31 Dec 2014

Office Romances: Curse or Convenience?

Category: Features
Author: Michaela
The office can be a fascinating place. The politics, the flings, the teacher’s pets, the endless gossip, the lack of common sense of those in authority. The global success of the TV show itself proves firsthand the endless entertainment provided by office dynamics. But if truth be told, we really need look no further than our own workplaces for something to talk about it. In my own experience, nothing gets people talking like an office romance.

 
As a writer the office is a great place to find inspiration. Sometimes it’s good to just sit back and watch. If you take away the menial tasks being performed by workers then what exactly is an office?  In my opinion a social hub - filled with friendships, hatreds and of course physical attractions. How many scandals have you heard in your time emanating from the traditionally wild office Christmas party? Exactly. Twelve months of secret crushes, flirtations and sheer lust flooding out in one alcohol fuelled evening.
 
If we look at the idea of convenience well sometimes it is just that – convenient. An office caters for just about every type of person you can imagine. Take your average call centre for example, dozens maybe hundreds of young single men and women. Relationships, trysts, flings whatever you want to label them they’re always bound to happen in such a testosterone filled environment. In fact I’d go as far as to say it’s quite possibly the easiest way to meet someone outside of online dating. However, meeting someone isn’t really the issue. When we think of office romances as being a curse we are of course referring to the inevitable aftermath.
 
What happens if or when it all goes pear-shaped? I find it difficult at times to promote the idea of a workplace romance because personally I’ve seen so many bad outcomes but that’s certainly not to take anything away from the success stories out there nor should it deter anyone from trying, after all what’s meant to be will be. The harsh realities however are difficult to ignore. Break-ups are tough at the best of times but imagine having to work with your ex every single day. What’s one of the toughest things about a break-up? Getting over them. How can we possibly expect to get over someone when we have to look at them through the little gap in two computers all day? Think of all the games that come hand in hand with the situation as well; making each other jealous, flirting with other people. Life is way too short to have to put up with such things. In my time working in offices I’ve seen everything from the most awful of break-ups to demoralized teams to disciplinary proceedings to people having to leave their jobs. All as a result of office romances. But on the flipside maybe it’s just the price we pay to find love? Nothing wrong with taking a risk once in a while.
 
All in all I’m not a great advocate of office romances but neither am I an advocate of pessimism when it comes to finding love. If you like someone at work just go for it! Why let something you actually have in common deter you from potentially finding the one? Let’s be honest we all rule with our hearts when it comes to love anyway so why don’t we all just seize the day and deal with the consequences later. You will always hear stories good and bad whether it’s from me, your parents, friends or even your boss but we only ever truly learn from our own decisions, our own mistakes, our own happiness’s. Just live, it’s your life. There’ll be other jobs.


 
This post was written by Paul Thomas Bell.
 
Scottish born writer Paul Thomas Bell has gained a worldwide following through his dating and relationships blog, Paulthomasbell.com. His honest and expressive stories of men and their ways has proven particularly popular with female readers and gained critical acclaim from Oprah Winfrey featured relationship expert Susan Winter. Paul has written for FHM and various publications in both the UK and US. As well as finishing his first book Paul will also be taking his first steps into the world of documentaries in the coming months.

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