MySingleFriend blog https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2016 Date night idea: Let's get physical https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/date-night-idea-lets-get-physical https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/date-night-idea-lets-get-physical Yes, in the immortal words of Olivia Newton-John, sometimes there's nothing better on a date than getting physical, but you can get your minds out of the gutter please, because we're talking about actual sport. Or if not sport, then at least something that doesn't involve sitting at a table necking large quantities of booze and might raise your heart rate just a little. Variety is the spice of life, after all, so why not surprise your date by suggesting one of these fun, active dates?<br /> <br /> <strong>A bike ride</strong><br /> <br /> What could be more romantic than sweeping down sunny lanes or through a beautiful park on a bicycle? Not much, though we recommend you keep off main roads as much as possible, especially if you live in a big city, or your date could turn out to be a terrifying dice with death, and we always advocate wearing a helmet. Pack a picnic in your basket and head out somewhere beautiful.<br /> <br /> <strong>Dance lessons</strong><br /> <br /> Whether you're as lithe Anton Du Beke or as graceless Anne Widdecombe, there's a lot of fun to be had in taking dance lessons with your date. Apart from the fact that you'll be either able to hone your already impressive skills, or try to develop at least one right foot, it's an excellent opportunity to get up close and personal with your partner and enjoy all that zinging chemistry.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/water-boat-lake-river.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Paintballing</strong><br /> <br /> Might sound like the least romantic thing on earth, but the thrill and fear of paintballing will get your heart racing and your senses revved up. Whether you play together and do a bit of team bonding, or choose to be on opposing sides and hunt each other down, this will truly be a date to remember. Plus, you'll get in some serious calorie burning exercise.<br /> <br /> <strong>Kayaking</strong><br /> <br /> Most parts of the country are near any area with a river or coastline where two person kayaks can be hired. It's a calm and serene way to spend your date (unless you end up in some rapids), as well as a great work out for the arms and shoulders. Plus, it might actually make you like each other more: a study of rowers from Oxford University found that members of the team who rowed together released twice the endorphins of those who rowed alone.<br /> <br /> <strong>Frisbee</strong><br /> <br /> If you really can't bear to exercise, then frisbee is the perfect cop out game. It mainly just involves standing in the same place (unless your opponent is terrible and keeps throwing it in the wrong direction) and is therefore perfect for a lazy, hazy day in the park with a few cold beers and a picnic.<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 How to date in boiling hot weather https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/how-to-date-in-boiling-hot-weather https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/how-to-date-in-boiling-hot-weather For a nation that constantly monitors the sky for the tiniest bit of blue and loves to have barbecues at the most inappropriate moments (in the drizzle, in a howling gale, in a highly flammable tent), we are somehow still woefully unprepared for an actual heatwave. Whilst other countries deal with their hot weather by dressing in cool clothing and going about their business as usual, safe in the knowledge it will still be sunny on the weekend and they can go and relax by a pool, the British tend to either throw all their clothes off and sit in the punishing glare of the sun until they're burned to a crisp, or carrying on as they normally would and succumb to heatstroke after refusing to remove their duffel coat on the tube. And we're no better when it comes to dating: we will cram into a tiny, humid bar or shadeless beer garden and become sweaty, dehydrated and decidedly unsexy within about five minutes. But it doesn't have to be be this way - here are a few ideas for keeping your cool on even the hottest day.<br /> <br /> <strong>Sit somewhere shady</strong><br /> <br /> This is very basic advice, but the amount of people who will sit in the sun until their skin literally starts to peel off is worrying. It's true that we don't get sun very often and people want to make the most of it, but getting sunburn is a) potentially dangerous and b) makes you look ridiculous. Rather than spending the evening getting progressively redder in the face and incoherent with sunstroke, meet your date in a shady spot and enjoy the heat without the pain.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple sun.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 394px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Picnic time!</strong><br /> <br /> Along with many other outdoor events, the British aren't brilliant at picnics. Sweaty sandwiches, warm wine and melted choc ices tend to be the norm, which is no fun for anyone. However, a little forward planning can make a picnic decidedly romantic and memorable. The most important thing to do is invest in a cool bag - you can pick one up in your local supermarket - and bring some food that travels well such as a simple salads sushi, bread, posh crisps, a cheese that benefits from being a bit melted and some booze that doesn't mind being a bit warm, like a nice bottle of red.<br /> <br /> <b>Make sure it goes swimmingly</b><br /> <br /> Everyone's immediate response to hot weather is to want to immerse themselves in a large body of cold water, and you shouldn't have to crush this compulsion just because you're going on a date. Apart from the fact that it quickly answers the "I wonder what they look like underneath their clothes?" question that we all ask ourselves, swimming together will be delightful on a hot day. It's also a great litmus test of your date's tastes: will they choose the posh lido where you can still sip some champers, the pond in the park and a couple of beers, or the beautiful river that takes an hour to find but is absolutely stunning?<br /> <br /> <strong>Stay indoors</strong><br /> <br /> Very hot weather is a bit like the music of Taylor Swift: fun when you imagine it, but spend too much time with it and you'll end up tired, irritable and desperate to get away from it. Rather than feeling obliged to make the most of it, why not do the opposite and just ignore it? If there is any indoor activity that you have previously avoided due to crowds, now is the time to do it, from a trip to the cinema to see the latest blockbuster, to that exhibition that's always crammed to that cool basement restaurant that you've wanted to try.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> Any tips for enjoying the gorgeous weather? Drop us a line at <a href="mailto:blog@mysinglefriend.com"><strong>blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> and let us know!<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Wed, 20 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 4 sneaky ways to tell if someone will be a great date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/4-sneaky-ways-to-tell-if-someone-will-be-a-great-date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/4-sneaky-ways-to-tell-if-someone-will-be-a-great-date <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When you're searching through dating profiles, there can be times when the sheer volume of potential dates can leave you feeling a little bit overwhelmed. There are only so many people you can favourite, and even less that you can message, if you want to have time to function in your every day life and stay in gainful employment, so it's good to know a few little tips and tricks that can help you sort the wheat from the chaff when you're looking for someone to go out with. Here are four questions to ask yourself whilst you're perusing the site.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">How much have they written?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You can always tell how committed someone is to having a good quality online dating experience by how much they've written in response to their friends description of them. A couple of sentences is fine, especially if it's a witty on liner, but if they've written just 'Thanks' or 'Message me' or something similar, they're not really giving enough away. A paragraph or two is the gold standard, but beware anyone who writes reams about themselves, because that might be their conversational style too.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/pexels-photo.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /></span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">How much can I learn about them from their pictures?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If someone only has one picture on their profile, it could be cause for a little concern as it either means that they can't be bothered to put up anymore, or it's the only picture of themselves that they've got, which is a bit of a worry in the era of wall to wall digital media. A good primary picture should clearly show what they look like, hopefully with a big smile, and secondary pics should show interests such as sport or travelling, as well as the all important pictures of them out with their mates. This shows they're a sociable and fun person, rather than a bit on the lonely side.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Do they want to learn more about me?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We're fans of cutting to the chase here at MSF, as too much time spent messaging can make a potential date go off the boil. However, the people you message should be interested in you and your profile, ask you a few questions and engage in a bit of banter. If they immediately ask you out for a drink, you should be a tad suspicious as, whilst they may simply be incredibly impatient to meet you, this can also be the behaviour of someone just looking for a quick hook up.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Have they got a bit saucy in their messages?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">There's nothing more fun than sending a stranger a few flirty messages, but if you feel that they're crossing a line and getting a little too familiar too quickly in their messages, you can probably guess what they'll be like in real life. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable is a step too far, so if the banter goes a step too far, let them down gently and move on to someone else.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 18 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Featured profile: Dan https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/featured-profile-dan https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/featured-profile-dan <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Dan(3).png" style="width: 249px; height: 247px; margin-left: 2px; margin-right: 2px; float:right" />Mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;is stuffed full of lovely people and sometimes we like to pick out a particularly fine specimen of humanity and show them off to you. There are plenty of things that make a profile stand out, but what really makes or breaks a profile is how much someone's personality shines through. However, sometimes the best profiles aren't the ones with a lenghty description - just a few words can say a lot. Our Featured Profile this week is the suave and sophisticated&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/gtdwazgtirev/admin/yes/preview/yes"><strong>Dan</strong></a>.<br /> <br /> <em><strong>What Julia had to say about Dan...</strong></em></span><br /> <br /> <p class="descriptionNew" style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; word-wrap: break-word; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Dan (jokingly, I think/hope) asked me to make some stuff up about him but I can't really see the point. The truth is much better than fiction.<br /> <br /> In short, he's interested and interesting.<br /> <br /> The long version is that he gets out there and does stuff; and not by halves. He's well-travelled and makes good efforts to learn the local language before he arrives (I can vouch for that; we took Russian classes together and he claims to have a whole shelf of Teach yourself... books). Of course, learning a language would be no use if you didn't actually talk to anyone; Dan talks to everyone. Not in a kind of I'm-drunk-and-will-talk-to-anyone way, more of a I'm-genuinely-interested-in-people way. It's brilliant (unless that sort of thing embarrasses you...).<br /> <br /> Dan loves London and soaks up its manifold cultural offerings: art, theatre, music, classes, markets; you know, life. I think he thrives on that kind of thing and would be a little lost without it.<br /> <br /> He's charming and considerate but knows his own mind. He's also mightily intelligent AND tall, dark and handsome. He's a textbook eligible chap<br /> <br /> As for you, the worst thing that could happen is that he'd take you somewhere lovely and you'd have a fantastic conversation about, you know, everything. And that wouldn't be all that bad, would it?</p> <div> <em><strong>How Dan responded...</strong></em><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Hidden talent required - juggling, firebreathing, lion-taming, double-jointed etc. All good.<br /> <br /> If you've got a hidden talent that you think would appeal to Dan,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/gtdwazgtirev/admin/yes/preview/yes"><strong>click to view his dating profile and drop him a line</strong></a>.</span><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you fancy being our Featured Profile yourself, or you'd like to nominate a friend, drop us an email at&nbsp;<a href="mailto:blog@mysinglefriend.com"><strong>blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong></a>&nbsp;and let us know!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></div> Wed, 13 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 What does your date's music taste say about them? https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/what-does-your-dates-music-taste-say-about-them https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/what-does-your-dates-music-taste-say-about-them Someone's taste in music is a very personal thing and something that can give away more about them than a simple conversation can. Talking about music is a fab idea on a first date, as pretty much everyone will have a favourite genre and artist, and probably a whole bunch of great stories related to the music they love, the bands they've seen and the memories attached to particular songs. So, as well as providing some great conversational fodder, a chat about music can reveal a little more about your date than they think they're giving. A three-year study by music psychology scholar Adrian North that correlated musical preferences with personality traits revealed the following surprising facts.<br /> <br /> <strong>Heavy metal fans gentle and introverted</strong><br /> <br /> It might seem unlikely, but people who love listening to loud, aggressive metal or actually most likely to be quiet, gentle types who enjoy one-on-one time more than going out in a big group.<br /> <br /> <strong>Hip Hop fans are sociable and energetic</strong><br /> <br /> Fans of hip hop enjoy the sociable aspects of music as much as the sounds and will enjoy going out and having a good dance. The study found that they are extroverts with high self-esteem, so you're guaranteed a good time, but maybe not much down time.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/woman-girl-technology-music.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Pop fans are outgoing but anxious&nbsp;</strong><br /> <br /> People who enjoy chart pop showed a lack of creativity in the study and also tended to be worriers, but they are also outgoing and sociable.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Rock fans are selfish but relaxed</strong><br /> <br /> The study found that classic rock fans are easy going people, but they do tend to be a bit self-centred. However, fans of the more indie end of the rock spectrum are creative and open to new experience, but suffer from low self-esteem, so it's good figure out exactly what someone means when they say 'rock'.<br /> <br /> <strong>Folk, jazz and blues fans are philosophical types</strong><br /> <br /> Listening to these types of music generally requires a more active engagement than other genres, and fans of folk, jazz and blues are reflective, open-minded and creative. They are liberal thinkers and probably very clever.<br /> <br /> <strong>Country music fans are hardworking and close-minded</strong><br /> <br /> Country music fans are pleasant to be around, high on empathy and lacking in pretentions. They are also more likely to be politically conservative and not very open to experiencing other types of art and music.<br /> <br /> Does this ring true for you and your date? Let us know at <strong>blog@mysinglefriend.com.</strong><br /> <br /> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">Join now for free!</a></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> <br /> <br /> Mon, 11 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 How giving everyone a chance is the best way to meet The One https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-giving-everyone-a-chance-is-the-best-way-to-meet-the-one https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-giving-everyone-a-chance-is-the-best-way-to-meet-the-one <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Back in the days of yore, when you'd live and die within a three mile radius and your choice for marriage was limited to your father's cousin's uncle's eldest or the village idiot, you'd probably learn very quickly to overlook the finer details of your beau's personality and looks, or lack thereof, and count yourself lucky to have made a match at all. In this day and age, we have a veritable smorgasbord of hot, clever, lovely people in front of us and we might reject someone based on the tiniest of details, safe in the knowledge that we can move on to the next person with a quick click.&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> At MSF, we encourage you to date as many people as you like because meeting people is great and going on dates is fun, but we would hate to think that anyone was throwing away a potential match made in heaven on the basis of some minor detail. If you are going on lots of dates, it can be easy to hone in on a reason why you think someone isn't appropriate for you, or decide that they aren't what you expected, but we suggest you hold fire and have a little think about things before you send them a message saying they just aren't your type. All we are saying, as John and Yoko no doubt would have written if they'd been in our line of work, is give your date a chance.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Get rid of your checklist</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> We all think we have a type and then get totally blind sided when the tall, blonde lawyer that we think we're looking out for turns out to be a petite, red-headed dentis. This happens all the time in real life, but much less in online dating because we are able to filter people before we've met them. Searching for that tall, blonde lawyer on MSF will only limit your chances of success, so lose the checklist and cast your net as widely as possible. Try searching for the exact opposite of who you think you're looking for and allow yourself to be surprised.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/sea-man-beach-holiday(1).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 480px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Meet people you wouldn't usually</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Of course, MSF is a two-way street and people will be approaching you too, so you can apply the above in this scenario as well. Don't just click 'thanks, but no thanks' because they aren't like the people you've dated before, or they're a couple of years outside of your age range, or two inches shorter than you'd like them to be. MSF is so good because people's friends have written about them, meaning you can get an objective idea of what they're like, but it's still only a bit of writing and no substitute for meeting someone in real life. So get out there!</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Give them a good chance</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If your date turns up to meet you red faced, perspiring and shaking and then proceeds to drop their cutlery and knock a glass of red wine into your handbag, you'd probably think they were some kind of freakish klutz and never see them again. And we can kind of see your point, but what if they were just really nervous and you gave them the benefit of the doubt, and the next time you saw them they were more relaxed and actually rather lovely? If you think there is the tiniest hint of something then it's really worth pursuing, so try to look beyond any first date oddities.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Put yourself in their shoes</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Remember that whilst you're making all these judgements, Judgey McJudger, whoever you're on a date with is also carefully considering you too. It could be you who gets lost on the way to the restaurant, or splashed by a car, or forgets their phone and turns up to meet a poised, calm stranger all dishevelled and sweaty and apologetic. Bear in mind that nerves play a big part in any first date and be prepared to be kind and considerate, just as you'd like your date to be to you.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">Join now for free!</a></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Fri, 08 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Date night idea: sushi making https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/date-night-idea-sushi-making https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/date-night-idea-sushi-making Learning something new with someone else is a very bonding experience, so we highly recommend going on dates that involve something a little more challenging than dinner and drinks every now and then. Learning to cook something delicious is even better, as you get to consume it all afterwards. Sushi is a bit of a divisive food: people tend to either love it or hate it and there aren't many people in between, so first you need to find out how your date feels about it. The chances are that if they love eating this neat, simple and delicious Japanese delicacy, they'll be raring to have a go at making it too.<br /> <br /> <strong>Going to a class</strong><br /> <br /> If you've never even thought about making sushi before, we highly recommend you go to a class. A skilled and experienced chef will put you through your paces, showing you everything you need to know from cooking the perfect rice to using seaweed sheets to make those beautiful maki rolls. Going to a proper class will give you skills that go beyond those you can pick up for yourself at home, and you will learn a lot about the history and tradition of sushi into the bargain.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/sushi dating.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Freestyling it at home</strong><br /> <br /> Of course, if you go to a sushi making class, there will be a whole bunch of other people there, which could really kill your romantic buzz. If you want this to be an occasion for just the two of you, then you should probably just get cracking at home. Of course, this date will require some preparation, so maybe make a trip to your local Japanese supermarket beforehand (or your local supermarket - sushi is pretty mainstream nowadays). The basics you will need are bamboo rolling mats, cling film, a very sharp knife and some good quality ingredients, which should include sushi rice, rice vinegar, nori (seaweed sheets) and fish. Make sure that the fish you buy is labelled as 'sushi grade' or 'sashimi grade', because it needs to be fresh enough to consume raw. We also recommend finding a book or <a href="http://makemysushi.com/"><strong>online guide</strong></a> that will show you the basics before you get started.<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Wed, 06 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Love WImbledon? Then you'll love these dating ideas... https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/love-wimbledon-then-youll-love-these-dating-ideas https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/love-wimbledon-then-youll-love-these-dating-ideas Though the biggest tennis event of the year has been a bit overshadowed by recent events, the excitement of Wimbledon has still been unfolding down in leafy SW19. Andy Murray is still in the tournament and has a very real chance of making it to the final, and Roger Federer and Serena Williams have been ripping up the turf with some impressive play. We love the annual jamboree of squash, strawberries and impromptu Cliff Richard performances, and not just for the tennis: there are some excellent dating opportunities to be had. Here are a few ideas...<br /> <br /> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Queue for day tickets</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you decided you wanted to buy a ticket online to see a match (without booking months in advance) you'd have no chance, but Wimbledon has a little quirk in that it releases spare tickets every day. The only thing is that you have to queue up for a chance to get them and, with Wimbledon being as popular as it is, that's a pretty long queue; people tend to camp out overnight. Now, a very long queue may not initially strike you as a thrilling date, but actually a very good time can be had. You get plenty of opportunity to chat, there's the buzz of the crowd around you, you can take some fold up chairs and have a picnic and a bottle of fizz and then, hopefully, you can watch an exciting game of world class tennis. Good times.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Watch from Henman Hill</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If queuing isn't your bag, and you don't mind missing out on the live action, then take your date for a picnic on Henman Hill (or Murray Mound as it's now, slightly disturbingly, known), a lovely grassy knoll just north of Centre Court with a great, big screen showing the current match. You get all the atmosphere, plus the genuine sound of the pit pat of the balls and gasps of the crowds from the court, and all for free. Take a blanket, a picnic and a bottle of fizz for a truly classy date.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/wimbledon.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 436px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Play a game of tennis</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you're an active type, all this sitting around queuing and watching might not do it for you. We suggest getting out there and actually playing a game of tennis with your date. It might be a little bit left field for a first date, as all that activity is basically going to mean you end up a red-faced, sweating monster in joggers rather than a beautiful, well-dressed model/angel, but, actually, if they've seen you at your worst and they still like you, then you're probably on to a winner. And it doesn't really matter if you can't play as this means you won't take it seriously and you'll have a good laugh.<br /> <br /> <strong>Find a big screen</strong><br /> <br /> Many cities now show Wimbledon on a giant communal screen, which is not much more effort than watching at home and allows you to catch some rays and enjoy the buzz of the crowd whilst you do so. A quick whizz around the internet will show you where to go and then all you have to do is turn up with the strawberries and cream.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> <div> &nbsp;</div> Mon, 04 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 5 tips for a heavenly first holiday together https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-tips-for-a-heavenly-first-holiday-together https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-tips-for-a-heavenly-first-holiday-together The idea of a holiday with your new found squeeze always seems like such a good idea: plenty of time to spend together, a romantic setting, a hot climate, an abundance of food, drink and relaxation. In theory it's perfect, but the reality can be somewhat different. Agreeing on a place to go, figuring out the logistics of the trip and then spending an unusually long stretch of time together can stress your relationship in a whole load of new and unexpected ways. However, there are a few simple things you can do to make sure you end up on a holiday from heaven, rather than hell.<br /> <br /> <strong>Ease yourselves in</strong><br /> <br /> Make your first trip a small one, so you can figure out how each other operates outside the norm. We're talking a short break somewhere close by: a weekend in a British or European city rather than six weeks trekking through Bolivia. Choose a destination that is easy to reach with minimal planning so you aren't piling stress on yourselves before you've even left.<br /> <br /> <strong>Be prepared to compromise</strong><br /> <br /> A good relationship involves the ability to compromise, so start now. You might be dead set on a romantic weekend in Paris, but your other half's idea of a good time might be three days wild camping in Scotland. Be honest about what you want - it will save a lot of difficulty in the future - but be prepared to change your ideas and try something different. You might even enjoy it!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple beach dating.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>You're going to have to have the money talk</strong><br /> <br /> When you go on holiday you're basically buying something together, so you need to be upfront about it from the beginning, as money is a tricky subject and, if left to fester secretly, can breed resentment. Are you paying 50:50 or is one of you treating the other? Will you have a kitty and pay for everything out of that, or will you pay for things separately? You should also have a talk about your respective budgets - if one of you earns significantly more than the other, you could have wildly different expectations about what kind of holiday you're having. A short talk about it now could save a lot of problems later.<br /> <br /> <strong>Don't be militant about the itinerary</strong><br /> <br /> The point of your holiday is to have some time to really get to know each other, so don't fill your holiday so full with plans that you end up rushing from place to place in a massive stress, end up arguing and have a terrible time. Of course it's good to have a vague idea of some things you'd like to see and do when you arrive, but be prepared to relax and go with the flow as well.<br /> <br /> <strong>Remember that it might not be perfect</strong><br /> <br /> We don't want to kill your buzz, but real life happens on holiday too, so don't expect everything to be completely perfect and then get upset when something goes wrong. Building something up too much inevitably ends in disaster, so make sure you pack your sense of humour along with you swimming costume. If you're realistic about your trip, you're much more likely to have an amazing time.<br /> <br /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 01 Jul 2016 00:00:00 +0100 How to be kind and let someone down gently https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/how-to-be-kind-and-let-someone-down-gently https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/how-to-be-kind-and-let-someone-down-gently If you're playing the online dating game well you should be dating lots of different people, and types of people that you wouldn't usually consider so, unless you're lucky enough to fall head over heels on your first date, there will come a time when it's your turn to say no. It's a scary thought, but you can let someone down gently and remain on good terms with them. Here are a few ways how.<br /> <br /> <strong>Be upfront</strong><br /> <br /> If you know there's no future in a relationship, tell the person sooner rather than later. The longer you leave something like this, the harder it gets and you don't want to end up married and mortgaged three years down the line just because you couldn't figure out how to tell them you weren't keen after the second date (and people really do get themselves into these crazy situations). If you don't tell them quickly you also run the risk of looking like you've been stringing them along, so matter how good your intentions, a situation you'll want to avoid.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple(8).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 493px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Be kind</strong><br /> <br /> It's important to be kind if you're saying no to someone during the online messaging phase, so you should definitely be kind if you're letting someone down after a few dates. Being rude or dismissive will only make them, and you, feel bad, so be nice about it. Tell them it's been great to meet them, but you don't think it's going to work out. Try to treat them as you would like to be treated in the same scenario.<br /> <br /> <strong>Soften the blow</strong><br /> <br /> We're not advocating telling barefaced lies, but you can fudge the truth a little to save someone's feelings. If you find them completely unattractive and there's not a snowball's chance in hell of things progressing any further, you really don't need to say that to them. Sticking with something generic like saying you just don't feel the spark will work well for both of you.<br /> <br /> <strong>Tell them face to face</strong><br /> <br /> Obviously you shouldn't do this if you haven't had a date yet - that would be mad - but you should tell them personally if you've met up a few times. It's common courtesy and will make them feel better than if you dump them by text or online. It's super important that you actually do tell them too: ignoring someone's messages or calls until they disappear from your life is the worst kind of behaviour. People need some kind of closure and leaving them hanging is both mean and cowardly.<br /> <br /> <strong>Unless...</strong><br /> <br /> If you're finding someone's behaviour upsetting or offensive then you absolutely reserve the right the block them or cut a date short. You should feel safe and comfortable both online and off and therefore if someone does anything that you don't like, then you can let them down as abruptly as you please. If someone does make you feel uncomfortable please get in touch with us and let us know.<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Wed, 29 Jun 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Why having a 'type' could harm your dating chances https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-having-a-type-could-harm-your-dating-chances https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-having-a-type-could-harm-your-dating-chances <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">As humans we're creatures of habit and this extends to the type of people we think we might like to date. If you've decided that you only like tall people with red hair who like playing tennis and eating clams (this is just an example, of course) then you've hugely limited your dating chances before you've even started. Having a 'type' is like a negative form of editing your experience of the world: you'll miss out on an awful lot of attractive, lovely people simply because you're looking too hard for someone very particular. Here are five reasons to abandon your 'type' and cast your dating net much more widely.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Your type might not actually be that good for you</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We won't get too deep into dating psychology here, but it's worth having a think about whether dating a particular type of person has served you well before or not, and, if it hasn't, why you want to continue to date those people. They say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results and this applies to dating too. Breaking away from your 'type' might be exactly what you need to form a long lasting relationship.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/guess who.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 394px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Having a type limits you</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you only stick to a particular type, your dating pool will be very small and shallow indeed. Online dating is supposed to move you beyond your usual social circle and introduce you to lots of wonderful new people, so you'll be limiting yourself if you immediately cut out a lot of those people because they don't fit your criteria. Allow yourself to be curious and adventurous and we think you'll be pleasantly surprised.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Having a type might be a little superficial..</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If your 'type' is based on superficial qualities such as looks, job or shoe size, you need to have serious think about what it is that you're looking for. There's an awful lot more to meeting someone special and starting a relationship and, ultimately, you'll fall in love with someone for their personality and not for their looks or salary size. Ask yourself whether you're basing your 'type' on qualities that will, ultimately, not be very important.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">...And a little unrealistic</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It's important to figure out where your ideas about your particular 'type' came from and ask yourself whether this person could actually exist. It's easy to form an idea in your mind of the perfect partner and then compare real people to them, but this is setting yourself up for a serious disappointment every single time. If you allow for imperfections you're much more likely to find a lasting relationship.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Try imagining yourself as a 'type'</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You think of yourself as a fascinating and unique individual, right? Well, so does everyone else. You wouldn't want to be given the once over and popped into a particular category, so think twice before you do the same to other people. Giving other people a chance to become your type will increase your chances of meeting someone lovely, so forget about your type and open your heart and your mind to everyone.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 24 Jun 2016 00:00:00 +0100