MySingleFriend blog https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2017 5 easy ways to make the best possible first impression https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-easy-ways-to-make-the-best-possible-first-impression https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-easy-ways-to-make-the-best-possible-first-impression <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Everyone talks a lot of chemistry and spark and that moment where you just 'click', but meeting someone that you like, who, crucially, likes you back isn't just down to these things that sound a little like they're beyond our control. There are some very practical steps you can take to make a good first impression on someone, and it's really important that you do as research has shown that it only takes 12 minutes for someone to decide if they like you or not. Read on for our five top tips.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Make eye contact</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Sounds simple and obvious but some people are astoundingly bad at being able to look someone in the eye, especially if romance is potentially on the cards. Eye contact demonstrates sincerity and trustworthiness and shows you're interested in what the other person is saying, whereas staring fixedly over their shoulder or at your plate makes you look bored or possibly cross-eyed. If you struggle with eye contact then you need to get some practice in as it could really harm your dating chances.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple-1030744_960_720.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Be upbeat</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">An upbeat and positive attitude works wonders, trust us. Some people appear to be under the impression that appearing cool or aloof is somehow hugely attractive, but it isn't. You go on a date to have fun and that's much more likely to happen if you approach it with a good attitude and a fun demeanour.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Look and listen</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When you're on a date, really the only person you should be paying attention to is the person sitting in front of you (and the waiter, obvs. You don't want to go hungry). Look at them when they're talking to you and do not commit the cardinal sin of having your phone on the table, let alone checking it in front of them or playing Candy Crush Saga whilst you wait for the soup to arrive. Leave your phone in your bag or pocket and only check it if you absolutely must.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Ask questions</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Asking your date questions is a double whammy of first date excellence because it not only makes you look like an inquisitive and interested human being, but it also deflects the attention away from you if you're feeling a bit nervous. It doesn't matter what you ask them really (as long as it's not creepily personal), you just need to draw them out and find out what their passions and interests are. Once the conversation is rolling you'll feel more comfortable talking about yourself.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Don't be shy with the compliments</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Everyone loves a compliment, so don't be afraid to give a few to your date. Of course, don't go so overboard that you comes across like a loony, and make sure you stay very firmly away from anything that could be construed as creepy; simply make an appreciative comment about something you genuinely like about them, whether it's their shoes, their accent or their facial tattoo. Compliments help to break the ice and make people feel good, which in turn will lead to a successful date.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 20 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Success story: Nicole and Phil https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-nicole-and-phil https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-nicole-and-phil <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We're very pleased to introduce you to yet another MSF success story! We absolutely love hearing about happy couples - it makes our jobs so worthwhile - so please don't hesitate to get in touch if you met someone lovely through the site. We always love to hear from you! Our latest lovebirds are Nicole and Phil got in touch to let us know a bit about their MSF journey from dating to 'I do'.<br /> <br /> "I was not looking to join a site but had been looking through MSF as I was setting up a page for a friend of mine at the time," Nicole told us. &nbsp;"I happened to see Phil's profile, whilst looking for a date for my friend, and very cheekily did not recommend him to her, but instead decided to join the site and see if he would speak to me.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/stoneroses.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 525px;" /><br /> <br /> "Online dating is so much more 'the norm' now than it used to be, and it always makes for a good story to tell when you're in company. We both decided to join a dating site because of a similar belief that 'If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.' So it was absolutely worth giving it a try. We both really like MSF over other sites because the way it works made it comfortable to start looking. The people on the site have paid money to be there so are genuine in wanting a relationship and willing to make the effort to allow one to happen.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/wedding2.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> "Since I was from Glasgow and he was from Manchester we decided to meet in the middle in Carlisle. We spent the afternoon strolling around the interesting shops and drinking coffee, all the time laughing and poking fun at each other. As the date ended I went to give him a peck on the lips to which he responded by shoving me off and running in the other direction to get in his car. He later explained it was because he was worried he would get a parking ticket (which he did) and has never lived it down since.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Nicole-Phil-3711.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">"We got married in a private house in the Scottish borders in early December. We chose a humanist ceremony and it was entirely personal, even down to our vows incorporating song lyrics in them (Rick Astley got a few laughs!). Our dog Murphy and bird Mackie were there, and Murphy even got to give me away. We managed to combine a Scottish tartan vibe with Phil's love of board games, and classic games featured throughout the day. The Scottish contingent taught our English guests how to Ceilidh dance and the hilarity continued into the wee small hours. In a word, it was PERFECT.<br /> <br /> "We both wanted to take the time to say thank you for this fantastic website. Without it we would never have met and been so happy together!"<br /> <br /> What a lovely story! Huge congratulations to Nicole and Phil from the whole team at MSF!&nbsp;</span><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you're part of an MSF success story, please drop us a line at&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">and let us know!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Thu, 16 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 How to keep your cool if you're single on Valentine's Day https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-your-cool-if-youre-single-on-valentines-day https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-your-cool-if-youre-single-on-valentines-day <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you're single, Valentine's Day tends to loom on the horizon like an unwelcome and very black storm cloud, ready to rain all over your parade. It's like going home at Christmas and being grilled by your family about your single status, except on Valentine's Day it feels like the whole world is joining in. There'll be the inevitable questions about how many cards you got, the smug colleague receiving a giant bouquet of flowers from an admirer and all those happy couples smooching around the place. However, rather than worrying about your single status, why not make Valentine's Day work for you? Here are a few suggestions.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Join mysinglefriend.com</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Whether you get a date for Valentine's Day or not, indulging in a bit of online dating is very empowering. And you should look at it as a well-deserved treat rather than anything else; it certainly shouldn't be viewed as a desperate bid to find someone to spend Valentine's Day with. The run up to the big red day is usually touted as one of the best times to join an online dating site, but we'll let you in to a little secret: it's actually a few days after Valentine's Day that there is a big spike in activity probably due to single people feeling the need to find romance after having their faces rubbed in it by all the smug couples. Whatever the reason, it's good news for you, especially if you're already established on the site.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/heart.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Go on a singles date with your mates</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you and a few mates are single, take yourselves out on a singles date on Valentine's night. Get properly dressed up and go for dinner, or at least for a few drinks and make the most of your single status. No doubt there will be plenty of other single people out there doing the same thing. The worst thing you can do is stay in and get all Bridget Jones about it by eating a tub of ice cream and drinking alone. Your friends are there to support you, and vice versa, so why not celebrate your love for them this Valentine's Day?</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Remember that the grass is always greener</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The other reason that going out with your mates might make you feel better is that there might be a bit of cold comfort in observing all the couples who are looking a teeny bit bored of having dinner together again, when they secretly wish they could join your fun and flirty table. It's important to remember that the grass is always greener and being in a relationship has its downsides just as much as being single does.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We'll be back in the run up to Valentine's Day with some more tips on making the most of it when you're single. Watch this space!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> Mon, 13 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Say it with a Song: 5 Classic Tunes to Win Their Heart https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/say-it-with-a-song-5-classic-tunes-to-win-their-heart https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/say-it-with-a-song-5-classic-tunes-to-win-their-heart With Valentine’s Day coming up, love is officially in the air. It’s an exciting time when you’re dating but sometimes making your feelings clear is a difficult task. Don’t panic; there’s no need to find the right words when someone else has already done it for you.<br /> Why not say it with a song instead?<br /> <br /> <strong>1.&nbsp;</strong><strong>I don’t want to miss a thing – Aerosmith</strong><br /> <strong>Message: It’s only been a short time but I already can’t imagine being apart </strong><br /> The classics are always the best. The lyrics say it all and Steve Tyler’s gravelly tone has the ability to leave even the hardest of hearts weak at the knees.<br /> <br /> <strong>2.&nbsp;</strong><strong>Crazy in love – Beyoncé</strong><br /> <strong>Message: I’m sorry if I’m acting a bit crazy but I’m just so into you </strong><br /> Let’s be honest when does Queen B ever let us down? This heart pumping tune has been a favourite since 2003 and over 10 years later, the message still stands. She held onto her man even with ‘Becky with the good hair’ tried to worm her way in, so this is bound to work for you. If the pounding bass is a little too much, try the slowed down, sensual version – it’s still as powerful.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Mixtape of Love.png" style="width: 700px; height: 451px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>3.&nbsp;</strong><strong>Love me like you do – Ellie Goulding </strong><br /> <strong>Message: I’m ready to take it to the next level, so what are you waiting for? </strong><br /> Ellie Goulding flawlessly transferred to song the emotions most people feel at the beginning of a relationship. When you’ve hit that point between casual dating and being a couple, who makes the first move and when? This is the perfect song to tell your potential other half that you’re ready to make it official.<br /> <br /> <strong>4.&nbsp;</strong><strong>Just the way you are – Bruno Mars </strong><br /> <strong>Message: You’re perfect to me and I don’t want to change a thing </strong><br /> Who doesn’t want to hear this? If you’re lucky enough to have found the person that is perfect to you in every way, even when they leave their smelly socks on the floor or forget to take the bins out, let them know that they’re amazing, just the way they are.<br /> <br /> <strong>5.&nbsp;</strong><strong>You’re still the one – Shania Twain </strong><br /> <strong>Message: It’s not been easy and we’ve missed some chances but you’re still the one for me</strong><br /> Oh Shania, your catchy tunes always give us exactly what we need. Maybe <em>‘That don’t impress me much’</em> was your previous Twain tune of choice, back in the days when you spent most of your time kissing frogs. But now that you’ve found the one, switch sassy for soppy and tell them that no matter how hard it gets you’re still going to try.<br /> <br /> There’s plenty more where that came from and if those songs don’t quite say what’s in your heart then find the ones that do with <a href="https://www.buyagift.co.uk/the-mixtape-of-love"><strong>Buyagift’s</strong> <strong>‘Mixtape of Love’</strong></a>.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Tue, 07 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Success story: Steve and Sarah https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-steve-and-sarah https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-steve-and-sarah <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It's Friday and we're celebrating in style this week with another lovely success story! We always love to hear from our MSFers, whether you're letting us know you've let someone, want to tell us about a brilliant date, or have any quibbles or queries about the site, so keep those emails coming in. Our latest happy couple Steve and Sarah dropped us a line to let us know about their happy news!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Steve says: "Sarah and I both joined MSF back in 2010 and Sarah was the one who found me. I think she made a great choice! We now been together for over six years and got married on the anniversary of meeting on MSF. Thanks to MSF we found each other and without the website we would never have met."<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/SteveSarah386(2).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 504px;" /></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Huge congratulations to Steve and Sarah from everyone here at mysinglefriend.com! If you're part of an MSF success story, please drop us a line at&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">and let us know!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 03 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 5 ways to make sure you get great responses to your messages https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-ways-to-make-sure-you-get-great-responses-to-your-messages https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-ways-to-make-sure-you-get-great-responses-to-your-messages <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When it comes to the world of internet dating, getting your profile online and looking as fresh and fancy as possible is only half the battle. At mysinglefriend.com we've always said that the best way to get a date is to be super-proactive and that doesn't just mean scrolling through potential dates and idly clicking 'like' a few times, it means being the first to make contact by sending lots of messages to the hotties that catch your eye.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Think up an original opener</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Take our word for it when we say that there's nothing more boring than a message that starts out 'Hi', 'Hey', 'Hello' or any other kind of generic greeting. It's a natural opener, of course, and one that makes perfect sense in real life, but if someone's inbox is stuffed with messages all beginning the same way, you're not going to stand out.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/person-woman-apple-hotel.png" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Write something...</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you want a potential date to bite, you need to give them some bait, and that means they need something to respond to. If you write a message that simply says 'Hi, how are you?" you aren't giving them enough to work with. Questions are good, but they should be specific to their profile and point out things you have in common to build a rapport. For instance: "I notice you're into scuba diving - me too! Where's your favourite place to dive?"</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">...but not too much</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">People who talk about themselves too much are annoying, and so are people who write too much about themselves. You're trying to get a potential date's attention with a brief, pithy message, not write an autobiography, so resist the temptation to bang on at length. Think of it as if you were exchanging flirty banter down the pub rather than making a speech and you're onto a winner.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Be careful with your compliments</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Paying compliments is a great idea and flattery really will get you everywhere, but think carefully about what you're saying if you want to receive a reply. Women (and it largely is women who are on the receiving end of this type of compliment) get tired of being complimented on their looks, because it makes them feel like that's all there is to them. Complimenting them on something on they've said on their profile proves that you've read it and are trying to appreciate them as a three dimensional person, rather than just a photograph.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Make each message personal</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You might think that copying and pasting the same message over and over will save you time, but, trust us, &nbsp;people can tell. If a message is too generic it will put potential dates off immediately as they will know that you haven't taken the time to read their profile. By all means use the same basic template when writing messages, but be sure to put some personal details in. We promise you you'll receive a lot more replies if you do.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 30 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 5 low key first date ideas to take the pressure off https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-low-key-first-date-ideas-to-take-the-pressure-off https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-low-key-first-date-ideas-to-take-the-pressure-off First dates are generally nerve-wracking affairs and it can feel quite scary to have to pull out all the stops and be fun, interesting and hilarious when you find yourself in the company of a perfect stranger. Rather than going down the usual route of drinks or dinner, there are plenty of date ideas that can remove the intense pressure of having your first meeting across a table, with only your own conversational skills (which can really fall apart if you have an attack of nerves) standing between you and a dating disaster. Here are five ideas that will help that all-important first date go smoothly.<br /> <br /> <strong>A quick coffee</strong><br /> <br /> Grabbing a coffee on your lunch break or after work is a great way to suss someone out, without committing to a whole evening together. It's perfect because it allows you to escape after the amount of time it takes to drink a cappuccino if you really aren't feeling it, but allows you to suggest having another cup if there's a bit of a spark there. Knowing that the date will be quite brief will stop you feeling quite so nervous and a quick cup of coffee will feel a lot more casual, and less scary, than going out for a three course meal. Plus, there's no alcohol involved, which means that you won't start making bad booze-based decisions that you might end up regretting later.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/A_time_for_a_cup_of_coffee.png" style="width: 701px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Pub quiz</strong><br /> <br /> If you really can't get through a first date without a tipple to take the edge off, make sure you've got something to do when you go to the pub, otherwise you'll find yourself nervously downing four pints before you know it. Pub quizzes provide a bit of welcome respite from the pressure of making conversation, whilst allowing you time between rounds to chat and get to know each other. Having something to talk about apart from each other can be a really good ice breaker.<br /> <br /> <strong>Bowling</strong><br /> <br /> Going bowling may seem like an irredeemably naff plan for a first date, but that's exactly why you need to embrace it. There's nothing more intimidating than having your first date somewhere very formal and bowling is the polar opposite of that. From the silly shoes to the pints of lager in plastic cups, bowling is all about having fun and it will quickly strip you of any ability to play it cool, simply because you'll be laughing so much. And you don't have to choose bowling either, any activity that gives you something to focus on, whilst having a total laugh, will do just as well.<br /> <br /> <strong>A gallery or museum</strong><br /> <br /> If you're a nervous dater, the idea of someone looking intently at you for hours on end can feel pretty terrifying, so why not give yourselves something to look at other than each other. If you live in a big city there will be loads of brilliant exhibitions to visit, but even if you live somewhere small, there's bound to be a funny old local museum to enjoy. A museum or gallery will give you something to talk about other than yourselves and you'll find that, once the ice is broken by talking about what you're seeing, you'll soon naturally start to talk about more personal things without even noticing.<br /> <br /> <strong>The cinema</strong><br /> <br /> Sitting in a dark room not talking to each other for two hours might seem like a bad idea when you're meant to be getting to know each other, but for very nervous daters, the cinema is a godsend. After an initial quick chat in the foyer the pressure is off for a bit, and then you've got the film to talk about when you go for a drink afterwards. As with visiting a gallery, you'll soon find that the chat naturally segues from the film to more general and personal aspects of your lives, and you'll soon forget your nervousness.<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Fri, 27 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 6 body language signals that mean your date fancies you https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/6-body-language-signals-that-mean-your-date-fancies-you https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/6-body-language-signals-that-mean-your-date-fancies-you <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Trying to figure out if your date fancies you or not is tricky, especially as many of us already have the tendency have a glass-half-empty attitude when it comes to matters of the heart. It's easy to concentrate on the things that we perceive to be going wrong on a date, such as feeling nervous or conversation being a little stilted, and therefore think that the whole thing is a total disaster. However, there are some visual cues that you can take from your date's body language that will give you a good idea about whether they're feeling a spark or not. Here are a few.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Large pupils</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Dilated pupils are a sign of a brain response that occurs when we are attracted to or really like something. However, it also occurs when we're in a dark place, so be careful not to confuse poor lighting with attraction.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Raised eyebrows</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">People subtly raise their eyebrows because it helps to open their eyes when they like what they see. If their eyebrows are raised beyond the point of subtle then they're actually displaying shock, so you might want to tone your anecdotes down a bit.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple(1).jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Smiling with the eyes</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">A fake smile doesn't reach the eyes, whereas a genuine one can't help but lift them and close them slightly. If you're date is looking a bit squinty, it's a good sign.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Pointing their toes towards you</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Your feet are an important part of your fight-or-flight response and therefore largely controlled by your unconscious brain. This means that if your date is pointing their toes towards you they like you and feel comfortable with on an instinctive level.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Standing close to you</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">This one should be blatantly obvious, but some people still miss it as a cue. Obviously if you're on a rush hour tube they'll have no choice but to be right next to you, but if there's plenty of space and they still want to get up close and personal, it's a very good sign.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Touching their throat</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The throat is representative of vulnerability and communication. Reaching to touch it during conversation suggests that your date likes you and is concerned about how they're coming across.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Wed, 25 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Five cheap and fun ways to brighten up January https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/five-cheap-and-fun-ways-to-brighten-up-january https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/five-cheap-and-fun-ways-to-brighten-up-january <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">January is a bit of a grim month for all sorts of reasons: you weather is uniformly terrrible, spring seems a million miles away, the evenings are still dark, and no one has ever got any money having gone wild at Christmas. However, there are still lots of fun things you can do, and many of them for very little money. Here are five fabulous and fun ideas that will cost you a fiver.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Have a cheeky bet with a friend</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Whilst a fiver might not buy you much in real terms, it's still a decent enough amount to make a bet with a friend worthwhile, and it might just goad you into doing something you wouldn't usually. If your friend sees someone they fancy in a bar, bet them a fiver they won't go and chat them up, and they're bound to make the bet right back at you. Who knows who you might meet? Or you could just bet them that they won't do something utterly ridiculous, like dance on the table, just for the pleasure of laughing at them.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Go to town on your coffee</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you drink coffee every day, you're probably quite careful about what you order for both financial and calorific reasons, perhaps sticking to a flat white, a latte or a plain old Americano. So why not spend a fiver one day going all out on the most exciting double-toffee-frappe-mochaccino with extra syrup, marshmallows and swizzly chocolate stick? You won't regret it, though your colleagues might when you're pinging round the office all morning, pumped up to the eyeballs on caffeine and sugar.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/23April.png" style="width: 600px; height: 668px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Have an indulgent night in for one</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Entertainment for two for just a fiver can be difficult (though it depends what you're doing of course!) but you could use it to pamper yourself pretty successfully. Whether your idea of indulgence is some lovely bath salts, a nice big bar of chocolate or a film downloaded in full HD, you can easily cover it with five English pounds.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Cross the Thames by cable car</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Forget the tube, there's a new way to travel! You can take a stately journey across the Thames on the Emirates Air Line, a cable car that runs between Greenwich Peninsula and the Royal Docks, providing you with some incredible views of London, as well as the thrill of dangling high above the river. It takes ten minutes to cross and costs £4.50, leaving you 50p to buy a bag of crisps for the journey.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Join mysinglefriend.com for five days</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Yes indeed, this April you can join MSF for five days and enjoy full unlimited messaging, for just £5, without no commitment to auto renewal. All you have to do is sign up to the site and before you know it you'll be messaging hotties left, right and centre and arranging some great dates. 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Of course, everyone has a number of expectations when they get together with someone, most of which are perfectly reasonable, some of which are less so, and the trick is trying to differentiate between the two. Here are three expectations that you might think are absolutely fine, but could quite easily erode the foundations of your lovely new relationship.<br /> <br /> <strong>"Once I'm in a relationship, my life will be complete"</strong><br /> <br /> If you're feeling a bit lonely and as if you're missing a piece, like a charity shop jigsaw puzzle, it's very easy to fall into the trap of believing that another human being can complete you. The truth is, no one else can ever do that, and thinking that they can will only put a huge amount of strain on a relationship when your partner inevitably fails to make you feel magically whole. A good relationship can add huge positives to your life, but only you can find that extra puzzle piece.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/shutterstock_275839052(1).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 493px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>"My new beau will want to spend every spare second with me"</strong><br /> <br /> Most new couples go through a stage where they disappear for six months and then surface six months later, remembering they have friends and family who would like to see them as well. This is perfectly normal, but it's vital to remember that after this initial crazy can't-keep-your-hands-off-each-other madness, your significant other is going to want to return to their social life and you won't be together every second of the day. If you don't allow them this space, your relationship will crumble like a bit of badly made flapjack, so make sure you're prepared to share if you want your relationship to flourish.<br /> <br /> <strong>"My new partner will be able to read my mind"</strong><br /> <br /> OK, so maybe you won't expect actual telepathy, but many people unrealistically expect their partner to know what they're thinking or feeling, and then get cross with them when they don't. Whilst your partner should come to know you better than anyone else, they are still not actually privy to the complicated inner workings of your crazy mind, so you need to help them out. Communication is the key to a successful relationship, so do both of you a favour and talk about how you're feeling.<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 16 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 We are UK Blog Award 2017 Finalists! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/we-are-uk-blog-award-2017-finalists https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/we-are-uk-blog-award-2017-finalists We are very pleased to announce that we have made the final of the UK Blog Awards 2017! The awards recognise the best in digital talent across the UK, and we are very happy to have been nominated amongst so many other brilliant blogs. One of the judges for the Dating category is dating guru James Preece who has featured in all sorts of impressive media such as the Independent, Cosmopolitan, FHM, Men's Health and The Sun. We hope he will be suitably impressed by what we do! The winners will be announced at a glittering awards ceremony at the Park Plaza Hotel at Westminster Bridge in April.<br /> <br /> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/facebook-1 (1)(1).png" style="width: 700px; height: 368px;" /><br /> <br /> We'd like to say a huge thanks to everyobe who voted for us to get through to the final - we'll keep you posted on how we get on!<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 09 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100