MySingleFriend blog https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2017 Do you struggle with first date conversation? Try these tips https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/do-you-struggle-with-first-date-conversation-try-these-tips https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/do-you-struggle-with-first-date-conversation-try-these-tips Here at the MSF blog we usually offer advice about striking up a conversation online, but things are a little different in real life and if you're feeling nervous, you might end up a little tongue-tied. Here are five tips that will help you start a conversation when you feel like your nerves are getting the better of you.<br /> <br /> <strong>Remark on the location or occasion</strong><br /> <br /> Conversations, especially when dating, generally work best when you can talk about yourselves, but it can take a while to get into that if you're feeling a bit shy. Starting a conversation off on a neutral footing is a great way to ease yourself into things, and talking about the place you're in (especially if it's somewhere as amazing as Love Die Late) or the occasion you're at (such as an incredibly fun singles party) is the perfect way to begin.<br /> <br /> <strong>Combine general chat with questions</strong><br /> <br /> If you find talking about yourself difficult, then your first line of defence is to ask questions. General remarks can end up turning into awkward silences if you just fire them out on their own, so combine them with a question. For example, the remark "That's a nice necklace" is very pleasant, but once the other person has said "Thanks", there's nowhere else to go. However, if you said: "That's a nice necklace, where did you get it?" you're inviting them to embark on an anecdote and keep the conversation flowing.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/coupke.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 468px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Ask open-ended questions</strong><br /> <br /> Open-ended questions are the type that require more than a simple yes or no answer and invite the person you're asking to talk at a bit more length. For example, asking someone "Do you like cocktails?" isn't going to elicit much conversation, whereas asking them "What's types of cocktail do you like?" will allow them to say a lot more.<br /> <br /> <strong>Find common ground</strong><br /> <br /> If you can find something you both have in common, you're onto a winner and luckily, as you're both single and dating, you've already got something to talk about. Trading online dating war stories is a great way to bond with someone, especially as you'll both have some excellent anecdotes that are bound to make each other laugh.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Brush up on current events</strong><br /> <br /> Current events are a little like common ground as the chances are, as two bright, engaged human beings, you'll both have a fairly good awareness of what's going on in the world. It might be a good idea to steer clear of politics or anything else that could potentially lead to disagreements, but everything else should be fair game.<br /> <br /> <strong>Show genuine interest</strong><br /> <br /> This one is the clincher because if you show a genuine interest in what someone is telling you, then they'll want to keep on talking, and they'll be interested in you too. Listen to what they're saying, ask questions, look them in the eye and smile. It's simple to do, and who knows where the conversation might lead?<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Thu, 23 Mar 2017 00:00:00 +0100 5 big mistakes to avoid in the first month of dating https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-big-mistakes-to-avoid-in-the-first-month-of-dating https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-big-mistakes-to-avoid-in-the-first-month-of-dating <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you've been on a few dates with someone and it's all going swimmingly, you'll probably be beside yourself with excitement and liable to do some things that you might later regret. When you're at the very beginning of something new it's very easy to get ahead of yourself and make some dating mistakes that you might seriously regret later. Here are six things to avoid.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">#1 Getting too clingy</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We're certainly not advocating the saying 'Treat 'em mean and keep 'em keen' but maintaining a little bit of distance is a good idea for a few reasons. First of all, it's true that absence makes the heart grow fonder and not being available or in your date's face the whole time will only sharpen their desire to see you. Next, clinginess is very unattractive and the harder you cling, the more likely you are to drive someone away. And finally, it's a method of self-preservation: if you give away too much of yourself in those uncertain early stages, you're more likely to have your heart broken if it should go wrong.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Love-Couple-Romance-Love-Couple-Sunset-Landscape-1209790.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">#2 Dropping the 'love' bomb</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">This rookie error is a continuation of the above and should be avoided during those crucial early days. It's hard to know initially whether what you're feeling is actually simple infatuation rather than full on love, so put the brakes on making big declarative statements until you're really sure. Dropping the 'L' word too early could also potentially make your date run a mile, so take it steady.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">#3 Constantly slag off your ex</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you're going to end up in a long term relationship with this person, there are many years ahead for them to get to know the details of what happened with your ex, and vice versa. Use these first few golden weeks or months to get to know each other, rather than banging on about the ghosts of partners past. If you find you can't make it through a date without talking about your ex, it might be a sign that you aren't quite ready to be dating again.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">#4 Placing them on a pedestal</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Though you will inevitably looking at your new beau through several pairs of rose tinted glasses, you have to remember that they aren't perfect. If we place someone on a pedestal we also place them under a huge amount of pressure to live up to our (usually totally imaginary) image of them. If you expect someone to be better than they are humanly capable of being you'll only end up being disappointed.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">#5 Make big future plans</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The initial euphoria of meeting someone you like can make it feel like you'll be together forever and ever, but you just don't know how it's going to pan out. Your plans shouldn't be looking much further ahead than next week - maybe next month at a push - so avoid the temptation to book a three week tour of New Zealand in six months time, and just wait and see how things develop.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;</span> Tue, 21 Mar 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Featured profile: Stephanie https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/featured-profile-stephanie https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/featured-profile-stephanie <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Steph.jpg" style="width: 250px; height: 336px; margin-left: 2px; margin-right: 2px; float:right" />Mysinglefriend.com&nbsp;is stuffed full of lovely people and sometimes we like to pick out a particularly fine specimen of humanity and show them off to you. There are plenty of things that make a profile stand out, but what really makes or breaks a profile is how much someone's personality shines through. This week we are featuring the lovely <a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/jqbyfudwjqhs/admin/yes/preview/yes"><strong>Steph</strong></a>, who is looking for a proper gentleman to spend some quality time with.<br /> <br /> <em><strong>What Sheelagh had to say about Steph...</strong></em></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Steph is beautiful, smart, seriously sincere and completely shocks with her fun side! She's poles apart - loves having in depth conversations and seeks to understand just what you think (to solve universal conundrums etc), and then with no qualms letting her hair down to having such brilliant fun. She's the one you'd want to say yes to come out in a group - she's giving, doesn't seek the limelight, enjoys people whoever that are, and is generous with her time and attention. Best suitor - a gentleman (yes, I do mean that :0), who can have fun and is willing to cherish another openly and honestly, and able to be lived. Steph is truly loving and giving, and if an appropriate match were to magically happen, she would ideally love to make a beautiful family. So only serious suitors please. Someone out there will be made a very, very happy man. Oops, forgot to say, Steph has a serious job and is very successful, so someone who can help balance this out - relaxing, having fun, balacing out the real world would be ideal. Steph doesn't force her views, or herself, on anyone. So someone who is sensitive, and interested in the feelings and views of others would be an ideal match. She's proper lovely!! Would make someone really super content and happy :0)</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><em><strong>What Steph had to say about herself...</strong></em></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Ah thanks Sheelagh, I'm touched by your very lovely words. I think you've summed me up well. So I guess you might want to know what I'm looking for...&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Someone kind, gentlemanly, thoughtful, honest, who is passionate about life, work or a hobby who wants to be loved and isn't shy about showing their love and cherishing another. Hopefully you'll enjoy witty banter as well as talking by about the bigger stuff in life, maybe over a glass of wine? And ideally I'd like someone to go on adventures and have lots of fun and laughter with whilst building something lasting and meaningful together.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">And a wee (that's the Scottish part of me coming out) bit more about me... I love to travel, try new things and generally enjoy life. I tend to spend my time catching up with friends, eating out, going to the cinema, doing yoga, swimming or walking in the country, cooking, listening to live music (jazz and house circa 90s are favs) and going to galleries/museums.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">I'm passionate about my work and believe in giving something back to the world. Quite into meditation, self improvement and spiritual stuff but also have my feet firmly planted on the ground and happy to laugh at myself. That's probably enough for now, so if you'd like to know more it would be lovely to hear from you...</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you think you're the perfect fit for this wonderful woman, <a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/jqbyfudwjqhs/admin/yes/preview/yes"><strong>click to view Steph's profile</strong></a> and&nbsp;drop her a line.&nbsp;</span><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you fancy being our Featured Profile yourself, or you'd like to nominate a friend, drop us an email at&nbsp;</span><a href="mailto:blog@mysinglefriend.com" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;and let us know!</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 13 Mar 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Guest post: 6 of the best icebreaker questions https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/guest-post-6-of-the-best-icebreaker-questions https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/guest-post-6-of-the-best-icebreaker-questions First date with someone new – how romantic! It feels magical and love is in the air! You want everything to be perfect, and you definitely don’t want to mess up while making a first impression. Don’t worry, this is perfectly natural. Whether you’re out at a posh restaurant or a picnic, these icebreakers will put you at ease and erase awkwardness.&nbsp;The trick is to appear easy going and flirty to engage with your date. Ideally, you should pick something you both have in common to talk about, and lead the conversation from there. Keep your tone light, but interesting. Ensure that the other person knows you are interested. Don’t forget to be humorous and playful!&nbsp;Katie from <strong><a href="https://www.orlajames.com/">Orla James</a></strong> has tried some of these on previous dates and the conversation flowed really well.<br /> <br /> <strong>Have you grown up here?</strong><br /> <br /> This is a seemingly innocent question but the answer is dynamite! This question opens up to a plethora of different questions you could ask later about where he/she grew up, schools and universities attended, and where they are originally from. This could also lead to understanding the family structure and who they grew up with. Lead the conversation gently from there and listen attentively. Prepare simple, honest answers to respond to similar queries from your date.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>What sport do you enjoy watching or playing?</strong><br /> <br /> This helps in finding common ground if you are inclined to sports. Remember, the other person doesn’t have to like football or cricket, but an interest in skateboarding or &nbsp;tennis is good too. Be open about which activities you enjoy. Find common topics and ask questions around their likes and dislikes – ask about the bad horse-riding incident during their childhood! Be innovative and listen carefully. Come prepared to be equally grilled about your favorite sports and sportspersons.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/shutterstock_375336118(2).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>What’s the funniest prank you’ve ever played?</strong><br /> <br /> Provided your partner has played a prank in the past, this should turn out to be a laughter-filled conversation. The response will tell you what level of fun and possible mayhem your date can cause! This question also opens up possibilities for you to share a prank you played on friends, siblings, or cousins while growing up. Engage your date in a lively chat.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>What’s your favorite genre of music?</strong><br /> <br /> I love this question! Keep in mind some of your favorite artists and genres. With this, the conversation will flow easily both ways. Maybe on your next date (if you decide to have one!), you both could go to a local pub that plays your favorite music. Most people relax when they are asked to speak about a topic that they are fond of.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>Which superhero do you like best – either from Marvel or DC Comics?</strong><br /> <br /> Wow! What a fantastic way to discuss pros and cons of your favorite superheroes. Provided your date likes Marvel and/or DC Comics, this could be the deciding factor for your next date - maybe a movie night with your favorite shared movie followed by a cozy dinner. If your date doesn’t like either, ask about their favorite movies and lead the conversation around that. Many people don’t enjoy action films but are interested in other genres or films. Be supportive and patient, you might just like another aspect of their personality.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>What food cuisine do you like?</strong><br /> <br /> Food questions are usually asked as fillers to combat awkward silences in conversation. Relax; everyone loves some food or the other. You can’t go wrong with this question. Allow for talk about food and its types. This could also lead to more questions on whether your date likes to cook and if there have been any disastrous kitchen incidents! Whether it’s vegetarian food or a yummy steak with mashed potatoes, you can definitely connect over food.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> Use these icebreakers to chill and have a healthy conversation. Always remember, that while you might be anxious or nervous, your date might feel the same too. Take a deep breath, wear your favorite perfume, and smile! Smiling always puts the other person at ease. Enjoy yourself and have fun! 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If your first date goes well, you might end up shopping with us!<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Thu, 09 Mar 2017 00:00:00 +0100 5 ways to boost your confidence before a date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-ways-to-boost-your-confidence-before-a-date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-ways-to-boost-your-confidence-before-a-date If you get super nervous on a first date you'll know that what should be a fun and exciting experience can turn into a stressful one. We all experience a bit of self-doubt and anxiety around dating, but if your first date nerves are starting to put you off going out to meet new people, you need to do something about it. Here are 5 tips that will calm you down and turn you into a super suave and confident person (well, less nervous at least!).<br /> <br /> <strong>Really relax</strong><br /> <br /> If possible, don't just leg it from work straight to your date, but give yourself a decent opportunity to get into a calm frame of mind. Give yourself at least half an hour to do something that will genuinely help you relax, such as meditation, drinking a cup of chamomile tea or vegging out in front of Netflix for a bit. If you're physically relaxed, you'll find it easier to mentally relax too.<br /> <br /> <strong>Boost your mood</strong><br /> <br /> You are naturally more confident when you're in a good mood, so do something that will give you a bit of a lift. Exercise is great at releasing endorphins, so go for a run or a brisk walk to give yourself a physical boost. Listening to music you love as you get ready is also a great way to feel amazing.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Happy-Grass-Model-Denim-Woman-Person-1839955.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Make an effort</strong><br /> <br /> If you look good, you'll feel good, so make an effort with your appearance. Of course, you'll want to feel comfortable too, so don't go mad and wear a formal suit when you'd be more comfortable in jeans. All you need is to be clean and sweet smelling, so you feel great and your date can tell you've made an effort.<br /> <br /> <strong>Read through their profile before you meet them</strong><br /> <br /> Maybe you read every single word of every profile, or maybe you just navigate the site on pictures and instinct, but if you're going to meet up with someone, then knowing a bit about them first is a really good idea if you get really nervous. Going into the date armed with a few facts about them, and an idea of their interests, will help you to open up a conversation.<br /> <br /> <strong>See each date as a practice for the next one</strong><br /> <br /> If you feel like a date has gone badly, or you didn't get a second and you feel rejected, try to put a positive spin on your experience. Each date you have is great practice for the next one, and the more you do something, the better you get at it. Think of each date as a stepping stone to the moment you find someone that you really like, and you're less likely to feel nervous.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> <br /> Mon, 06 Mar 2017 00:00:00 +0100 4 brilliant tips for dating after divorce https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/4-brilliant-tips-for-dating-after-divorce https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/4-brilliant-tips-for-dating-after-divorce <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you are recently divorced, or you've just got out of a long term relationship, it's likely that the dating landscape has changed pretty dramatically from the last time you were looking. Even if online dating existed when you got together, there are now so many different sites to choose from, alongside a whole host of dating apps, that it can be hard to know where to start and perhaps tempting to write the idea off altogether. However, online dating is a brilliant way to test the waters again, especially if you're feeling a little bit nervous. Here are five reasons why.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You can take your time</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you're still feeling a bit raw from your divorce or break up, you'll probably want to take things very slowly, and online dating is brilliant for that. A dating site can act as a bit of a buffer between you and the real world of actually meeting up with someone new. Online dating puts you firmly in control because you can choose who you communicate with, how to communicate with them, and when is the right time to actually meet up in real life. Joining a dating site allows you to stick your toe into the dating pool to test the waters rather than immediately taking the plunge.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple(12).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 597px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You can get a good idea of what someone's like before you meet them</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Online dating allows you to get a fairly good idea of what someone's like before you commit to meeting them, more so than dating apps and definitely more than if you go on a blind date. Sites like mysinglefriend require you and any potential dates to fill out a pretty detailed description, which means you always know some basic details about them and you'll be able to get a good idea of what they look like too. You can also get a pretty good handle on what someone is like from their description of themselves, and even more so if you join MSF, because you will also have their friend's comments to go on.&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;<br /> <br /> You can keep things light</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you've recently come out of a long-term relationship, it's unlikely that you'll be wanting to jump into anything serious straight away. The great thing about online dating is that you can clearly state what you're looking for, so everyone knows exactly where they stand. Communicating with people before you meet them means you can set the tone before you meet up in real life: if you don't want anything serious, then don't be afraid to say so. There's nothing wrong in wanting to go on a couple of dates with various people with no more expectations than a couple of drinks and a bit of a chat.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Practice makes perfect</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When you've been in a relationship for a long time you lose the hang of meeting up, and perhaps flirting, with strangers. Think of your initial online dating experiences as practice: you can figure out how to deal with nerves, become comfortable with meeting up with strangers and generally get used to the idea of dating again. The more relaxed you become, the more you'll enjoy yourself.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 03 Mar 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Success story: Kate and Graham https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-kate-and-graham https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-kate-and-graham <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">There's nothing we like better here at MSF HQ than to hear from happy couples who met through the site. There's little that makes us feel happier than hearing that two of our MSFers have found love - it absolutely makes our day - so if you, or someone you know, has got together through the site, please get in touch at <strong>blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong> and tell us all about it. Our latest happy couple, Kate and Graham, dropped us a line to let us know their happy news.</span><br /> <br /> "I had been online for three months and had actually decided to delete my profile," Kate told us. "I logged in one last time to do so and there was a suggested match there that caught my attention. Graham looked kind and when I read his profile I screwed up my courage and thought... last try! I press 'like'. Moments later he had done the same and sent a message!<br /> <br /> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/image1(5).JPG" style="width: 640px; height: 480px;" /><br /> <br /> "We met for a coffee and talked whilst the coffee shop closed around us, and we had to move to a bar to continue. Five and a half hours later our first date ended! We got engaged on 5th June 2016 and are getting married on 5th August 2017. If anyone had told me before meeting Graham that life and love could be like this, I wouldn't have believed them. Thank you seems so inadequate a word for something that has changed our lives and future."<br /> <br /> Huge congratulations to Kate and Graham from all of us here at MSF!<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> <br /> Sun, 26 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 New to online dating? These 3 tips will guarantee success! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/new-to-online-dating-these-3-tips-will-guarantee-success https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/new-to-online-dating-these-3-tips-will-guarantee-success <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Even if you haven't tried online dating before, you'll know that it's firmly in the mainstream and many, many people have met their partner through dating sites and apps. The online dating world contains a plethora of delightful single folk and you have to shine to be seen: no longer can you just stick up a poorly taken mug shot, write a few adjectives and a list of films that you like and hope for the best. Here are a few things to bear in mind when you take your first tentative steps.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Need to know?</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> It's tempting to be very specific about the type of person you're looking for, but this is actually best avoided. Although having a strong idea of your perfect woman might make you more focused, it's very important to know that this is not essential and<strong>&nbsp;</strong>can sometimes hinder rather than help you.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/shutterstock_375336118(1).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> One of the benefits of online dating is that it can change your perceptions - you may think that the party animal is for you, only to find yourself attracted to a quieter type who enjoys lemon tea and knitting. Stepping out of your usual social circle will expose you to people and personalities that you haven't considered before.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Going on dates is a great way to figure out who might be right for you, whether they are triumphs or disasters. Spending an afternoon or evening in the company of someone you've never met before without an inkling of nerves is a valuable life skill. If you've no idea about the type of person you'd like to meet, just concentrate on having some fun and the perfect woman will turn up when you're least expecting her.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Avoid the tick list</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Many people love lists and putting things in boxes as it appeals to their inherent sense of making order. Unfortunately, most potential dates don't want to be seen as a series of tick boxes. You may need to put aside the fact that they aren't bowled over by your impeccable music taste or impressed by your enclyopedic knowledge of rare Japanese video games and concentrate instead on finding out what they're like as a person and if there's a bit of a spark between you. Give them a chance to grow to love playing Super Street Fighter Turbo IIIV with you, rather than dismissing them the second their tastes diverge from yours.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Keep changing</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> One of the most important maxims of online dating is to keep active. Most people will have an initial flush of excitement when they join, only to allow their profile to wilt after a time if they haven't had much luck with any dates or contact. It can be hard to keep going if you've not had much response initially, but if things aren't working then it might be time to change your approach.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> When you write your response, draw up a list of anecdotes and things you want to use and change it every now and then. It's helpful if you use something topical in there - a joke would be good - as readers will know that you're an active and engaged person and will respond to you.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> A common mistake many people make is to not take the time to consider their messages and the impact they will have, using the same message time after time like a battering ram and then wondering why they aren't getting any response. It then becomes a matter of just using the same cut 'n' paste message that they send to every new profile and eventually a dreary matter of numbers rather than exciting time sending a unique message to someone you really like the look of. People can sniff out a cut and pasted message a mile away, so take your time and think about what to write.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Feeling inspired to try online dating?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click here to go to&nbsp;<strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">mysinglefriend.com</a></strong></p> <div> &nbsp;</div> Tue, 21 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 5 easy ways to make the best possible first impression https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-easy-ways-to-make-the-best-possible-first-impression https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-easy-ways-to-make-the-best-possible-first-impression <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Everyone talks a lot of chemistry and spark and that moment where you just 'click', but meeting someone that you like, who, crucially, likes you back isn't just down to these things that sound a little like they're beyond our control. There are some very practical steps you can take to make a good first impression on someone, and it's really important that you do as research has shown that it only takes 12 minutes for someone to decide if they like you or not. Read on for our five top tips.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Make eye contact</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Sounds simple and obvious but some people are astoundingly bad at being able to look someone in the eye, especially if romance is potentially on the cards. Eye contact demonstrates sincerity and trustworthiness and shows you're interested in what the other person is saying, whereas staring fixedly over their shoulder or at your plate makes you look bored or possibly cross-eyed. If you struggle with eye contact then you need to get some practice in as it could really harm your dating chances.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple-1030744_960_720.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Be upbeat</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">An upbeat and positive attitude works wonders, trust us. Some people appear to be under the impression that appearing cool or aloof is somehow hugely attractive, but it isn't. You go on a date to have fun and that's much more likely to happen if you approach it with a good attitude and a fun demeanour.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Look and listen</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When you're on a date, really the only person you should be paying attention to is the person sitting in front of you (and the waiter, obvs. You don't want to go hungry). Look at them when they're talking to you and do not commit the cardinal sin of having your phone on the table, let alone checking it in front of them or playing Candy Crush Saga whilst you wait for the soup to arrive. Leave your phone in your bag or pocket and only check it if you absolutely must.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Ask questions</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Asking your date questions is a double whammy of first date excellence because it not only makes you look like an inquisitive and interested human being, but it also deflects the attention away from you if you're feeling a bit nervous. It doesn't matter what you ask them really (as long as it's not creepily personal), you just need to draw them out and find out what their passions and interests are. Once the conversation is rolling you'll feel more comfortable talking about yourself.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Don't be shy with the compliments</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Everyone loves a compliment, so don't be afraid to give a few to your date. Of course, don't go so overboard that you comes across like a loony, and make sure you stay very firmly away from anything that could be construed as creepy; simply make an appreciative comment about something you genuinely like about them, whether it's their shoes, their accent or their facial tattoo. Compliments help to break the ice and make people feel good, which in turn will lead to a successful date.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 20 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Success story: Nicole and Phil https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-nicole-and-phil https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-nicole-and-phil <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We're very pleased to introduce you to yet another MSF success story! We absolutely love hearing about happy couples - it makes our jobs so worthwhile - so please don't hesitate to get in touch if you met someone lovely through the site. We always love to hear from you! Our latest lovebirds are Nicole and Phil got in touch to let us know a bit about their MSF journey from dating to 'I do'.<br /> <br /> "I was not looking to join a site but had been looking through MSF as I was setting up a page for a friend of mine at the time," Nicole told us. &nbsp;"I happened to see Phil's profile, whilst looking for a date for my friend, and very cheekily did not recommend him to her, but instead decided to join the site and see if he would speak to me.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/stoneroses.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 525px;" /><br /> <br /> "Online dating is so much more 'the norm' now than it used to be, and it always makes for a good story to tell when you're in company. We both decided to join a dating site because of a similar belief that 'If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.' So it was absolutely worth giving it a try. We both really like MSF over other sites because the way it works made it comfortable to start looking. The people on the site have paid money to be there so are genuine in wanting a relationship and willing to make the effort to allow one to happen.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/wedding2.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> "Since I was from Glasgow and he was from Manchester we decided to meet in the middle in Carlisle. We spent the afternoon strolling around the interesting shops and drinking coffee, all the time laughing and poking fun at each other. As the date ended I went to give him a peck on the lips to which he responded by shoving me off and running in the other direction to get in his car. He later explained it was because he was worried he would get a parking ticket (which he did) and has never lived it down since.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Nicole-Phil-3711.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">"We got married in a private house in the Scottish borders in early December. We chose a humanist ceremony and it was entirely personal, even down to our vows incorporating song lyrics in them (Rick Astley got a few laughs!). Our dog Murphy and bird Mackie were there, and Murphy even got to give me away. We managed to combine a Scottish tartan vibe with Phil's love of board games, and classic games featured throughout the day. The Scottish contingent taught our English guests how to Ceilidh dance and the hilarity continued into the wee small hours. In a word, it was PERFECT.<br /> <br /> "We both wanted to take the time to say thank you for this fantastic website. Without it we would never have met and been so happy together!"<br /> <br /> What a lovely story! Huge congratulations to Nicole and Phil from the whole team at MSF!&nbsp;</span><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you're part of an MSF success story, please drop us a line at&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">and let us know!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Thu, 16 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100 How to keep your cool if you're single on Valentine's Day https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-your-cool-if-youre-single-on-valentines-day https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-your-cool-if-youre-single-on-valentines-day <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you're single, Valentine's Day tends to loom on the horizon like an unwelcome and very black storm cloud, ready to rain all over your parade. It's like going home at Christmas and being grilled by your family about your single status, except on Valentine's Day it feels like the whole world is joining in. There'll be the inevitable questions about how many cards you got, the smug colleague receiving a giant bouquet of flowers from an admirer and all those happy couples smooching around the place. However, rather than worrying about your single status, why not make Valentine's Day work for you? Here are a few suggestions.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Join mysinglefriend.com</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Whether you get a date for Valentine's Day or not, indulging in a bit of online dating is very empowering. And you should look at it as a well-deserved treat rather than anything else; it certainly shouldn't be viewed as a desperate bid to find someone to spend Valentine's Day with. The run up to the big red day is usually touted as one of the best times to join an online dating site, but we'll let you in to a little secret: it's actually a few days after Valentine's Day that there is a big spike in activity probably due to single people feeling the need to find romance after having their faces rubbed in it by all the smug couples. Whatever the reason, it's good news for you, especially if you're already established on the site.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/heart.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Go on a singles date with your mates</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you and a few mates are single, take yourselves out on a singles date on Valentine's night. Get properly dressed up and go for dinner, or at least for a few drinks and make the most of your single status. No doubt there will be plenty of other single people out there doing the same thing. The worst thing you can do is stay in and get all Bridget Jones about it by eating a tub of ice cream and drinking alone. Your friends are there to support you, and vice versa, so why not celebrate your love for them this Valentine's Day?</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Remember that the grass is always greener</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The other reason that going out with your mates might make you feel better is that there might be a bit of cold comfort in observing all the couples who are looking a teeny bit bored of having dinner together again, when they secretly wish they could join your fun and flirty table. It's important to remember that the grass is always greener and being in a relationship has its downsides just as much as being single does.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We'll be back in the run up to Valentine's Day with some more tips on making the most of it when you're single. Watch this space!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> Mon, 13 Feb 2017 00:00:00 +0100