em>Be Curious</em></strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Do we need science to tell us that people like to be listened to and heard; that conversation is a dialogue; and that the fastest way to appear fascinating is to be interested in others?&nbsp;&nbsp; I hope not.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> But some folks treat early dates as if they were charged with seeing how much they could talk about themselves:<br /> <em>“.…it was a monologue, and not an interesting one.&nbsp; I waited to see how long it would take before he asked a question about me.&nbsp; It never happened.”&nbsp;</em><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Listening well lets you screen carefully for who you want, and who you don’t and draws attention to any red flags early on in the relationship.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong><em>Be Good</em></strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Worldwide, there’s a profile for the perfect catch~the type of person men and women alike say they want, and the sort they actually choose for a mate: kind, loving, loyal, and about as intelligent as they are.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> Decades of research show that <em>nice guys and girls finish first, not last</em>.&nbsp; Research also shows that people who are kind and respectful are not only more desirable dates; they wind up having better marriages.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> So despite all the emphasis men place on a partner’s youth and beauty, and despite all the stress women place on a prospect’s wealth and education, we are more than busts and bottom lines.&nbsp;<em>Who you are inside matters</em>.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp; <div style="text-align: center;"> Show your worthy character.&nbsp;</div> &nbsp; <div style="text-align: center;"> Dating is ultimately about connection. &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;</div> <div> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 400px; height: 264px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /></div> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> This post was written by Duana C. Welch, Ph.D.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> Duana C. Welch, Ph.D., is the author of <a href="">Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do</a>, releasing on January 7, 2015.&nbsp; You can get a free chapter and see more at <a href=""></a><br /> <br /> <div> <a href=""><img alt="" src="" style="width: 300px; height: 450px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; float: right;" /></a></div> <div> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 300px; height: 450px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; float: left;" /></div> Fri, 28 Nov 2014 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: Charlie Happy Monday MSFers!<br /> <br /> Meet Charlie, our newest profile of the week! His approach to writing his introduction was a little bit different and we loved reading it. Instead of writing the usual introduction, Charlie wrote 8 random facts about himself, each helping us to get to know him a little better...<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 300px; height: 334px; margin-left: 200px; margin-right: 200px;" /><br /> <ul> <li> <em>I have never had a cup of tea in my life (people really can't get their head round that)</em></li> </ul> <ul> <li> <em>I am embarrassingly scared of spiders</em></li> </ul> <ul> <li> <em>&nbsp;I have a irrational hatred for tinned tuna</em></li> </ul> <ul> <li> <em>I have carried a wooden duck called Graham round the world</em></li> </ul> <ul> <li> <em>I recently spent £92 having mine and my best mates beards professionally groomed (We didn't see the price before we bought the pampering, but I left feeling $999,908)</em></li> </ul> <ul> <li> <em>I've been a best man twice and I'm doing it again for the third time next year</em></li> </ul> <ul> <li> <em>When I was younger, I wanted to be a train when I grew up (not driver - the actual mode of transport)</em></li> </ul> <ul> <li> <em>I was on heart radio singing last week (I have the recording...)</em></li> </ul> Although he hasn’t (to our knowledge) grown up to fulfil his childhood dream, his brother George still rates him pretty’s what he had to say about him:<br /> <br /> <em>&nbsp;“I first met Charlie in 1986, when my parents introduced me to my new baby brother. At first I was skeptical, but I have to admit I have warmed to him over the subsequent 28 years.&nbsp;</em><br /> &nbsp;<br /> <em>MSF suggests putting in a funny anecdote here, but I am sure Charlie could better explain the subtleties of dalliance with creative dance around the coffee table in our living room as a 5 year old, so I'll leave that to him.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> I count myself incredibly lucky to have Charlie for a brother, and more so as my best friend. It may sound trite, but he is genuinely the funniest, kindest person you could hope to meet, and I very much hope you do”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="" style="width: 300px; height: 300px; margin-left: 200px; margin-right: 200px;" /></em><br /> <br /> Why not check out <a href="" target="_blank">Charlie’s full profile here</a> and if you like what you see perhaps you could entice him to try his first cup of tea with you?<br /> <br /> We love Charlie’s approach of sharing interesting and odd facts about yourself. It helps you stand out and are great conversation starters for people who are looking to message you...why not try thinking of a few of your own and adding them to your profile?<br /> <br /> Good luck &amp; have a great week!<br /> <br /> MSF X&nbsp;<br /> Mon, 24 Nov 2014 00:00:00 +0100 Success Story: Siobhan & Graham We received another lovely story to share with you this week. Our couple met on the site earlier this year and have been very much together ever since!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=";S2.png" style="width: 400px; height: 253px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Here’s what Siobhan said when she wrote to us...<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <em>“We met on MSF in February 2014. We wrote to each other for a number of weeks and got to know each other in an almost love letter old fashioned way before we finally met! &nbsp;Graham drove to Norwich and we had lunch at a lovely restaurant in Norwich. We chatted for hours and the restaurant was nearly closing before we had even ordered our food! Graham drove back to London after our meal and the rest is history! We are off to New York in a couple of weeks time and are looking forward to spending our first Christmas together at my home in Norfolk. We will be joined by my two gorgeous sons Daniel and Benjamin.&nbsp; We are excited about the future and looking forward to a long happy life together.”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src=";S4.png" style="width: 400px; height: 407px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /></em><br /> <br /> Have a great time in New York Graham and Siobhan!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> Fri, 21 Nov 2014 00:00:00 +0100