17 Oct 2016

Five ways to take the sting out of being single

Category: Advice
Author: Karen
As regular readers will know, at mysinglefriend.com we celebrate the single person. Whilst we're here to help people meet, obvs, we also think there's a lot to be said for taking your time, meeting lots of people and not being in too much of a rush to settle down, as getting onvolved with someone too quickly can be a recipe for disaster. However, there are times when being single can be hard, and all you want to do is cuddle up on the sofa with someone lovely, rather than putting on your glad rags and going out on a date. If you find yourself sinking into that sad and lonely place, there are a few things you can do to pull yourself out again.

See your friends...

It sounds obvious, but when life is busy, and your friends are coupled up, it can be hard to actually spend quality time with them. Make concrete arrangements to go out and do fun things, like dinner or drinks, or just start making a habit of casually popping by their house. Your friends want to see you, and will appreciate a break from their own routine as much as you do, so don't be shy about getting in touch and telling them you need a bit of company.

... And make some new ones

Once we reach a certain age, we tend to find making friends more difficult, maybe because we think we have enough already or we just don't really meet many new people. The reality is that it's never too late to make new friends and expanding your social circle can only help you feel less lonely (plus you never know who might introduce you to a potential date). So if there's someone you chat with a bit in the kitchen at work, why not go the extra mile and suggest going out for a drink. Who knows what might happen?

Get a routine

Yes, routine can be boring, but an orderly life can really help you to manage if your struggling with being single. Knowing where you need to be, who you will see and what activities you will be doing can help neutralise any anxiety and stop you falling head first into misery. If you know you're likely to be having a in on your own every Tuesday, you can plan to use the time to relax and catch up on Netflix, rather than feeling lonely.

Take up a hobby

'Hobby' feels like a painfully old-fashioned term and conjures up the type of person who spends hours building a model railway in their attic, but taking up an absorbing new pastime can be very satisfying and take your attention away from your feelings of loneliness. It's even better if you spend time doing this activity with others - think dance classes or sport - because not only will you be absorbed in the moment, you'll also be surrounded by lovely people.

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Think differently about your alone time

Whilst you might think that spending a lot of time alone is a bit sad and difficult, there are plenty of people who would give anything to spend a few hours by themselves. Most people only start to feel down when they imagine that they might always be alone. The trick is to imagine that soom your time will monopolised by that hot new lover who is just around the corner, so you'd better make the most of your alone time whilst you still have it.