MySingleFriend blog https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2016 Guest blog from dating expert Katy Red! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/guest-blog-from-dating-expert-katy-red https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/guest-blog-from-dating-expert-katy-red We'd like to introduce you to the wonderful <strong>Katy Red</strong>, a dating, sex and relationship expert who recently won awards for her work from the UK Dating Awards and the UK Blog Awards. Katy's blog is called <a href="http://www.all-sweetness-and-life.com/"><strong>All Sweetness and Life</strong></a>, and is a treasure trove of information and tips for people navigating the unpredictable waters of dating in the 21st century, but she's popped over to the MSF blog to share her thought on what you definitely shouldn't be doing on your first date...<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/Katy Red.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 406px;" /><br /> <br /> <u>The 9 first date fails people make - and how to avoid them'</u><br /> <div> &nbsp;<br /> Dating is a minefield at the best of times. Not least of all when it comes to first dates.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> The anxiety of whether there’ll be chemistry, if the conversation will flow, that you’ll pick the right venue or that they’ll even turn up at all - there are no end of concerns people have about that all important initial first meeting. &nbsp;But fear not, first dates don’t need to be as scary as all that&nbsp; - if you’re about to turn a virtual relationship into a real time one but are worried you’ll mess it up, here are the 9 classic first date fails people make - and how best to avoid them.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>1. Turning up late&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> The absolute text book no-no when it comes to first dates.&nbsp;Leaving your date waiting for longer than fifteen minutes or so without valid reason or explanation, isn’t playing it cool, it simply suggests you’re not really bothered about the date in the first place.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> Not cool.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>2. Expecting your date to come to you&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> If you live in Brixton and your date lives in Enfield, expecting them to travel halfway across London for a first date is just plain lazy.&nbsp;Suggesting a neutral venue which suits you both (and ladies, that may mean a little travelling too) is much fairer and shows you’ve considered what’s convenient for them too.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>3. Make an effort&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> That’s not to suggest you should turn up in a ballgown or tuxedo but, sprucing yourself up a bit for a date or bringing a change of clothes to work if you’re meeting them straight from there demonstrates that you’ve made an effort and have pride in your appearance. And how wrong can you go with that?<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>4. If you can’t afford it, don’t suggest it&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Dating these days can be an expensive business, and it’s a bit unreasonable to expect dinner on a first date.&nbsp;However, if you do suggest a venue which is on the pricier side, than you should expect to pay for it - because if a £45 bottle of wine isn’t their choice, it shouldn’t be their bill either.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>5. Consider the conversation&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> With any luck, once the date gets underway, conversation should flow easily.&nbsp;Ask your date questions about themselves and be prepared to disclose things about yourself too, focus on details and remember, no-one wants to spend an hour talking about your ex-partner, especially not on a first date.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>6. Give them a chance</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Thanks to online dating, the abundance of single people available to date is ever increasing.&nbsp;With this, however, often comes a ‘grass is greener …’ attitude in some, and people can sometimes feel free to jump from one date to the next without really giving people a chance.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> When you’ve arranged a date and that person has made the effort to turn up, it’s only fair to give them a crack at the whip - regardless of what your initial instincts tell you, because not everyone is at their most relaxed within the first half an hour of meeting.&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>7. Easy on the booze&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Getting drunk with mates you’ve known you for years is awesome fun.&nbsp;Getting drunk on a first date with someone you’ve known for half an hour will make you look either silly, nervous or a person in need of a stint at The Priory. &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>8. Make sure they get home safely&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Which doesn’t need to mean you pay for a cab to their door, but just that, at midnight on a rainy Tuesday, you make sure they’re at least on their way before you scarper. &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>9. Send a text&nbsp;</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Because regardless of whether you want to see your date again or not, they’ve given up an evening to get to know you and sending a text to make sure they got home OK or to tell them you’ve had a nice time is common courtesy. &nbsp;Which&nbsp;might&nbsp;not&nbsp;leaving them&nbsp;remembering you as 'the one' but will definitely leave&nbsp;them&nbsp;remembering you as the one with manners - and what's not to love about that.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> Thanks so much to Katy for her excellent advice. She will be back again very soon with more expert dating tips!<br /> <br /> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> </div> <br /> Wed, 28 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 How to write a response that will guarantee you a date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-write-a-response-that-will-guarantee-you-a-date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-write-a-response-that-will-guarantee-you-a-date <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-family:century gothic,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">Why does&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;work so brilliantly? Well, the clue's in the title: it's because your friends are involved. Having a friend write your description means that potential dates see the real you and it also places you within a context, that of a sociable and delightful person with lots of mates. Once your friend has done their bit, you might think you can sit back and wait for the offers to come flooding in, but you do have a bit of responsibility and that's writing your response. It's as important as your description and gives you even more of an opportunity to flaunt your fabulousness. Here are our top response writing tips...<br /> <br /> <strong>Write&nbsp;</strong><em><strong>something</strong></em><strong>...</strong><br /> <br /> We're always suprised by the amount of people who leave the box blank, or just write 'Thanks Sharon!' or even just 'x'. If you want a date, you'll have to do better than that. If you really find it hard to write about yourself, a sentence or two is better than nothing. And remember, you can always alter your response, so if you feel too pressured to write something great during the sign-up process, you can take your time over it and add it later.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/shutterstock_326764691.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-family:century gothic,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;"><strong>...but not an essay</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-family:century gothic,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">Be prepared to edit yourself. You want to tell us about your personality and interests, but potential dates don't need (or probably want) you're entire life story. A couple of paragraphs of upbeat, witty entertainment is what's required.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-family:century gothic,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;"><strong>Tell us about yourself</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-family:century gothic,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">Talk about yourself, your hobbies, your favourite film, your favourite book, your favourite member of One Direction, the places you like to go on holiday, the type of jokes that make you laugh, all those little details that make you tick. And talk about the type of person you'd like to meet, as well. Just writing 'Thanks Sharon. If you'd like to know more, get in touch' doesn't really cut the mustard because, whilst vaguely mysterious, it won't make you stand out from the crowd.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-family:century gothic,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;"><strong>Avoid the cliches</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-family:century gothic,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">If your profile starts with 'Well, what can I say?', includes the words '...but I'm just as happy staying in with a bottle of wine and a DVD', and mentions meeting for a 'cheeky vino/rioja/mojito' then you need a serious edit. These phrases are some of the most overused when writing responses, so try and avoid them. You know you're an utterly unique and fascinating individual, so let us know it too.</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Mon, 26 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 How to keep your profile looking fresh https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-your-profile-looking-fresh https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/how-to-keep-your-profile-looking-fresh <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Some people stay on&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;for a long time, and we like that. Whether it takes them a while to meet someone, or they're holding out for exactly the right person, or they're just having a great time going on loads of dates with sexy new folk, it's all good with us; we enjoy a success story but we always champion the single. Now, if you do happen to be on MSF for a longish stretch, it's very important that you update your profile once in a while, otherwise it might start to feel a little out of date and, equally, if you used the site previously and have reactivated your profile it's a very good idea to cast an eye over your description, response and photos before you get back online, lest you're still carping on about the thrill of the 2012 Olympics like some sort of sports-obsessed nutjob. Here are some things to look out for:</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Up to date pictures&nbsp;</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If, as people often do, you left the site three or four years ago to pursue a relationship that ultimately didn't go the distance and you're now back and raring to go, you really should update your photos. Even though you might look a shade more youthful or a few pounds lighter in your old pics, it's important to be honest about your appearance, as turning up on a date looking obviously different from your photo tends not to go down well. If you don't think you look too different (and you might want to get an second opinion on that) then check for things that will obviously date your photos (like you posing next to a half-built Shard or similar).<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/online dating couple(13).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Correct details</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> It's easy to overlook the little details underneath your profile, but you'll do yourself a disservice if you do. If three years ago you were a proper party animal who went out and got plastered every weekend and was looking for someone to do the same with, you may have opted for the 'Drinks like a fish' option, but now you may have settled right down and only enjoy a moderate glass of red in front of&nbsp;<em>Bake Off</em> (may it's soul rest in peace).&nbsp;Your profile builds a picture of you and your lifestyle, so make sure even the little details are presenting you accurately.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Your description</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Depending on what they wrote the first time around, you might want to ask your friend to write a new description of you. People do change, and some information might be out of date, so have a careful read and decide if the description is doing you justice. You may even decide that you want a new friend to describe you; perhaps you've met someone new who you think has really got the measure of you, or you've discovered someone else is a brilliant writer and would do a great job. If you want to change your friend, drop an email to<a href="mailto:admin@mysinglefriend.com" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>admin@mysinglefriend.com</strong></a>.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Your response</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;">Responses tend to be be more time-specific than any other part of your profile, so make sure you really pay attention here. People mention events they're going to ("Can't wait to see Kanye at Glastonbury), television programmes they like ("Excited to start season 3 of Game of Thrones!") and music they are listening to ("I've just discovered a wacky new singer called Lady Gaga!"), and it's pretty obvious when they're out of date. Even if you're fairly new to MSF it makes sense to update your response on a regular basis anyway, as potential dates really like up to the minute and obviously cared for profiles. It'll only take a tick, and it'll make a world of difference.</span><br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> <div> &nbsp;</div> Fri, 23 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 5 subjects you should definitely avoid on a first date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-subjects-you-should-definitely-avoid-on-a-first-date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-subjects-you-should-definitely-avoid-on-a-first-date <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;">First dates are nerve-wracking affairs, even if you've got the confidence of Beyonce after a half a bottle of Babycham. You want to make a good first impression, but you spend half the evening feeling tongue-tied and then, once you've loosened it up with three ill-advised cocktails, the rest of the evening baring your soul and boring your date. There are an infinite number of conversational subjects that you might touch upon on a first date and no doubt they will be as sparkling and fascinating as you are but, if you want to make that good impression and secure a second round, there are a few subjects that you'd be wise to avoid, whether you've had one too many or not.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;"><strong>1. Your ex</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;">It should be obvious to not talk about your ex upon meeting someone new, but you'd be surprised at the amount of people that drag their baggage along to the date, empty it out all over the table and then pick slowly through the detritus. If you are mean about your ex, you'll sound bitter; if you speak of them in glowing terms you'll sound like you aren't over them (even if it just happened to end well). If you keep seeing this person the ex talk will naturally occur at some stage, so don't force it on the first date.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;"><strong>2. Your future plans</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;">Of course, if you want to mention work ambitions or the fact that you'd like to climb the Matterhorn backwards whilst wearing a sombrero, then you should, but relationship ambitions shouldn't be mentioned at this stage. Whether you want to get married in the next year and have four kids, or you plan on being a free-wheeling and footloose floozy for the rest of your life, your date doesn't need to know right now. We do recommend being honest about your intentions fairly early on in a relationship, but there's no need to trample all over any potential shoots of romance immediately.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/online daing couple.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;"><strong>3. Your "issues"</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;">Whether you've got an abandonment anxiety or you need to click your heels together three times before you eat a banana or you've got 43 scratch cards stuffed in your knickers, don't lay your problems or foibles on your date the first time you meet them. Your first date should be about showing off your brilliant bits and having a good laugh, and you don't want to freak them out with YOUR BIG, SCARY WEIRDNESSES. Save that for later, and comfort yourself with the knowledge that they'll have some equally odd, if not odder, bits. Lucky you!</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;"><strong>4. Your finances</strong></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size:12px;">It may be a peculiarly British reservation, but talking about money on the first date just isn't cricket. Whether you bathe in champagne and light your cigars with tenners, or you're about to try and pay your half of the bill with a maxed out credit card (and you've got four more in your wallet), don't go into details on the first date. Make sure you can pay what you need to, and leave it at that.<br /> <br /> <strong>5. Family problems</strong><br /> <br /> Pretty much everyone has got some beef with their family, whether it's because they've never forgiven their mother for that unfortunate bowl haircut&nbsp;in 1986 or something deeper and more complex. If you're going to go the distance with this person then they will pretty soon be absolutely au fait with your familial traumas, so why not give them a break for now and stick to something a bit less personal?</span><br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Wed, 21 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Why aren't my messages being answered? https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/why-arent-my-messages-being-answered https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/why-arent-my-messages-being-answered <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> When it comes to online dating, getting your profile online and sending out some messages is only half the battle, as you need some replies before you can actually make the jump from online to offline and meet some lovely people in real life. Whilst you won't receive replies to all your messages, you should definitely get some, as everyone is on MSF for the same reason. If you're finding that your inbox is disappointingly empty, you might like to ask yourself a couple of questions about the messages you're sending.&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Are my message titles eye catching?</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If all of your message titles are 'Hi', 'Hey', 'Hello', 'Howdy' or any other similarly generic greeting, you need to make some changes. Inboxes are chock full of messages like this and if yours are the same then you're just going to blend right in with the crowd and slash your chances of getting some interest. If you can think of something witty that will raise a smile, then go with that, or you could reference something mentioned in their profile which proves you've thoroughly read their description and response, and are genuinely interested in them.<br /> <br /> <span style="font-size: 12px;"><img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/online dating couple(11).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 463px;" /></span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">Are my messages a good length?</span></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> The unhelpfully vague reply to this question is, not too long, not too short. Kind of middly. Long enough to impart a bit of info about you, mention something in their profile so they know you've read it and give them something to respond to, but short enough not to kill all your mystique by detailing every tiny detail of your life thus far, and then send them to sleep. Make sure you include a question too as this provides them with an easy hook to hang their response on, and allows you to demonstrate that you are a charming and inquisitive people person, rather than a self-absorbed nightmare.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Are my messages tailored to each potential date?</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> By this we mean, don't copy and paste your messages. If you do this and you aren't getting replies then you need to stop doing it RIGHT NOW. A poll that we took a little while ago found that 70% of women said they could spot a copy and pasted message a mile of, and we have no doubt that blokes will say the same. One MSFer told us: "It's so obvious when a guy has cut and pasted a message - there is absolutely nothing specific about you or your profile in there at all. Needless to say, I NEVER reply to those emails." Copy and paste messages are a false economy in the end as people won't reply - they&nbsp;want to feel special and know that you have a genuine interest in them, so take the time to write a different message to everybody and see if that doesn't liven up your inbox.&nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you've got anything to say in response to this then we'd love to keep the conversation going - drop us an email at&nbsp;<strong><a href="mailto:blog@mysinglefriend.com" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">blog@mysinglefriend.com</a></strong>&nbsp;and let us know what you think.<br /> &nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Mon, 19 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Why telling the truth on your profile is super important https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-telling-the-truth-on-your-profile-is-super-important https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-telling-the-truth-on-your-profile-is-super-important <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you're trying to make an impression via an online dating profile, the temptation to exaggerate a bit can be pretty big. You only have a bit of writing and a few pictures to attract your dream date, so it might seem like a good idea to dress things up a bit; a couple of inches added to your height here, a subtly massaged job title there, and a few wild, exciting and made-up hobbies chucked in for good measure. It's possible that this might aid you in initially attracting a message exchange and an agreement to meet, but what you need to consider is what will happen when you actually see them in real life.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/person-woman-apple-hotel-large.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you've used an old photo of yourself and now look significantly different or pretended to be a different height than you are, you're going to get busted the second they see you. No one likes to be duped, so you'll be getting the date off to a bad start, and you'll probably both feel rather uncomfortable. If you're serious about looking for a relationship, then it's always going to be in your best interests to tell the truth and show them the real you from the start. If you've pretended that you have a better or different job than you do, or claimed that you go to the gym three times a week when you haven't been for three years, or told them you can speak four languages when you can't, they will find out. At best they'll laugh at you, at worst they'll find it hard to trust you.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> It's vital to remember that you're great just as you are and you don't need to finesse your profile with a few untruths to attract dates. The trick to getting those dates is to be proactive. If you see someone who takes your fancy, send them a mail; your personality will shine through your writing and get them hooked, then they'll look at your profile for the details. MSF also gives you the benefit of having your friend describe you - they'll big you up without pretending you're something you're not and they know you and appreciate you already.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> So make sure you tell the truth, because getting caught out in lies is a much more likely way to mess up a date. And remember - you're wonderful just the way you are!<br /> <br /> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <br /> &nbsp;</p> Wed, 14 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Long distance relationships; can they ever work? https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/long-distance-relationships-can-they-ever-work https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/long-distance-relationships-can-they-ever-work <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> In most people's minds, long distance relationships fall into the category of doomed-before-they've-even-started, a bit like the new series of <em>The X Facto</em>r<em>.&nbsp;</em>However, we say back off, naysayers, because long distance relationships certainly can work and can sometimes even be better than your average relationship. Sites like<strong>&nbsp;mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;have opened up the whole country for dating. Back in the olden days you'd only have a relatively small geographical area to work within, but nowadays you can be looking at hotties 500 miles away with a few clicks of your mouse. So if&nbsp;if it does turn out to be Mr or Ms Perfect is living on a remote Scottish peninsula, how can you make it work? Here are our top long distance relationship tips...</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Maintain regular contact</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Because a relationship is built on communication and if you aren't talking to each other, you aren't having a relationship. The modern world is full of methods of communication - telephone, texting, emails, Skype - so make sure you put them to good use. You need to be present in your loved ones life pretty much daily, even if it's just a flirtatious message. Plus, don't forget about the humble letter. Regardless of the state of the postal service, it will get to them eventually and it will give their heart a mighty flutter when it does. Post is exciting!</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Pursue common interests</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you liked each other enough to move from chatting on MSF to meeting in real life then you probably have some shared interests. If you both want to see the same film or enjoy the same books, watch or read them at the same time so that you can talk about them afterwards. If you both like playing tennis or running, keep up with these activities and talk to your partner about your successes and failures. You have to share a lot to maintain a long distance relationship, so you need to make sure you have enough fodder to keep yourselves going.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> &nbsp; <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/online dating long distance 2.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" />&nbsp; &nbsp;</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Make the effort</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Long distance relationships are of course more effort than your average. Getting on a crowded train at 6pm on a Friday night to travel 300 miles is always going to be more trying than getting the bus up the road and grabbing a curry and a bottle of wine on the way. Keep reminding yourself that this person is worth the effort and, crucially, keep making the effort to see them face to face. Of course, you might need something to spur you on, which leads us to...</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Talk about the future</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> A lot of us run for the hills the moment someone we're newly in a relationship with mentions The Future, but long distance relationships need a bit of extra impetus to keep them going, so be brave and engage in the conversation. If you want your hot new lover to come and stay with you on your leaking houseboat in the arse end of Norfolk, you have to be prepared to give something back, and that may well be the suggestion of a shared future together. It doesn't have to be huge, but they need to know that they'll be getting some return on their investment.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Enjoy the distance</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> A positive attitude goes a long way to making anything doable, so make your mind up to enjoy your relationship. Many couples would give their right arm for a bit of space, so relish the fact that your partner isn't around constantly, make the most of your me time, and you'll value the time that you are together even more. Enjoy the anticipation of seeing them, rather than feeling all weepy that they aren't around.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> And, of course, if it doesn't work out then you can return to MSF and jump straight back into the dating pool!</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Mon, 12 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Solo travel: The sexy way to see the world https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/solo-travel-the-sexy-way-to-see-the-world https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/solo-travel-the-sexy-way-to-see-the-world Solo Travel. Two simple words, one hefty amount of baggage.&nbsp;And I’m not talking luggage, far be it for me to judge if you spent half an hour crushing your suitcase till it closed (or if you’re one of those just-my-toothbrush type of travellers…).&nbsp;What I’m taking about is the bad press that solo travel gets.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> Too often solo travellers are met with cries of ‘D<em>on’t you have anyone to go with?</em>’ or ‘I<em>s that not a bit dangerous?</em>’ when really the big question should be ‘W<em>hy haven’t you done this sooner?</em>’ The thrill of going wherever you want without anyone holding you back is a sure-fire way to make you fall in love with life… plus someone with such a clear spirit of adventure is pretty sexy. Here are five benefits of solo travel that award-winning, solo travel company <strong><a href="https://www.theflashpack.co.uk/">The Flash Pack</a> </strong>reckon will have you packing your bags (or toothbrush) in no time.<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <em>PLEASE NOTE: This is a guide on why you should travel solo, what happens during and/or after your solo adventure is entirely your own business. I take no responsibility for any romantic entanglements, hangovers, outrageous stories to tell, post holiday blues, or your new independent self that is currently booking a salsa class.&nbsp;</em><br /> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>1. Get a Real Taste of Travel</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> One of the best things about solo travel is that you’re under no obligation to go to those overcrowded hotspots full of bumbags and tacky souvenirs. The best solo travel goes off the touristy track and gives you an authentic insight into your destination. Solo adventurers have no time for boring brochure drivel, instead preferring to live like a local and enjoy unique cultures and cuisine. The interesting/hilarious/heart-warming stories you come home with will immediately boost your party chat, and are perfect for any first date awkward silences.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/3 Pool Friends Solo Travel Flash Pack.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>2. Make New Friends</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> You may be flying solo both literally and metaphorically, yet this shouldn’t stop you from interacting with new people. In fact, quite the opposite should be encouraged. Where better to bond with someone than your mutual cluelessness at a Moroccan surfing lesson? Or your shared laughter at capsizing your kayak beneath a Croatian waterfall? And if helping conserve baby turtles in Sri Lanka doesn’t say friends forever, then I’m not sure what will. Endless adventures means endless new people to meet, and who knows what that may lead to?<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/2 Sri Lanka Solo Travel Flash Pack.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>3. Achieve Personal Goals</strong><br /> <br /> This one’s important. The best thing by far about solo travel is flinging yourself out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself to a life of no regrets. The best way to defy the media’s image of ice cream eating, lonesome singletons is to show people what a meaningful, vibrant and fulfilling adventure it is to be single. Solo travel is an amazing way to live life to the full and reconnect with yourself, all whilst ticking off your bucket lists and learning how others live in this diverse world of ours.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/6 Finland Solo Travel Flash Pack.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>4. Improve Your Physical Wellbeing</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Travelling alone is not all about inner harmony as you may find it has some physical perks too. For starters, your eyes will shine of the spectacular sights you’ve seen and your zeal for life will radiate off you as you confidently refer to the time you went on a Vespa tour across Spain. Also, exercise will barely feel like exercise when you’re surfing turquoise waves, or hiking the Atlas Mountains before swimming in a desert oasis. And for those of you more inclined to a cocktail on the beach, ever heard the phrase ‘Don’t get toned, get tanned’?<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/7 Chile Solo Travel Flash Pack.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 394px;" /><br /> &nbsp;<br /> <strong>5. Come Home Feeling Amazing</strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> After all your solo shenanigans you may be returning back to the same old job, yet I can guarantee you’ll be coming home a different person. Enriched and refreshed by your unique experiences, that adventure may be over yet your friendships and memories will last a lifetime. You’ll soon be planning your next escape of the ordinary and the beauty of solo travel means it’s 100% up to you.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<br /> &nbsp;<strong>The Flash Pack </strong><br /> &nbsp;<br /> Like the sound of the trips I’ve mentioned? The Flash Pack is a solo travel company that will catapult you out of your comfort zone without ever compromising on comfort. Whether you’re on a husky safari in search of the Northern Lights, prosecco sampling in rural Italy or getting an authentic insight into the vibrant chaos of India, Flashpacking always ends the night in a gorgeous boutique hotel (think of it as an upgrade on backpacking). Specialising in group tours for busy urban professionals, The Flash Pack takes solo 30-40 something’s on exhilarating adventures that are truly unforgettable. For your chance to see the world with like-minded singles, visit <strong><a href="http://www.theflashpack.co.uk.">www.theflashpack.co.uk.</a></strong> And be sure to spread the word to your single friends for a £50 Refer a Friend discount for every friend you tell!<br /> <br /> <em>By Flash Pack Travel Writer, <strong>Flora Hackett</strong></em><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Fri, 09 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 5 reasons why autumn is the best season for dating https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-reasons-why-autumn-is-the-best-season-for-dating https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-reasons-why-autumn-is-the-best-season-for-dating <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> So, summer is pretty much over. No more evening barbeques, afternoons spent lying in the park or al fresco dining, only the slow creep of darkness as we descend into winter. But hey! Let's not be down about it because first we have the delights of autumn, which, as we at&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;know, is actually the best season for dating. Not convinced? Read on for five reasons why.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>1. Clothing</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Layers, people, layers. Whilst popping on a flimsy shirt and your flip flops is lovely, summer weather doesn't leave you with anywhere else to go. In the autumn you can wear the flimsy shirt, plus a jumper, a coat and a scarf and dazzle your date with each. Autumn gives you options and won't leave you shivering at the end of an evening because it was&nbsp;<em>so hot</em>&nbsp;earlier that you couldn't imagine needing a jacket. Plus, everyone looks good in a snuggly bit of knitwear.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>2. Weather</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Yes, the heat has gone but was it that good anyway? We Brits spend the summer as hostages to the sun, throwing ourselves prone onto the nearest flat surface the second it peeps out, just in case that was the only glimpse we're going to see for the next ten months. Autumn weather is nice and cool, freeing you from red-faced, sweating panics about how much deoderant you're wearing but not turning you into a sniffing, shivering snowman. Perfect.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/autumn(1).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>3. The great indoors</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> The idea of al fresco eating is all very well, but we reckon more than one of you has spent a tricky date trapping wasps under wine glasses and fishing the charred bodies of candle-fixated moths from your pear and parmesan salad whilst ten ton lorries crash by inches from your plate. Autumn removes the temptation to look picturesque and continental at a pavement table and allows you to eat indoors like civilised people.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>4. Food and drink</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> And what things there are to eat! We all get our appetities back in autumn and can enjoy a hearty meal of piping hot deliciousness rather than a few leaves and a couple of barbecued prawns. Autumn is the season for the coffee shop date; all those warming, tasty beverages just waiting to be sipped. Aforementioned snuggly knitwear + hot chocolate = dating heaven.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>5. Things to do</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> In the summer everyone is too busy larking around outside with moths and wasps to do anything culturally edifying on a date. Why sit in the dark watching a classic film when you could be in a park getting repeatedly hit in the face with a frisbee? Why indeed. As soon as autumn kicks in and the world returns to its senses the cultural programming of the country slips back into its groove and provides lots of options for dating fun.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Need a date this autumn?&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now</strong></a>&nbsp;or&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>recommend a friend</strong></a>.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go the main site:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Wed, 07 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 5 ways to handle rejection and keep dating with confidence https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-ways-to-handle-rejection-and-keep-dating-with-confidence https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-ways-to-handle-rejection-and-keep-dating-with-confidence <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Dating should be, and probably largely will be, a fun and positive experience, but like every situation in life it has a flipside, and that is the possibility of getting rejected. How much being rejected hurts will depend on the amount you've invested in the relationship: being turned down for a second date will smart a little, whereas being dumped after several months of seeing each other will take a lot longer to recover from. However, there are some things you can do to lessen the upset of being rejected and keep making the most of dating. Here are our five top tips.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">1. Adopt a light hearted approach</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You can take early evasive action and shield yourself from a world of pain by approaching every date with a light hearted attitude and no preconceptions. If you arrive at your date expecting to meet the love of your life you're much more likely to be disappointed than if you arrive at your date hoping to have a pleasant chat with a stranger. This small adjustment in attitude will stop rejection from biting you quite so hard.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/man online dating.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /> &nbsp; &nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">2. Remember that it's rarely a reflection on you</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">There's an awful lot wisdom in the advice "Don't take it personally" and that maxim should definitely be applied to dating. If you've only met someone a handful of times you don't really know them, and they don't really know you either, so they aren't rejecting the real you, simply because they don't know who the real you is. If they don't want to see you again then it's simply not right, so don't waste lots of time worrying about what you might have said or done.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">3. You're allowed to wallow, but only for a bit</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Even if you've only had one date, rejection can sting a little bit and it's only natural to feel a bit put out, especially if you had taken a bit of a shine to them. If you're feeling a bit cross or upset, vent your feelings to a sympathetic friends and then, and this is crucial, quickly move on. The amount of time you spend wallowing should correlate directly to the amount of time you've spent with them because it's really not worth feeling sorry for yourself after just one date.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">4. Stick to the facts</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Be careful not to start telling yourself stories about what has happened, and instead stick to the facts. It's easy, especially if you're an imaginative type, to fall into the trap of ruminating what might have been, but this is very unhelpful. Instead of wasting your precious time imagining how things might have turned out, stick to the facts, which are simply that it hasn't worked out.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">5. Get back out there</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If someone says they don't want to see you again the best thing you can do is immediately get searching for someone else to date. Too much time spent pondering on what went wrong this time will only undermine your confidence about going on other dates, so don't waste your time. Maintain a positive approach to your online dating experience and get back out there.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 05 Sep 2016 00:00:00 +0100 6 ways to stop nerves ruining your date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/6-ways-to-stop-nerves-ruining-your-date https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/6-ways-to-stop-nerves-ruining-your-date <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It's natural to be nervous when you're going on a date, especially if it's a first date. Even the most relaxed chatterbox is likely to feel tongue-tied when meeting someone new, especially when there's the added element of figuring out if there's a spark between you or not. Apart from feeling like an entire butterfly farm is flapping around in your stomach, there are the added physical difficulties of extreme nerves, like sweating, turning red and feeling sick, which aren't likely to help you feel your most attractive. However, there are a few simple things you can do to help yourself calm down and dazzle your date.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">1. Call a friend</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you've worked yourself up into such a flap that you're a gibbering wreck on your bedroom floor and considering call the whole thing off, pick up your phone and call a friend instead. They will give you a bit of a pep talk, calm you down and remind you that it's just a date and it's meant to be fun. If you and your friends have got a Whatsapp group or other group chat, turn to them for support throughout the date - you can sneakily keep in touch when your date is at the bar.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">2. Enjoy some Dutch courage</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Nothing takes the edge of first date nerves like a little drink. However, the emphasis here is on 'little'. Turning up to your date half cut is not a good way to start, because you'll probably drink more on the date and end up doing something silly like being sick in their handbag or declaring your undying love. If you don't want to end up in an embarassing morning-after situation, hold back on the booze after that initial nerve-steadier.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/pexels-photo-58572.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">3. Dress your best</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Wearing a killer outfit will make you feel super confident, which will kick those nerves to the kerb and have you walking up to your date feeling like Beyonce (even if you're a guy. Who doesn't want to feel as confident as Beyone looks?). Apart from making you look and feel amazing, dressing your best will impress your date.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">4. Prepare yourself</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Spend a bit of time thinking about the date and which bits you're particularly worried about. If you're stressed about conversation running dry, have a couple of questions or anecdoes ready; if you're chronically late for everything, plan your route and leave loads of time. A little bit of preparation can help you feel in control of the situation and calm your nerves.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">5. Have an exit plan</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Many people get stressed about what they should do if the date is a disaster and they need to get out of there pronto. The trick is to plan this possibility into the date in advance. Rather than agreeing to go for a three-course dinner on a first date, meet for a drink instead. That way, if your date turns out to be the human equivalent of filling in your tax return you can leave after an hour.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">6. Get some perspective</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">At the end of the day, it's just a date. 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