19 Dec 2016

The MSF Christmas Survival Guide for Singles part 1

Category: Features
Author: Karen
'At Christmas little children sing and merry bells jingle,

The cold winter air makes our hands and faces tingle,

And happy families go to church and cheerily they mingle,

And the whole business is unbelievably dreadful, if you're single.'

From 'Serious Concerns' by Wendy Cope.

Yes, Christmas can be the worst time of year when you aren't in a relationship or dating, even worse perhaps than Valentine's Day, which lasts for a mere 24 hours, rather than a good three weeks. Whether you're navigating who to take, or not, to Christmas parties, trying to figure out how to spend the bank holidays, or just negotiating difficult questions from nosy family members about exactly when you're going to get hitched, the festive season can quickly turn from some fun into something unpleasantly stressful. However, there are some simple coping strategies that can help you bear, and possibly even enjoy, this Christmas.

Get busy...

The worse thing you can do at this time of year is wallow in the fact that you have no one to spend it with, and this will be made much worse if you have too much alone time on your hands. Although it can be difficult turning up to every single event all on your own, you'll feel better for being social than if you spend your days meandering around in your own misery. There is actually a lot to enjoy about being single at Christmas - you can go where you want and see who you like without having any commitments to a partner - so have fun with it because you probably won't be single for much longer.

...but be prepared to say no

Remember that you don't have to attend every single social event that you get invited to and some down time at this time of year is actually a great idea. Spending all of Christmas drunk, hungover and exhausted isn't going to do your overall mood any good at all, and some quality time spent relaxing and resting by yourself will be very beneficial. See it as time well spent taking care of you, rather than time spent being lonely. 

Invest in a gorgeous outfit

There's nothing better for boosting your self-esteem than having an outfit that you know absolutely drop-dead gorgeous in, so don't be afraid to put some serious time and cash into finding it (you don't need to spend money buying presents for a partner, after all!). When you know you look good, you feel absolutely great and you'll be sashaying into every party like an even more glamorous version of Beyonce, rather than creeping in meekly like a little mouse. Make this your Christmas present to yourself and you'll soon be fighting off suitors. 

We'll be back in a few days time with some more single survival tactics, so watch this space. 

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