MySingleFriend blog https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2016 Why being the last single friend is actually brilliant! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-being-the-last-single-friend-is-actually-brilliant https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-being-the-last-single-friend-is-actually-brilliant <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Being the last single person in your group of friends can be a total drag sometimes. If you've been to fifteen weddings in the last three years without a significant other, and spent too many dinners sitting next to an empty space, you're probably ready to pledge your troth to your Netflix account and stay in forever. However, whilst it might feel like a bum deal it also has its upsides, like every situation. Here are five reasons why you should be pleased to still be single.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Your friends secretly envy your freedom</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Seriously. Hopefully they're very happy in their relationships and they're very happy to go home with their significant other look at paint swatches, or whatever couples do, but somewhere deep within their hearts lies a smouldering ember of jealousy directed at you. When they made the choice to get coupled up, they also made the choice to renounce the fun of the single lifestyle - something that you are still at liberty to enjoy. Make the most of it before you get snapped up.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">There's no competition</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Back in the days when all your mates were single there was no doubt fierce competition on a night out when everyone wanted to hook up with the hottest guy or girl in the bar. Now when you go out with them you're the only one in the group who's able to make a play for the one that everyone fancies. You'll be able to feel their jealous gazes on your back as you strut over to start flirting.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You can provide a shoulder to cry on/drink with</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It's not all about making your mates jealous - it's also about being there for them. People tend not to turn to coupled up people when they're having a hard time, especially when it's because of a relationship, perhaps because they worry about taking up their time, or maybe because they don't want to spill their love troubles in front of a happy couple. One of the great things about being single is that people turn to you, as they know you have the time and space to listen. Plus you get all the gossip!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/shutterstock_429582343(1).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 472px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Everyone wants to set you up on dates</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">This is probably the best thing about being the last single friend. When your friends were single they would have snapped up an eligable date for themselves, but now they'll be sending every unattached, good looking possibility directly to you. This extends to mysinglefriend too - once your friend has signed you up they can search through the site looking for people they think you might like, which provides them with a bit of legitimate extra-marital eye candy and you with lots of potential dates.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">They can live vicariously through you</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Think of yourself as providing a service to your tied down, possibly-slightly-bored friends. They'll be champing at the bit to hear your tales of derring-do from the frontline of dating, so make sure you've got some good stories to tell, and don't deny them the pleasure of setting you up on dates or suggesting people they think you might like on MSF.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> Thu, 01 Dec 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Six ways to know when to time to stop dating someone https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/six-ways-to-know-when-to-time-to-stop-dating-someone https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/six-ways-to-know-when-to-time-to-stop-dating-someone With some people you date, you know from the get go that it's not going to work out. You have a drink and a bit of chat, but it's obvious there's no spark and it's easy to walk away with a 'thanks, but no thanks' at the end. With others, things are a little more subtle and, though it's not love at first sight, you decide you'd like to see them again. With these people, you'll probably go on a second and third date, or maybe a few more, before you start to realise that, whilst you don't have a major aversion to them, there just isn't a spark there either. And this is where it gets dangerous, because it's easy to drift into something that could start to be described as a relationship, even though you aren't 100% sure about it. Here are six ways to know when it's time to stop.<br /> <br /> <strong>1. You don't get butterflies when they message you</strong><br /> <br /> If you don't get a flicker of excitement when they get in touch with you, it's time to give up. Hanging on for the butterflies to start fluttering around is a massive waste of time, because, if you're waiting, they'll never arrive.<br /> <br /> <strong>2. You don't have a problem with flaking out on plans (and you don't mind if they do)</strong><br /> <br /> If you've got a genuine interest in someone, you will be very keen to see them, so if you find yourself breathing a sigh of relief when they cancel on you because you'd rather be eating cake and watching Westworld, you've got a problem and should call it off.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/when to stop dating.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>3. You haven't made any future plans</strong><br /> <br /> We're not talking marriage or where to send your kids to school, we're talking thinking about the next few weeks ahead. If you don't really care whether they'll be in your life in the next week or month, you might as well cut your losses and keep looking for someone who makes your heart sing.<br /> <br /> <strong>4. You keep asking your friends if they think you should keep seeing them</strong><br /> <br /> If you're into them, you'll know it. If you're agonizing over it and asking your friends for advice, it generally means you don't really want to pursue a relationship.<br /> <br /> <strong>5. If you're faking something</strong><br /> <br /> Whether it's laughing at their jokes, or having a wild time in bed, if there's any part of the relationship where you're faking it, it's time to knock it on the head. Not only is this no fun for you, it's also not fair on them.<br /> <br /> <strong>6. It all feels like a bit of an effort</strong><br /> <br /> The early stages of a relationship should be those heady, wonderful moments where all you can think about is that wonderful person.&nbsp;If seeing them feels stressful or difficult, or you just can't be arsed, &nbsp;then you need to call it quits.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> <br /> Tue, 29 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Featured Profile: Kelly https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/featured-profile-kelly https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msfers/featured-profile-kelly <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Kelly(1).jpg" style="width: 200px; height: 209px; margin-left: 3px; margin-right: 3px; float: right;" />Mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;is stuffed full of lovely people and sometimes we like to pick out a particularly fine specimen of humanity and show them off to you. There are plenty of things that make a profile stand out, but what really makes or breaks a profile is how much someone's personality shines through. However, sometimes the best profiles aren't the ones with a lengthy description - just a few words can say a lot. Our Featured Profile this week is the very charasmatic&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/jqjqfugtbyjqcx/admin/yes"><strong>Kelly</strong></a>.</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>What Ellie had to say about Kelly...</strong><br /> <br /> <em>Adventurous but a real homemaker...amazingly kind but definitely no pushover... Ridiculously charismatic but very modest, super ambitious but has a great work/life balance. Oh, and did i mention that she is also absolutely stunning both inside and out. It almost pains me to write this profile for Kelly as its very hard to believe that she is single but having spent the last few years growing her business and fulfilling her dream to travel the world, she is now ready to meet someone equally as special as her and to have a committed relationship. As her best friend i can say that whoever this is with will be one very lucky man indeed! Form an orderly queue guys...</em><br /> <br /> If you fancy a date with this beautiful lady, <a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/profile/view/id/jqjqfugtbyjqcx/admin/yes"><strong>click to view Kelly's dating profile and drop her a line</strong></a>.&nbsp;</span><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you fancy being our Featured Profile yourself, or you'd like to nominate a friend, drop us an email at&nbsp;</span><a href="mailto:blog@mysinglefriend.com" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;and let us know!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 25 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Five dating profile hacks that will get you noticed https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/five-dating-profile-hacks-that-will-get-you-noticed https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/five-dating-profile-hacks-that-will-get-you-noticed When it comes to online dating, just getting a basic profile and a couple of pictures up online won't cut the mustard. Online dating is huge and people who are looking for a date are spoilt for choice, so you have to make sure that your profile stands out from the crowd or you'll find yourself being passed over again and again. Here are five simple hacks that will give your profile a big boost.<br /> <br /> <strong>Be a bit weird</strong><br /> <br /> Or perhaps we should just say, be yourself. People are so keen to rub off their odd corners that there are loads of dating profiles out there that are so similar that they might as well belong to the same person, so if you want to get noticed, you have to stop being afraid of being different. Mention all the unique and unusual things about yourself and people will be intrigued and get in touch.<br /> <br /> <strong>Use a selection of pictures</strong><br /> <br /> In the age of Facebook, we've all got plenty of pictures of ourselves to choose from, so make sure you have a few different ones, rather than that favourite head shot of yourself that was taken four years ago and you can't quite let go of. A couple of close ups are a good idea, but also include full body shots and some fun ones that show off your personality as much as your looks. And don't forget to smile!<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple kiss.png" style="width: 701px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Bad spelling is a big turn off</strong><br /> <br /> Whilst a little bit of text speak is no bad thing, don't use it on your dating profile or in your messages as it is a massive turn off. Be sure to check your spelling too, as potential dates are less likely to reply if you don't know 'your' from 'you're'.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Use positive language</strong><br /> <br /> The more upbeat your profile is, the more likely you are to get a date. Research has found that profiles including words like 'creative', 'confident', 'laugh' and 'healthy' are much more likely to get responses. However, you have to make sure you're using the right kind of positive language, as bigging yourself up by using words like 'hot' or 'sexy' will actually turn people off.<br /> <br /> <strong>Keep things fresh</strong><br /> <br /> Your dating profile hasn't been carved in stone: you can change it at any time. If you aren't getting the kind of attention you'd like to, keep tinkering until you do. Changing your pictures and description on a regular basis will mean that people who might have skipped over you the first time round might see something that captures their attention the next time you appear in their searches.<br /> <br /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 14px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 14px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 14px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> <br /> Mon, 21 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Success story: Phil, Beth... and Cora https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-phil-beth-and-cora https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-phil-beth-and-cora Happy Friday one and all! We're celebrating in some style this week, thanks to a very exciting email we received. Phil and Beth met on mysinglefriend.com in 2009 and have been fantastic at keeping us updated on their wonderful journey together. They let is know about their <a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-beth-and-phil"><strong>three year anniversary</strong></a>, when Phil sprang a <a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-update-beth-and-phil"><strong>surprise marriage proposal </strong></a>during a romantic weekend away, and sent us some gorgeous <a href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/dating-success-stories/success-story-beth--phil-part-3"><strong>pictures of their wedding</strong></a>. And now they've dropped us a line to let introduce us to their beautiful new baby Cora.<br /> <br /> <em>"We just wanted to give you our next update since we got married two years ago: we've now just welcomed our MSF baby! Cora Eowyn was born in October and is doing great. Thanks again! Seven years later and we're still very grateful for MSF."<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/cora.jpg" style="width: 325px; height: 325px;" />&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Cora2.jpg" style="width: 325px; height: 325px;" /></em><br /> <br /> We would like to say a massive congratulations to Phil and Beth, and welcome to the world to little Cora!&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 14px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 14px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 14px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 18 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 What you DEFINITELY shouldn't say on a first date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/what-you-definitely-shouldnt-say-on-a-first-date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/what-you-definitely-shouldnt-say-on-a-first-date <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;">First dates are nerve-wracking affairs, even if you've got the confidence of Beyonce after a half a bottle of Babycham. You want to make a good first impression, but you spend half the evening feeling tongue-tied and then, once you've loosened it up with three ill-advised cocktails, the rest of the evening baring your soul and boring your date. There are an infinite number of conversational subjects that you might touch upon on a first date and no doubt they will be as sparkling and fascinating as you are but, if you want to make that good impression and secure a second round, there are a few subjects that you'd be wise to avoid, whether you've had one too many or not.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;"><strong>1. Your ex</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;">It should be obvious to not talk about your ex upon meeting someone new, but you'd be surprised at the amount of people that drag their baggage along to the date, empty it out all over the table and then pick slowly through the detritus. If you are mean about your ex, you'll sound bitter; if you speak of them in glowing terms you'll sound like you aren't over them (even if it just happened to end well). If you keep seeing this person the ex talk will naturally occur at some stage, so don't force it on the first date.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple date.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 468px;" /></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;"><strong>2. Your future plans</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;">Of course, if you want to mention work ambitions or the fact that you'd like to climb the Matterhorn backwards whilst wearing a sombrero, then you should, but relationship ambitions shouldn't be mentioned at this stage. Whether you want to get married in the next year and have four kids, or you plan on being a free-wheeling and footloose floozy for the rest of your life, your date doesn't need to know right now. We do recommend being honest about your intentions fairly early on in a relationship, but there's no need to trample all over any potential shoots of romance immediately.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;"><strong>3. Your "issues"</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;">Whether you've got an abandonment anxiety or you need to click your heels together three times before you eat a banana or you've got 43 scratch cards stuffed in your knickers, don't lay your problems or foibles on your date the first time you meet them. Your first date should be about showing off your brilliant bits and having a good laugh, and you don't want to freak them out with YOUR BIG, SCARY WEIRDNESSES. Save that for later, and comfort yourself with the knowledge that they'll have some equally odd, if not odder, bits. Lucky you!</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;"><strong>4. Your finances</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:14px;">It may be a peculiarly British reservation, but talking about money on the first date just isn't cricket. Whether you bathe in champagne and light your cigars with tenners, or you're about to try and pay your half of the bill with a maxed out credit card (and you've got four more in your wallet), don't go into details on the first date. Make sure you can pay what you need to, and leave it at that.<br /> <br /> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></span></p> Tue, 15 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 How to keep someone interested between dates https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-someone-interested-between-dates https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-someone-interested-between-dates You might think that once you've had a first date with someone all the hard work is over, but actually the time around the first few dates is crucial for making sure that you can maintain someone's interest in you. Before you get into the 'exclusive' zone, your date might be meeting up with multiple people, so there is always the risk that you might not make it past the first few dates stage. However, there are some things you can do to beat the competition and put yourself in first place.<br /> <br /> <strong>Don't be afraid to text first</strong><br /> <br /> The debate about how long to leave it before you get in touch after a date has been rumbling for, probably, centuries. Three hours? Three days? Or play it super cool and leave it three weeks? There is no hard and fast rule, and actually the most important thing is that you make your own judgement about it. If you feel like the date went well and there was a real spark, send a text the next day rather than waiting for them to contact you or get interested in someone else who is a bit more proactive.<br /> <br /> <strong>But maintain a bit of cool</strong><br /> <br /> Receiving one fun text after a date will put a spring in anyone's step; receiving several slightly needy texts is going to have them running for the hills. Send them one text and then wait patiently for a reply - don't follow it up or they'll feel like you're hassling them. If they reply, then all is good, and if they don't then they're a rude so-and-so who you're best off without.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/woman-smartphone-girl-technology(1).png" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Mention something from your date</strong><br /> <br /> Once you've established contact, keep in touch on a casual basis and build on what happened during your date. If you mention things you talked about and remember things they like or don't like, they'll appreciate your interest in them and will want to keep chatting with you. Building a relationship doesn't just happen when you're face to face, so make sure your texts are as fun and lively as you are in actual conversation.<br /> <br /> <strong>Suggest plans</strong><br /> <br /> When you're still trying to gauge someone's interest, it can be scary to suggest another date as no one wants to feel the sting of rejection. However, if you're both feeling to shy to suggest another date, then it ain't never gonna happen. So be brave and ask them out again, and suggest something to do, so you aren't both ambling around in the no man's land of not knowing what to suggest for so long that it never ends up happening. Even if you're just suggesting a coffee at a cafe that you love, you'll come across as proactive and thoughtful, which are very attractive qualities.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Pucker up</strong><br /> <br /> You have to let your date know you like them, and give them something to think about when they're not with you so, whether it's a kiss on the cheek on the first date, or a full on snog on the first, don't be afraid of a little bit of (appropriate) physical contact. With enough dating experience you'll be able to read the mood and know what is the right thing to do, and holding back when there's definitely a spark there will only put them off. He or she who dares, wins!<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 14 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Should I message them or not? 4 ways to tell https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/should-i-message-them-or-not-4-ways-to-tell https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/should-i-message-them-or-not-4-ways-to-tell <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When you're searching through dating profiles, there can be times when the sheer volume of potential dates can leave you feeling a little bit overwhelmed. There are only so many people you can favourite, and even less that you can message, if you want to have time to function in your every day life and stay in gainful employment, so it's good to know a few little tips and tricks that can help you sort the wheat from the chaff when you're looking for someone to go out with. Here are four questions to ask yourself whilst you're perusing the site.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">How much have they written?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You can always tell how committed someone is to having a good quality online dating experience by how much they've written in response to their friends description of them. A couple of sentences is fine, especially if it's a witty on liner, but if they've written just 'Thanks' or 'Message me' or something similar, they're not really giving enough away. A paragraph or two is the gold standard, but beware anyone who writes reams about themselves, because that might be their conversational style too.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/online dating messages.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">How much can I learn about them from their pictures?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If someone only has one picture on their profile, it could be cause for a little concern as it either means that they can't be bothered to put up anymore, or it's the only picture of themselves that they've got, which is a bit of a worry in the era of wall to wall digital media. A good primary picture should clearly show what they look like, hopefully with a big smile, and secondary pics should show interests such as sport or travelling, as well as the all important pictures of them out with their mates. This shows they're a sociable and fun person, rather than a bit on the lonely side.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Do they want to learn more about me?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We're fans of cutting to the chase here at MSF, as too much time spent messaging can make a potential date go off the boil. However, the people you message should be interested in you and your profile, ask you a few questions and engage in a bit of banter. If they immediately ask you out for a drink, you should be a tad suspicious as, whilst they may simply be incredibly impatient to meet you, this can also be the behaviour of someone just looking for a quick hook up.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Have they got a bit saucy in their messages?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">There's nothing more fun than sending a stranger a few flirty messages, but if you feel that they're crossing a line and getting a little too familiar too quickly in their messages, you can probably guess what they'll be like in real life. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable is a step too far, so if the banter goes a step too far, let them down gently and move on to someone else.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 11 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Six tips for dating a single parent https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/six-tips-for-dating-a-single-parent https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/six-tips-for-dating-a-single-parent Getting into a relationship with someone who has kids might not be something you thought you'd end up doing, but with around two million single parents in the UK, it's likely that you might end up dating one at some point. Dating a single parent is a different kettle of fish to dating someone who only has themselves to think about, but it doesn't mean that you can't have fun dating them and they may well just end up being The One. Here are six tips things to bear in mind if you want the relationship to be a success.<br /> <br /> <strong>Their priorities will be different to yours</strong><br /> <br /> When you're footloose and fancy free, you can prioritise your own wishes and desires first, but the same isn't true for single parents. As you would expect from a good parent, the kids will come first and you may never feel like their number one priority. If you end up feeling jealous or competitve then problems will arise, as you are likely to end up seeing less of them, rather than more. Be supportive and value your alone time.<br /> <br /> <strong>Your dates might not be what you're used to</strong><br /> <br /> For many people, the idea of a date means an evening (and perhaps a whole night) spent together. However, every time a single parent goes on a date, they have to find a babysitter, which is going to cost them money before they've even left the house. You might end up having a lot of lunch or coffee dates during the day, and only end up going out for a big night every once in a while.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/onlinedatingsingleparent.jpg" style="width: 701px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>You probably won't be able to see them all the time</strong><br /> <br /> If you're footloose and fancy free, you can spend your time however you like, but single parents tend not to have much time to lavish on anyone other than their kids. Make sure that you fully enjoy every moment that you do spend with them and keep in touch every day. Everyone appreciates a nice phone call!<br /> <br /> <strong>Be clear about your role</strong><br /> <br /> It's unlikely that your date will be looking to fill the shoe's of their ex, so don't worry about being expected to suddenly become someone's mum or dad. Your date is primarily looking for someone for themselves, so you don't need to have any sort of parental role, especially not in the early days. Try not to offer advice or opinions on parenting, unless you are asked for your thoughts.<br /> <br /> <strong>Is there an ex?</strong><br /> <br /> Most single parents have an ex-partner who is still very present in their lives, because they share parenting roles. You may feel jealous if your date maintains regular contact with them, but you really have to suck it up, as what is best for the kids will always be the priority. If you feel the green eyed monster approaching, remember that these two people split up for a reason and you have no reason to be concerned.<br /> <br /> <strong>Always be honest</strong><br /> <br /> As with all relationships, honesty is vital. Dating a single person is definitely more challenging than dating a person without kids, but could ultimately end up being very fulfilling. However, you need to be honest about your feelings and tell date if you are finding things hard. You need to be happy too, and communicating effectively is the best way to achieve this.<br /> <br /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 07 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 5 of the best ideas for dating on Bonfire Night https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-of-the-best-ideas-for-dating-on-bonfire-night https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-of-the-best-ideas-for-dating-on-bonfire-night As you may or may not know, mysinglefriend.com is offering free messaging this weekend so that everyone can find themselves a fizz popping date for Bonfire Night!&nbsp;<span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Of all the annual events we have in the UK, Bonfire Night is by far the best for dating. Getting all bundled up in your favourite jumper, hat and gloves and watching fireworks is wonderfully romantic, plus being outdoors in the cold gives you the perfect excuse to snuggle up to your date. Throw in a toffee apple and a cup of mulled cider and you've got yourself the perfect evening. Here are five fab ideas for making the most of it!</span><br /> <br /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Crack open a packet of sparklers</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Looking at fireworks is great, but being able to hold them in your hand is another thing all together. No one gets over the childish joy of waving a sparkler around, and you can also make the cutely romantic gesture of writing your date's name in the air (just make sure you know how to spell it).</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Have a spin on the London Eye</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Watching one firework display is lovely, but what if you could watch them all? If you time it right you could watch pretty much every firework display in London, all from the comfort and warmth of a pod on the London Eye. Why not really push the boat out and enjoy a glass of champagne during your trip? The ultimate in Bonfire Night romance.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/fireworks.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Go up a big hill</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Wherever you live, there should be a suitably big hill that you can climb and enjoy all the local firework displays, as well as the random ones that brave (or possibly foolish) people set off in their back gardens. Wrap up warm, take a flask of something warm and alcoholic, and soak up the views.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Have your own bonfire</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It doesn't have to be about fireworks - you can celebrate Bonfire Night with a nice little fire in your own back yard. Pop on some tunes, open a bottle of wine and, most importantly, purchase a nice big bag of marshmallows to roast.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Or go to an organised event</strong><br /> <br /> If you live in a big city, you will be spoint for choice when it comes to choosing a display to go to, but even small towns and villages usually have some sort of event. Whether you go to a massive one like the Alexandra Palace Fireworfs Festival, or something small in your local pub's back garden, you're guaranteed a fine time.&nbsp;</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 04 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100 6 ways to remove the stress from dating https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/6-ways-to-remove-the-stress-from-dating https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/6-ways-to-remove-the-stress-from-dating Dating should be fun and exciting, and we hope that's your usual experience of it, but like anything else in the world, it can be a little stressful at times. Whether you struggle to write first messages or you get all clammy palmed at the mere thought of actually meeting up with someone, there are lots of potential pitfalls that might make you want to stay at home with a&nbsp;<em>House of Cards</em>&nbsp;box set and never go on a date again. However, there are a few simple tips that can help remove the stress and keep it fun.<br /> <br /> <strong>Don't get too invested too early</strong><br /> <br /> And by early, we mean the online stage. If you message someone and they don't reply, so what? There could be a million reasons why someone doesn't respond, from being too busy to engage in online dating right now, to being the type of flake that you wouldn't want to date anyway. Don't worry about people that don't reply and concentrate on those that do.<br /> <br /> <strong>Your messages don't have to win awards</strong><br /> <br /> Seriously. You're crafting an online dating message, not Nobel Prize-winning literature. Make sure your spelling and punctuation is up to scratch, keep things upbeat and ask some questions: that's all you need to do.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple-love-water-summer-large.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Hold onto your perspective</strong><br /> <br /> When you do get a date, remember that that is all it is: a date. You're not performing brain surgery or diffusing a bomb; you're simply meeting up with another human being who seems quite pleasant. You should definitely not treat dates as auditions for potential marriage material as this will really pile the pressure on and make you feel stressed. You just need to find out if they pique your interest enough to see them again.<br /> <br /> <strong>Keep things simple</strong><br /> <br /> Complications generally lead to stress, so make sure your first date is as simple as possible. Don't arrange a three course dinner at the poshest restaurant in town, or a trip to the cinema to see an obscure art house film; all you need to do at this stage is sit down together and have a chat, so arrange to have a coffee or a drink and see how things go. That way you won't have to suffer the stress of seeing out the rest of the date when you know it just isn't happening.<br /> <br /> <strong>Be yourself</strong><br /> <br /> Yes, it's a massive cliche, but cliches always hold a lot of truth. From writing your profile to meeting up with someone, you should always be yourself, or your going to run into a world of stress further down the line. You want to meet someone who's into you, not some airbrushed image of you, so be real. We guarantee you'll end up happier in the long run.<br /> <br /> <strong>Don't put too much pressure on</strong><br /> <br /> If you put too much pressure on yourself or have unrealistically high expectations for a date, you're more likely to feel disappointed. Yes, people occasionally meet The One on their first date, but this is rare, so don't feel bad if it doesn't happen to you. If a date doesn't work out, look at it as good practice for the next one, and get back out there.&nbsp;<br /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Wed, 02 Nov 2016 00:00:00 +0100