MySingleFriend blog http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2015 3 great questions to ask on date... http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/3-great-questions-to-ask-on-date http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/3-great-questions-to-ask-on-date When you're on a first or second date, it's vital to have a few go-to questions that a) keep the conversation flowing, and b) give you a good idea of what kind of person your date is and whether they're going to be a match in the long run.<br /> Many of the questions you choose to ask will depend on what's important to you as an<em> individual</em>, but I've picked out 3 questions which are useful for <em>anybody</em> to ask and will give you a really good insight into your date.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/flirty-first-date-2(1).jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 267px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>1. Where do you see yourself in 3 years?</strong><br /> <br /> This is an important question because it will give you an idea of whether you and your date's long term goals match or complement each other. For example, if you're looking for a serious relationship that leads to children and marriage and these things do not enter the 3 year radar of the person answering the question you might have to question the long term feasibility of any future relationship. Or, if your date mentions moving to another country in the next couple of years and this is something that you definitely would not consider, then again, there's a red flag waving that suggests you might not be right for each other <em>in the long-term</em>. It all comes down to how serious a relationship you're after and what your own 3 year plan is.<br /> This question also gives you a good insight into their ambitions, what they are working towards and <em>what's most important to them</em>. There might be some aspects of their lifestyle that appealed to you, but actually that might be something that is going to change in the near future. For instance, if it was important to you to have someone that had a 9-5 job but they were leaving it to pursue a job that had them spending large amounts of time away from home, would you be happy?<br /> <br /> Again, it comes down to you, your needs and the type of person you want in your future.<br /> <br /> <strong>2. If you could invite any famous person in the world to dinner, who would you invite?</strong><br /> <br /> This is a great question because you will get a very good idea of your date's interests and intelligence levels and maybe get an indication of the different shades of their personality too.&nbsp; For example, if they come across as very serious but choose a comedian then you'll know your date has a fun laid-back side as well that's just waiting to come out.<br /> Also, hearing the reasons why they chose that person will lead to lots of great conversation and get under the layers of your date. You might even ask them what questions they would ask their dinner guest or what they would cook for their guests which will tell you even more about the type of person you're with. This is a question that will definitely keep the&nbsp; conversation going for quite a while.<br /> <br /> <strong>3. What kind of activities do you think are best enjoyed with a partner (apart from the obvious)?</strong><br /> <br /> Adding the words (apart from the obvious) will make you both smile, and that's always good! Moreover, this will give you a good idea of what's in store for potential future dates. It's important to have at least 2 activities with a future partner that you both enjoy doing equally, because you don't want to reduce the time you spend in your hobbies because your partner doesn't like them as this may cause friction later on.<br /> Also, there will be lots of things that people might not spend a lot of time doing <em>now</em>, but really want to in the future, they just prefer doing certain things with a partner. For example, travel, there are many people that love to travel but don't like going on holiday by themselves and don't have single friends to go on holiday with. Or, they might like visiting museums but their friends don't, so they would like the opportunity to do it with a partner.<br /> Compare this question to simply or only asking, 'What do you do in your spare time?' Your date will only mention things they do as a single person, which you may or may not be interested in, but ask the question I've suggested and you'll get a good idea of activities you'll be able to participate in together as well.<br /> <br /> Try these questions out on your next date and see how much more you discover!<br /> <br /> This post was written by Jenah Parmar.<br /> <br /> <hr /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/Jenah Parmar small(1).jpg" style="width: 170px; height: 243px; float: right;" />Jenah Parmar is a Life Coach and Dating Coach that helps single people <strong><em>get the life they really want!</em></strong> &nbsp;<br /> <br /> She specialises in coaching marriage-minded singles find the type of <strong><em>relationship </em></strong><em>they really want</em>. She helps them discover where they have been going wrong and reveals to them the skills they need for future dating success. 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Meet Gemma, an ambitious and sporty physiotherapist who her friend Helen thinks is a great laugh and absolutely gorgeous. We agree Helen!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/gemma1(1).png" style="width: 247px; height: 247px; margin-left: 235px; margin-right: 235px;" /><br /> <br /> Here’s what else Helen had to say about her friend Gemma:<br /> <br /> <em>“Listen up guys because this gorgeous lady won't be on here very long!</em><br /> <br /> <em>As you can see from the pictures, Gemma is absolutely stunning, but that's just the start...<br /> <br /> She's an upbeat girl who's got an infectious outlook on life. Gemma is not one to turn opportunities down, such as travelling to the other side of the world to meet a friend, or simply enjoying a bike ride around Richmond park. You may also even have seen her face in the Olympic opening ceremony which she danced in, and if you're lucky enough to meet her then you may get to hear some of the tales from her many adventures!&nbsp;<br /> <br /> Friends are important to Gemma and luckily for me, I can always rely on her for a great night out or a chilled night in. Gemma has an enviable quality of being both sexy and smart. She's a motivated and ambitious person with a great sense of humour and can really give as good as she gets.<br /> <br /> ...If you like what you hear and think you can match up to her qualities, then why not take her out on a date? She deserves a great guy!”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/gemma3.png" style="width: 400px; height: 545px; margin-left: 175px; margin-right: 175px;" /></em><br /> <br /> If you like what you see (and read) check out <a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/dwhsbydwhsir/admin/yes" target="_blank">Gemma’s full profile here</a>&nbsp;and get in touch!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> Tue, 05 May 2015 00:00:00 +0100 ‘A Funny Kind Of Love’ – It’s competition time! http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/competitions/a-funny-kind-of-love--its-competition-time http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/competitions/a-funny-kind-of-love--its-competition-time We’ve teamed up with Kaleidoscope Entertainment to celebrate the release of&nbsp;<strong>A Funny Kind of Love </strong>which will be in cinemas from <strong>8<sup>th</sup> May</strong>!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/AFunnyKindOfLove_QuadForWeb_72dpi_RGB.jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 301px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> <br /> Titled ‘The Little Death’ internationally, <strong>A Funny Kind of Love </strong>enjoyed success at last year’s London Film Festival, The International Toronto Film Festival and was screened at SXSW in March.<br /> The film follows five suburban couples who navigate their way through the bedroom as sexual fetishes, from the run-of-the-mill to the hilariously obscure, push their relationships to new boundaries.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> For Maeve and Paul, toes are just the foothold of their desires, while next door neighbours Eveie and Dan are all dressed up, but will role play expose material flaws which they can’t pretend away? Across the road, Rowena and Rich’s intimate antics bring them close to tears, while just around the corner, Phil begins an affair with his own wife Maureen, but without her realising it...An outrageous romantic comedy exploring the secrets, desires, qualms and kinks of sex, it really is A Funny Kind of Love.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp; <div style="text-align: center;"> <strong>Watch the trailer <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o86cVyD0rqs " target="_blank">HERE</a></strong></div> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/AFKOL4.jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 267px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> <em><strong>Competition time! </strong></em><br /> <br /> We’ve got an amazing DVD bundle to give away to one lucky winner! The DVD bundle includes titles such as:<br /> &nbsp;<br /> ·&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Much Ado About Nothing<br /> ·&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Forget Me Not<br /> ·&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; The English Teacher<br /> ·&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Not Another Happy Ending<br /> ·&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Reuniting the Rubins<br /> ·&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Safety Not Guaranteed<br /> &nbsp;<br /> To win you just have the answer the following question correctly:<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>When is the UK release date of A Funny Kind of Love?</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> A) &nbsp; 8<span style="font-size: 10px;">th</span>&nbsp;May<br /> B) &nbsp; 8<sup>th</sup> June<br /> C) &nbsp; 8<sup>th</sup> July<br /> <br /> <br /> To enter all you need to do is email us at <a href="mailto:press@mysinglefriend.com">press@mysinglefriend.com</a> with the <u>correct answer </u>and your <u>full name</u>.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <em>The competition closes on</em>&nbsp;<em><strong>Wednesday 27th</strong></em>&nbsp;<em><strong>May</strong></em>&nbsp;<em>at 09.00am and the winner will be selected at random, and contacted within 3 working days to arrange delivery of the prize. All entrants consent to having their details shared with Zero Degrees West. There is one prize to giveaway; the bundle of DVD’s will all go to one winner.&nbsp;</em><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Good luck everyone!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;mysinglefriend.com&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php">Join now for free!</a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a>&nbsp;<br /> Wed, 29 Apr 2015 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: Marcus http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-marcus http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-marcus This week we’re introducing you to Marcus; it’s safe to say his sister knows him very well and did a pretty good of writing his description. Marcus is confident, creative, intelligent and loves penguins!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/marcus1.png" style="width: 300px; height: 298px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /><br /> <br /> Here’s what his sister thought you should know about Marcus:<br /> <br /> <em>“When Marcus was 14, he fell for a beautiful girl called Anna who had a horse. She was 16 and duly spurned his advances, so every day he cleaned out her stables at 5am, until she finally kissed him. She became his first girlfriend! ha-ha! xx. Sorry to embarrass you dear brother, but for me it's always summed him up - Not easily deterred, when he wants something he'll go to ridiculous lengths to get it, but as you can see, at the end of the day he's just a romantic soul.<br /> <br /> Predictably as an Italian, he's a sucker for a gorgeous girl, but beware, you better back it up - he doesn't suffer fools, and beauty must be much more than skin deep. He tells me he respects sincerity, character and expression, but I know he loves a sexy girl, engaging conversation and good cooking (like mama used to make!).<br /> <br /> He used to spend his weekends on music stages all over the world interviewing famous stars and producing radio shows live to millions, but these days his loves are more personal - World music, literature, exercise, chewing the fat and people watching. He's discerning and infuriating, but it's because he's passionate and full of conviction. Oh and watch out for his mischievous humour - I still can't tell if he's being serious or not.<br /> <br /> It's fair to say he's complex - Happy to let others take the limelight but he's usually the one friends turn to when it matters. He's a strong man, and a cheeky little boy all in one... And devastatingly handsome but I would say that, he's my brother! Bit of a dreamer, he's thoughtful, bright, genuine and kind. Happy to spend a rainy weekend on the sofa watching good films, chatting philosophy or talking turkey under the stars, or having a new adventure abroad.<br /> <br /> He'll make the right girl feel like the only woman in the world if you push the right buttons. So push that button, you know who you are!”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/marcus2.png" style="width: 300px; height: 389px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /></em><br /> <br /> If you like what you’ve seen so far check out <a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/hshsdwdwjqhs/admin/yes" target="_blank">Marcus’s full profile here</a> for a list of ‘things he can’t resist’ and if you love penguins (or even if you don’t) why not get in touch by sending him a message?<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> Mon, 20 Apr 2015 00:00:00 +0100 5 Little Things That Are Hurting Your Dating http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-little-things-that-are-hurting-your-dating http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-little-things-that-are-hurting-your-dating We are taught a lot of things in school, from calculus to the history of ancient Egypt. We know who Albert Einstein is and we know about things such as the big bang, evolution and even modern art.<br /> However men and women are not taught one of the most important things that we need to know in order to ensure the survival of our entire species, we are not taught how to go about dating each other.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/firstdate1(1).jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 266px; margin-left: 170px; margin-right: 170px;" /><br /> <br /> Despite all the wonderful things we learn in life there is a massive knowledge gap when it comes to how to meet and attract people of the opposite sex. Some people are fortunate enough to pick it up naturally whilst others are left in the dark with a thousand and one questions about what they should do or say when they meet someone for the first time.<br /> <br /> Dating is tricky for both men and women, however traditionally there has been more of an onus on men to approach women to start up a conversation. For most men this can be an exhaustingly terrifying experience and the main reason being because they do not know what to do. If I were to ask you to stand up on a stage in front of a crowd thousand people and give a talk explaining the philosophical teachings of Aristotle, how confident would you be?<br /> <br /> Sure if you were a fan of his work and you have read a lot of his stuff, it wouldn’t be a problem for you at all, you could talk about his philosophy, where he grew up, how he lived his life, etc. However if you were wondering who or what an Aristotle is, you are going to be terrified of the idea of giving a talk about him to a large crowd. When it comes to breaking the ice with women, the same thing applies to men. If you’re a man and you haven’t approached or broken the ice with a lot of women in your life before, chances are you won’t feel confident in doing it.<br /> <br /> A lot of men go through life believing that they are unattractive men simply because they have never had any luck with women. I remember when I was going to nightclubs in my younger years, I was left wondering why I couldn’t get a girl interested in me. After a while I drew what seemed to be a logical conclusion and decided that I was just an unattractive guy. The truth of the matter was that I was just not trying and when I did try, I wasn’t doing a good job at it. Even if I did summon up the courage to talk to a girl, she would usually not be attracted to me and so after many experiences with the same result, you could not blame me for believing I was not the kind of guy women want. I didn’t know what I was doing wrong, I thought I was doing everything right. Fast forward 5 years later and I spent a hell of a lot of time researching interpersonal communication and the psychology of attraction as well as actively going out and meeting women. Through trial and error I learnt a lot of lessons but there is one important lesson I learnt.<br /> <br /> In a majority of cases, it is not that you are unattractive but instead it may be that you’re not taking notice of the little things you are doing that are hurting you when you are meeting women. For some men, making changes to these little things may change their results entirely with women. I have seen this countless times with men I have coached in the past. I have helped the tweak and fix the little things that hurt them when they interact with women and viola, suddenly women are giving out their numbers.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/firstdate2(1).jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 240px; margin-left: 170px; margin-right: 170px;" /><br /> <br /> I have compiled a short list of the top 5 common “little things” that guy’s do that hurt their interactions. They are so obvious that we don’t even think about how much they can hurt us, some of these I have been personally guilty of and others I have observed through guys I have coached.<br /> <br /> <strong>1. Bad Breath</strong><br /> <br /> If you were to ask 100 women what their number one turn off is when it comes to meeting men at a bar or on a date, bad breath would be up there in the top 3. It is also one of the most easily avoidable “little things”.<br /> This one goes both ways too, I am not sure about you but whenever I have come across someone who has had bad breath, all I can think about is how to get away from them.<br /> <br /> The moment a woman notices you have bad breath, is the moment she will no longer be focussed on what it is your saying but instead will be thinking about getting as far away from you and your breath as humanly possible.<br /> Also keep in mind that if you are planning on meeting women at a bar or even on a date, carry mints and avoid eating things like garlic or onions prior to meeting or on a date with a woman, especially if you’re expecting a goodnight kiss at the end.<br /> <br /> <br /> <strong>2. Bland and being too serious</strong><br /> <br /> Having a bland and emotionless face isn’t going to do you any favours when you are out at a bar, research shows that smiling makes you appear more approachable, appear friendlier and even appear more attractive.<br /> Smiling has also been shown to lift your mood, when your smiling you will feel happier. When you approach a woman or talk to her you should smile at her when you greet her as it will make your approach warmer and friendlier.<br /> It easier said than done when you are nervous wreck, nerves tend to also make guys more serious in interactions. Rather than engaging in a fun and playful interaction, they stick to logical boring and serious topics. Smiling will set a positive frame to the interaction and allows for an easy transition into playful and fun conversation. Humour is a good tool to counter those nerves, as a matter of fact, humour releases tension and makes us feel more comfortable, it also makes others feel more comfortable too and is a great way to build rapport.<br /> <br /> <strong>3. Lack of Contribution</strong><br /> <br /> Most people don’t want to hang out with someone who sucks all the fun and life out of the room. Rather than taking away value make sure you are contributing value. If you are meeting a woman be sure to add value to the interaction.<br /> I know it may be hard if you’re not used to meeting women but you should do your best to keep the interaction fun and interesting. The more fun and enjoyable the conversation with you is, the more likely she is to remember you. Tell stories about yourself or discuss interesting topics or things you are passionate about.<br /> If you are dating a girl, you want her to look back at the date and feel like it was a fun and positive experience, the same goes when you meet a girl at a bar and get her number, you want her to remember you as someone she considers interesting.<br /> <br /> <br /> <strong>4. Selling Yourself Short</strong><br /> <br /> If you meet someone and all they end up knowing about you is what you do for a living, where you live and your name, chances are you have sold yourself short in the interaction.<br /> There is so much more to you than your job, surely you have interests and passions that you like, you may love reading or travelling, you may be passionate about fitness or art. When you meet someone make sure you paint your picture vividly.<br /> Don’t be Joe the IT guy who works during the week and has the weekends off, be Joe the IT Guy who loves travelling and has recently seen the Mona Lisa in Rome and loves to read murder mysteries. Open up and show women what makes you great.<br /> <br /> <br /> <strong>5. Lying</strong><br /> <br /> This one is a big one, most people can tell when you are lying to them, and it is no exception when it comes to getting to know someone. If a woman you meet is passionate about something you do not know anything about, don’t pretend that you know plenty about it.<br /> If she has views that you do not necessarily agree with, don’t just agree with her for the sake of trying to get her to like you. If you guys do not see eye to eye on a topic or issue, great! That will make for an interesting discussion. However if you just agree with whatever a woman says, you are not just compromising who you are, you are lying to her, it is a subtle form of manipulation and will not work for you in the long run.<br /> Don’t make yourself out to be someone you’re not because at the end of the day, if she is interested, she will be interested in the guy you made up, not the guy you are.<br /> <br /> <br /> All in all these are some of the common “little things” that are easy to avoid or fix and as a result will increase your success in dating. When it comes to improving your skills with dating, finding the little things that hurt you and fixing them is the secret of success when it comes to your dating life.<br /> <br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/christianguestblogger1.png" style="width: 150px; height: 150px; float: right; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" />This post was written by a guest author Cristian.<br /> <br /> Cristian is a former professional dating coach and author of the&nbsp;book Attract Women. With over 5 year's experience in the field of interpersonal dating coaching, Cristian has helped hundreds of men from all walks of life improve their success in their dating lives. Check out his book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00TXH76VM" target="_blank">here.</a><br /> &nbsp;<br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> &nbsp;<br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> Wed, 15 Apr 2015 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: Kristina http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-kristina http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-kristina Happy Monday MSFers!<br /> <br /> We’ve got another great profile to share with you this week. Kristina’s profile stood out to us because of the long list of qualities her friend Harriet wrote about her.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/kristina1(2).png" style="width: 300px; height: 429px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /><br /> <br /> This is what Harriet loves about her friend Kristina:<br /> <br /> <em>“A beautiful concoction of elegance and sophistication that has blossomed in the city of London. Up for some seriously good times, uniquely spontaneous and wonderfully charismatic. This girl...Wow!<br /> <br /> Kristina is an absolute beaut...a girl with the kindest of hearts, a true friend to me....&nbsp;<br /> <br /> What I love about her:<br /> <br /> Her determination (with everything)<br /> Her competitiveness<br /> Her amazing intuition<br /> Her leanness<br /> Her ability to chat to boys ... nice ones of course!<br /> Her love of homeland<br /> Her excitement<br /> Her persuasion&nbsp;<br /> Her talent to look after others<br /> Her beauty<br /> Her charm<br /> Her dramas&nbsp;<br /> Her awesome interior decorating skills<br /> Her ability to eat a vindaloo<br /> Her&nbsp;</em>arse<em>&nbsp;(it's amazing...trust!)<br /> Her inability to decide what to wear<br /> Her generosity<br /> Her Wine (I mean wine not whine)<br /> Her indecisiveness<br /> Her washing up skills<br /> Her organizing skills (or rather her organizing of me!)<br /> Her love of travel and adventure<br /> Her need for a pet (which I won't let her get)<br /> Her dedication&nbsp;<br /> Just her. All of it.”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/kristina2.png" style="width: 300px; height: 398px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /></em><br /> <br /> Check out <a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/bydwazhsevaz/admin/yes" target="_blank">Kristina’s full profile here</a> and get in touch!<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> Mon, 13 Apr 2015 00:00:00 +0100 3 Reasons Not To Talk About Exes On A First Date http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/3-reasons-not-to-talk-about-exes-on-a-first-date http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/3-reasons-not-to-talk-about-exes-on-a-first-date When you're on a first date, one of the questions that often comes up is 'How long have you been single?' The question in itself is harmless, but what sometimes happens is that the person asking the question then goes onto ask 'Why did it end?' and before you know it you're having a conversation about your ex on a first date.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/first date(1).jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 200px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> <br /> Many people want to know all the gory details of your relationship history, maybe because they're just nosy, or they think it will help them to 'get to know you better' or simply because they don't know what else to talk about...<br /> <br /> When you start dating someone new, it's best to save the ex talk till much much later (if ever), but certainly not on the 1st date!<br /> <br /> Here's 3 reasons why:<br /> <br /> <strong>You risk lowering the mood</strong> <strong>of the date</strong>- picture it, things are going well and you're having fun but then talk turns to that of exes. Exes are exes for a reason and there might have been an unhappy story behind the breakdown of that relationship. Making your date think about your ex will take them from a happy place to a sad place in seconds. Do you really want to risk turning your date's smile into a frown? First dates should be fresh, fun and exciting! And one way to do this is to enjoy the present moment rather than dredging up the past with someone you've only just met.<br /> <br /> This leads into the 2nd reason: <strong>You don't know them that well to share such personal info </strong>sure a first date is about getting to know someone better, but that doesn't mean you are obliged to puke out information about yourself. Your dating and relationship history is and should remain private and only spoken about with people you trust, so there's no need to go into lengthy details of why your ex was no good and what went wrong in the relationship. If you genuinely feel the need to know about your dates dating history, save these conversations till later, when you've got to know your date for <em>who they are with you</em> first and you're both more comfortable to share openly and honestly with each other.<br /> <br /> The 3rd reason is that when you ask for details about exes, <strong>you will, albeit, unintentionally, make comparisons to exes</strong>. You will hear stories about how they were great and maybe not so great and you may end up unconsciously changing your behaviour in a way that doesn't allow you to be yourself or express your opinions in the way that you want and you need to be your true and authentic self. Another danger is that if your date divulges some form of negative behaviour in past relationships, you may find yourself feeling insecure or paranoid that the same could happen with you. Granted, this could be a red flag that you should run like the wind from (and <strong><em>if it really is a red flag</em></strong> you should do just that!) Yet, at the same if it's a past mistake that occurred long ago, that your date has learnt from and knows not to repeat and has simply matured since their last relationship,&nbsp; by worrying about past behaviour, you're judging your date on past blunders and you wouldn't want the same happening to you.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/how_to_end_the_first_date_gracefully_when_youre_not_interested.jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 267px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> <br /> &nbsp;So, when on a first date, it comes down to getting to know your date in the <strong><em>present moment first</em></strong>. Nobody wants to rake through the past when they should be talking about new beginnings and fresh starts.<br /> <br /> <hr /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/Jenah Parmar small.jpg" style="width: 150px; height: 214px; float: right; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" />This post was written by Jenah Parmar, who will be writing regular guest posts as MySingleFriend.com's resident dating expert!<br /> <br /> I am a fully qualified Life Coach and I am also a trained Dating and Singles Relationship Coach. I coach individuals on a range of areas such as career, work/life balance, dating, relationships, diet, health, business growth, confidence to name but a few. I also specialise in coaching marriage and commitment -minded singles. I coach clients around dating and finding the type of relationship they really want by helping them understand where they have been going wrong and teaching them the skills they need for future success. I help clients feel confident, less frustrated and more empowered as they begin their journey to finding a long-term relationship.<br /> <br /> www.datingandlifecoaching.com<br /> <br /> Have a look at her pages and follow her on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/Jenah-Parmar/1546525912244711" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://twitter.com/lifedatingtips" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.google.com/+Datingandlifecoaching" target="_blank">Google +</a><br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Tue, 07 Apr 2015 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: Jack http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-jack http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-jack It seems like spring is finally here! Hope you all had a lovely Easter weekend and enjoyed the bank holiday yesterday in the sunshine! Fingers crossed the warmer weather is here to stay!<br /> <br /> Without further ado it’s time to introduce our newest profile of the week, Jack! Outgoing, intelligent and terribly witty, Jack is a 28 year old consultant living in London.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/jack1(1).png" style="width: 250px; height: 271px; margin-left: 250px; margin-right: 250px;" /><br /> <br /> Here’s what Emma had to say about her buddy Jack:<br /> <br /> <em>“Ahh Jack... genuine, caring, fun, easy-going and I don't know if you noticed but he's frickin hot. However, despite being painfully good-looking, J-Dogg hasn't a hint of arrogance.<br /> <br /> Jack has been a great friend of mine for many years now and I love him like brother. He's one of the most intelligent people I know, with a Masters degree. He loves to get nerdy every now and again, and reminisce about molecules or something!<br /> <br /> He has a playful sense of humour and a very quick wit, but he's also an incredibly good listener and remains level-headed and logical in any discussion.<br /> <br /> He is also a proactive cook AND washes up too! Pretty much the whole package really!<br /> <br /> Jack loves snowboarding and was out in Val D'Isere last winter, but in doing too many 360s unfortunately broke himself, which put a temporary hold on his boarding (and all other activities) for 6 months. But now that he's back on his feet and available, I figured I'd put him on here and see if any of you girls fancied a go!<br /> <br /> He's not afraid to get a bit deep every so often, a little philosophical at times... And he also loves a good sunset...<br /> <br /> I think Jack needs an intelligent girl (air-heads/bimbos are a no no), who's up for a laugh and easy-going, but can also give him some stick too!<br /> <br /> So if you can look past his love of all things deep and meaningful (Ha! Sorry Jack!), you'll find yourself giggling like an idiot and asking when date 2 will be... go on - take him for a test drive!”</em><br /> <br /> Have a look at <a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/evcxjqcxdwfu/admin/yes" target="_blank">Jack’s full profile here</a> and get in touch (especially if you like sunsets!)...<br /> <br /> MSF x<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> Tue, 07 Apr 2015 00:00:00 +0100 Single, and ready to have your say! http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/single-and-ready-to-have-your-say http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/single-and-ready-to-have-your-say When it comes to your love life, everyone has an opinion (and they’re not afraid to share it). However, when it comes to having a say in the general election, <strong>1 in 4 single people aren’t registered to vote</strong>.<br /> <br /> Now, we’re sure you know what you want, both romantically and politically. But unless you register to vote very soon you will only be able to have a say about who you date, rather than a say on a day that decides your future.<br /> <br /> So with the general election just around the corner, we urge you to get to it. It’s super simple – do it online, in your own time – just go to: <a href="http://www.gov.uk/register-to-vote">www.gov.uk/register-to-vote</a><br /> &nbsp;<br /> The only way to be heard on <u>7<sup>th</sup> May</u> is to <strong>register to vote by 20<sup>th</sup> April.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/InfographicEC(1).png" style="width: 500px; height: 462px; margin-left: 140px; margin-right: 140px;" /></strong><br /> <br /> Sarah Beeny, TV personality and MySingleFriend.com founder commented:<br /> <br /> “From matchmaking our pals we think would be perfect for each other, to advising friends to give a bad relationship the boot, when it comes to our mates’ love lives, we all want to have our say. But we need to make sure we are equally passionate about sharing our opinions on the governmental issues that could affect us every day.”<br /> <br /> “Around a third of the UK population is single, so we need to ensure that our fabulous singletons use their opportunity to change the world around them, and to ensure their voice is recognised. Throughout April we will be reminding all our users to get registered to vote before the deadline of April 20<sup>th</sup>.”<br /> <br /> Sarah Beeny continued:<br /> <br /> “It is no surprise that political persuasion is so important when picking out a potential partner. We are generally attracted to people we share common ground with, so it is natural that we would connect with those who share our political viewpoints.”<br /> <br /> Warren Seddon, Head of Media at the Electoral Commission said,<br /> <br /> “If you want to vote, you have to be registered. You don’t want to be discussing politics on a date after polling day and be left embarrassed by revealing you missed your opportunity to vote. The good thing is that it’s now easier than ever to get registered through the new online system, so go now to www.gov.uk/register-to-vote and make sure you’re in.”<br /> <br /> Don’t forget to tell your friends, so they can have their say too. <strong><em>The general election is on Thursday 7<sup>th</sup> May.</em></strong><br /> <br /> “You deserve to have your vote heard, so register to vote today.” Sarah Beeny<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> Tue, 31 Mar 2015 00:00:00 +0100 Success Story: Dave & Katrina http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-dave--katrina http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-dave--katrina <br /> Whilst we hope you will be spending this long weekend indulging in roast lamb with mint sauce and tucking into one too many Easter eggs, we want you to take a few minutes to read this week’s success story. Meet Katrina and Dave who met on the site back in July 2013!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/Katrina &amp; Dave 2(1).jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 300px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> <br /> Here is their story in Dave’s words:&nbsp;<br /> <br /> "I noticed her profile firstly because of her amazing blue eyes. Then when I flicked through the photos there was one of her skiing in a part of Switzerland that I used to live in, so I knew I had to get in touch. We had been emailing and trying to find a date to meet up before she went overseas, but couldn't find one, so in the end I gate crashed a night out she was having with her friends. I thought it would be awkward having her friends around, but most were Aussie and we had just won the Lions tour, so I found plenty to talk relentlessly to them about! But mainly I chatted non-stop with Katrina, who impressed me with her range of party tricks - she could bend spoons like Uri Geller (but using her hands instead of her mind), and she can list all the English counties except Gloucestershire in alphabetical order.<br /> <br /> After we had met up a few times I had to go to Barcelona for work, and I invited her along. I work in travel so was definitely looking for a girl who is happy to grab a passport and head off on an adventure at short notice. So on our 6th date I took her up the Sagrada Familia, which was magical.<br /> I then had to go away for 8 weeks, and we had only known each other for 5 when I left. It was a big ask, but she kept herself busy by learning how to play the kotato double contrabass flute, which has 18 feet of pipe. When she was still waiting for me when I got back (though still strangely poor at playing the flute) we knew it was meant to be.<br /> <br /> We have just bought a flat together in London, and while looking at the wide variety of colours of blinds for the spare room have just decided on a name for our first daughter - Prestigious Pietra Chardonnay. We just hope that we have a girl first and not a boy.<br /> <br /> Thanks very much to MSF for helping us to start this amazing adventure!”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/Katrina &amp; Dave 1.jpg" style="width: 400px; height: 400px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Thanks so much for sharing your story Dave &amp; Katrina! Good luck with the new flat!<br /> &nbsp;<br /> MSF X<br /> &nbsp;<br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> Tue, 31 Mar 2015 00:00:00 +0100 Profile of the Week: Amy http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-amy http://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/profile-of-the-week-amy This week’s profile of the week is a 25 year old go-getter who knows what she wants; she lives by the attitude work hard, play harder and is looking for someone who is fluent in sarcasm, ambitious and full of confidence. If this sounds like you then keep reading...<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/amy1(2).png" style="width: 300px; height: 389px; margin-left: 220px; margin-right: 220px;" /><br /> <br /> This is what Amy’s friend Amy thinks you need to know about her...<br /> <br /> <em>“How can I possibly summarise Amy… Firstly I would like to say that I am incredibly lucky to have her in my life and I'm not entirely sure that my lack of witty writing skills that 'my single friend' has encouraged me to execute will justify just how great she is.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> Amy is hilarious, doesn't take herself too seriously and loves, loves to have a fun time. The type of day you'll have with Amy can never be planed for, although you'll have to book her in early if you want a date…You'll also have to watch out for fellow competitors (I don't mean just men) Amy has an adorably interesting talent for attracting everyone. We will be out randomly, I'll loose her, turn around, and she would have made friends with most of the dog owners (and dog), waiters and an old couple on the tube. Amy is wonderfully kind and generous, she won't let anyone be without a drink and never likes to leave anyone out, she is great at involving people and introducing you to her friends.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> Amy studied Law at university, so has the brain and the beauty, she does like a film, but not a film fanatic, loves all kind of music, but without it sounding generic in any way, Amy is genuinely not fussy and up for being introduced to pretty much anything.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> Amys ideal man is confident, fun, intelligent and ambitious. I do have to be honest, Amy does like a big guy, nice and strong. This requirement is mainly because Amy is fit (albeit has still yet to beat me in a arm wrestle). Last summer Amy was partial to a bit of frisbee which resulted in a dislocated shoulder and then in the winter a little bit of tag rugby (not the manly kind) which meant it liked to occasionally pop out. Dont worry guys, just a glass of wine and a little push, and on with the night. Basically a guy that can keep up with her!&nbsp;<br /> <br /> So I guess the big question is why is she single, honestly I don't know…Maybe because the latest is online dating, hence the new profile. Men this girl is genuinely amazing. One last thing… Amy has the best feet!”<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="http://images.mysinglefriend.com/cms/files/amy3.png" style="width: 400px; height: 457px; margin-left: 180px; margin-right: 180px;" /></em><br /> <br /> Want to know more? Check out <a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/jqazircxgtgtev/admin/yes" target="_blank">Amy’s full profile here</a> and get in touch.<br /> <br /> MSF X<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" target="_blank"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" target="_blank"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> Mon, 30 Mar 2015 00:00:00 +0100