02 Jan 2017

7 foolproof dating resolutions you need to make this year

Category: Features
Author: Karen
Whilst today sees most of us return to the every day grind after a couple of blissful weeks of lying around watching telly and eating fistfuls of Celebrations for breakfast, there's also some pleasure to be had in getting back into the swing of things and enjoying the start of a brand new year. If you've decided that 2017 is going to be the year that you get out into the dating scene, and perhaps meet that special someone, we've got some excellent New Year dating resolutions that will ensure you bag yourself some fantastic dates.

1. Commit

You only get out of life what you put in, and this principle is definitely one that can be applied to online dating. Getting your profile online is, of course, half the battle, but you can't just rest on your laurels and wait for Mr or Ms Right to come to you. Make a commitment to proactively using the site and searching for people, even if you can only spare 15 minutes every day. We guarantee you'll get a lot more dates if you're committed to finding them.

2. Make the first move

And it's not enough just to be looking at profiles - you need to be getting in touch with people too. Making the first move to contact someone can feel a bit scary, but you're much more likely to get a date if you do it. Set yourself a target: pledge to send at least three new messages every day.

3. Make it enjoyable

Dating should be fun and sociable, and that can start online. The special bit about mysinglefriend.com is that your friend is there to help you, so get them involved in the process. Encourage them to log in to the site and suggest dates for you - we guarantee they'll enjoy themselves too. 

4. Be clear about what, or who, you're looking for

Whilst we encourage our MSFers to cast a wide net when it comes to looking for dates, we also know that having some clear parameters can make things easier. If you know that you're looking for a tall teetotaller who lives within ten miles of you, then pursue only the people who fit into that category. Of course, if you don't know, pursue everybody!

5. Say no, but be kind

If someone gets in touch and you're not interested, try to let them down gently. You wouldn't like to be ignored, or, worse, have someone be rude to you, so don't do the same to anyone else. A simple 'Thanks, but no thanks' makes everyone feel better.

6. Date smart

A first date should be a fairly quick meeting to scope each other out and see if you might like things to go further, so a quick drink or a cup of coffee should do the job. If you arrange something that will last longer, such as dinner, you might be desperate to escape after the first half an hour but be locked into the situation until you've awkwardly decided how to split the bill. Keep it short and, if you like them, then plan another.

7. Don't give up

It's highly unlikely that you'll fall head over heels for the first person you meet, so be prepared to be patient. You'll have dating disasters, dating triumphs and those kinds of dates where you leave just feeling a bit 'meh'. If you get downhearted, remind yourself that half the fun is enjoying the journey and you won't meet anyone if you don't keep trying.

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