Safety - messaging and meeting strangers
We take your safety very seriously at mysinglefriend and you should too. We make every effort to ensure mysinglefriend remains safe and we have one of the toughest joining processes of any dating site, with every profile being manually checked by a real person. You can help us by making sure you:
- Use your common sense
- Do not say where you work or live; keep your personal details personal!
- Do not become Facebook friends with someone you don't know (they can find out everything about you!), never date in your home (or anyone else's) and do not accept a lift. Watch your drink, plan your date in a public place and tell people where you are going and with whom.
- Are careful - contacting someone through this site gives you the opportunity to message or talk to someone before meeting them and plan your date SAFELY. You are responsible for your own safety, however we've prepared some guidelines for you...
Use only the messaging system at mysinglefriend - it's safe, recorded, and it doesn't give out your personal details. Don't put personal details in your profile or in your messages (your phone number, your email address, your address etc).
When you pursue a date:
You'll need to share some contact information at some point. Create and use a free email account like Gmail or Yahoo for emails (and don't use your full name in the email address!), use a mobile phone number that you can easily change, if you can't simply block your number from appearing on someone else's phone.
Do not continue correspondence if you suspect someone is:
- Being dishonest with you.
- Trying to pressurise you into a date, or find out your personal info.
- Ignoring your questions.
- Inconsistent with their information (look back through your correspondence with them to check).
And then... the date:
- Try to organise a double date - even better go out with a group of friends.
- Meet in a public place that you know. Don't let yourself be anywhere where there is no-one to call on, if a room starts to empty, move to where there are plenty of people around you.
- Do not arrange to be picked up or taken home by your date, make your own travel arrangements.
- Tell a trusted friend about your date: pass them the information you have about the person you are meeting, ask them to be available in case you need some support. Tell them where you are going, how long you expect to be, call them during the date, and when you have arrived back home alone safely.
- Take a mobile phone with you (fully charged and with credit)
- Stay in control and trust your instincts; don't worry about seeming impolite or overly cautious, anyone worth dating will understand. If you are asked to do something you don't want to do say no and be forceful with your statement.
- Keep an eye on your drink.
TELL US if you have met someone who seems to be dishonest, or someone who made you feel uncomfortable.
And lastly - you've had a few dates? USE A CONDOM!
Go slow - be honest - tell us if you feel uneasy!
Scammers in Internet Dating.
Internet dating is a great way to meet new people and here at MSF, we do everything we can to make sure the people you meet through our site are genuine and lovely, just like you! Unfortunately Internet dating as a whole has experienced some occasions where there have been attempts to use dating sites as a platform to carry out scams. Here at MSF we have VERY strict vetting procedures to ensure that everybody who joins is genuine, so it's highly unlikely that you'll ever come across anybody like this on our site. However, we wouldn’t be doing our job properly if we didn’t make you aware of the possible risks and what to do if you come across a profile which you suspect isn’t genuine.
What to look out for:
Maybe they have a photo so stunning and well-shot that it looks like it’s been nabbed from a catalogue. Perhaps they have a fantastic description which makes them seem like the date you’ve always been looking for, but doesn’t actually give any specific details about their lives and then once you’re chatting to them, they profess their undying love after just two messages. Maybe they go on to tell you how their last partner, or even child (these people have no qualms about how to tug on your heart strings) died in a tragic accident. Then as the conversation continues, they ask you for money. Perhaps they were abroad, got mugged and now have no money to return home. Or maybe they have a fool-proof business idea that they would love you to invest in or even a sickly relative whose treatment they can’t afford to pay for…
The number one rule (not just in internet dating but online in general) is:
NEVER SEND MONEY!
And number two:
IF IT SEEMS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE – IT PROBABLY IS!
What to do if you suspect someone is a scammer:
It’s very important to us that the site remains one big, happy community, so we don’t tolerate any monkey business from scammers.
If you have any doubts at all about a profile you’ve seen or about someone who you are in touch with, let us know right away and we’ll get the MSF dating police to check it out. Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org, giving us as much detail as possible and we will look into it for you.