MySingleFriend blog https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2017 3 unrealistic dating expectations you need to let go of https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/3-unrealistic-dating-expectations-you-need-to-let-go-of https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/3-unrealistic-dating-expectations-you-need-to-let-go-of When it all boils down to it, the main reason relationships end is because one or both parties don't get their expectations met. Of course, everyone has a number of expectations when they get together with someone, most of which are perfectly reasonable, some of which are less so, and the trick is trying to differentiate between the two. Here are three expectations that you might think are absolutely fine, but could quite easily erode the foundations of your lovely new relationship.<br /> <br /> <strong>"Once I'm in a relationship, my life will be complete"</strong><br /> <br /> If you're feeling a bit lonely and as if you're missing a piece, like a charity shop jigsaw puzzle, it's very easy to fall into the trap of believing that another human being can complete you. The truth is, no one else can ever do that, and thinking that they can will only put a huge amount of strain on a relationship when your partner inevitably fails to make you feel magically whole. A good relationship can add huge positives to your life, but only you can find that extra puzzle piece.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/shutterstock_275839052(1).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 493px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>"My new beau will want to spend every spare second with me"</strong><br /> <br /> Most new couples go through a stage where they disappear for six months and then surface six months later, remembering they have friends and family who would like to see them as well. This is perfectly normal, but it's vital to remember that after this initial crazy can't-keep-your-hands-off-each-other madness, your significant other is going to want to return to their social life and you won't be together every second of the day. If you don't allow them this space, your relationship will crumble like a bit of badly made flapjack, so make sure you're prepared to share if you want your relationship to flourish.<br /> <br /> <strong>"My new partner will be able to read my mind"</strong><br /> <br /> OK, so maybe you won't expect actual telepathy, but many people unrealistically expect their partner to know what they're thinking or feeling, and then get cross with them when they don't. Whilst your partner should come to know you better than anyone else, they are still not actually privy to the complicated inner workings of your crazy mind, so you need to help them out. Communication is the key to a successful relationship, so do both of you a favour and talk about how you're feeling.<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 16 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 We are UK Blog Award 2017 Finalists! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/we-are-uk-blog-award-2017-finalists https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/msf-news/we-are-uk-blog-award-2017-finalists We are very pleased to announce that we have made the final of the UK Blog Awards 2017! The awards recognise the best in digital talent across the UK, and we are very happy to have been nominated amongst so many other brilliant blogs. One of the judges for the Dating category is dating guru James Preece who has featured in all sorts of impressive media such as the Independent, Cosmopolitan, FHM, Men's Health and The Sun. We hope he will be suitably impressed by what we do! The winners will be announced at a glittering awards ceremony at the Park Plaza Hotel at Westminster Bridge in April.<br /> <br /> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/facebook-1 (1)(1).png" style="width: 700px; height: 368px;" /><br /> <br /> We'd like to say a huge thanks to everyobe who voted for us to get through to the final - we'll keep you posted on how we get on!<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 09 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 5 ways to give your profile a makeover worthy of 2017 https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-ways-to-give-your-profile-a-makeover-worthy-of-2017 https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/5-ways-to-give-your-profile-a-makeover-worthy-of-2017 So, we all know that 2016 was bleak for all sorts of reasons, and we hope that 2017 shall be an altogether jollier affair. But, whilst we haven't got much control over the wider world, we have got control when it comes to our dating lives and, more specifically, our dating profiles! If your profile is feeling a little bit jaded, a little bit neglected, a little bit 2016, then it's time to give it a fabulous new makeover for the fabulous new year.<br /> <br /> <strong>Give it an honest critique (or get a friend to do it)</strong><br /> <br /> When you look at something often enough, you tend to stop actually <em>seeing</em> it, and that may have happened with your dating profile. Try to look at it with fresh eyes and see which bits are looking a bit tired and need a revamp. Is the information still relevant? Are you still looking for the same things? Even the smallest tweaks can make a big impact. Ask a friend to take a look too, as they might spot things you miss.<br /> <br /> <strong>Photos, photos, photos</strong><br /> <br /> If you change one part of your profile, make it your photos. We tend to become strangely fixated on the same few photos that we think make us look good and therefore incredibly reluctant to change them. However, changing your pictures on a regular basis will actually make your profile more noticeable. Again, get a friend involved, as they will be able to help you choose some pictures with an objective way.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/shutterstock_326764691(1).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Update your description</strong><br /> <br /> If you've been online for a while, your description could probably do with a bit of a spruce. Things change rapidly in life and you may be looking for different things, be doing different things or want to attract different people, and if your profile doesn't reflect this, you won't meet the person you're looking for. Don't be afraid to give it a revamp.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Be memorable</strong><br /> <br /> There are so many dating profiles out there that it's vital that you stand out from the crowd. Don't fall into the trap of writing vague nonsense along the lines of 'I like going out, but I also like staying in' as any potentional date will click away from your profile in an instant. Let people know what you really enjoy and think, and you will have much more success.<br /> <br /> <strong>Make sure people see it</strong><br /> <br /> There's no use in having a great profile if no one ever sees it! Once your profile is fighting fit and ready for 2017, you need to get it out there and that means being really proactive on the site. The more likes and messages you send, the more attention you'll get, so don't be shy about grabbing that gorgeous person's attention!<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Wed, 04 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 7 foolproof dating resolutions you need to make this year https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/7-foolproof-dating-resolutions-you-need-to-make-this-year https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/7-foolproof-dating-resolutions-you-need-to-make-this-year <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Whilst today sees most of us return to the every day grind after a couple of blissful weeks of lying around watching telly and eating fistfuls of Celebrations for breakfast, there's also some pleasure to be had in getting back into the swing of things and enjoying the start of a brand new year. If you've decided that 2017 is going to be the year that you get out into the dating scene, and perhaps meet that special someone, we've got some excellent New Year dating resolutions that will ensure you bag yourself some fantastic dates.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">1. Commit</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You only get out of life what you put in, and this principle is definitely one that can be applied to online dating. Getting your profile online is, of course, half the battle, but you can't just rest on your laurels and wait for Mr or Ms Right to come to you. Make a commitment to proactively using the site and searching for people, even if you can only spare 15 minutes every day. We guarantee you'll get a lot more dates if you're committed to finding them.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">2. Make the first move</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">And it's not enough just to be looking at profiles - you need to be getting in touch with people too. Making the first move to contact someone can feel a bit scary, but you're much more likely to get a date if you do it. Set yourself a target: pledge to send at least three new messages every day.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/online dating january.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 465px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">3. Make it enjoyable</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Dating should be fun and sociable, and that can start online. The special bit about mysinglefriend.com is that your friend is there to help you, so get them involved in the process. Encourage them to log in to the site and suggest dates for you - we guarantee they'll enjoy themselves too.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">4. Be clear about what, or who, you're looking for</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Whilst we encourage our MSFers to cast a wide net when it comes to looking for dates, we also know that having some clear parameters can make things easier. If you know that you're looking for a tall teetotaller who lives within ten miles of you, then pursue only the people who fit into that category. Of course, if you don't know, pursue everybody!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">5. Say no, but be kind</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If someone gets in touch and you're not interested, try to let them down gently. You wouldn't like to be ignored, or, worse, have someone be rude to you, so don't do the same to anyone else. A simple 'Thanks, but no thanks' makes everyone feel better.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">6. Date smart</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">A first date should be a fairly quick meeting to scope each other out and see if you might like things to go further, so a quick drink or a cup of coffee should do the job. If you arrange something that will last longer, such as dinner, you might be desperate to escape after the first half an hour but be locked into the situation until you've awkwardly decided how to split the bill. Keep it short and, if you like them, then plan another.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">7. Don't give up</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It's highly unlikely that you'll fall head over heels for the first person you meet, so be prepared to be patient. You'll have dating disasters, dating triumphs and those kinds of dates where you leave just feeling a bit 'meh'. If you get downhearted, remind yourself that half the fun is enjoying the journey and you won't meet anyone if you don't keep trying.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 02 Jan 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Why being single on New Year's Eve is the absolute best! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-being-single-on-new-years-eve-is-the-absolute-best https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-being-single-on-new-years-eve-is-the-absolute-best So, you've made through Christmas as a single person. You've survived the Christmas parties, you've made it through the festive dinners full of couples and you've run the gauntlet of the annual family grilling about why you haven't got married yet. However, there's still one hurdle to get over on your own, and that's New Year's Eve. Lots of single people dread the occasion as it's easy to feel a bit lonely and sorry for yourself if you haven't got a special someone to kiss a midnight, but it can actually be a huge amount of fun to be footloose and fancy free. Here are five reasons to make the most of it.<br /> <br /> <strong>You can kiss whoever you like</strong><br /> <br /> Instead of feeling sad that you haven't got anyone to kiss, why not feel pleased that you've got the freedom to kiss anyone you like? Obviously we don't recommend you go for someone who is in a relationship, as starting 2016 amidst some self-created emotional carnage won't be nice, but you can have your pick of all the single people at the party. With this in mind, we suggest you choose your NYE event carefully. Don't surround yourself with couples and families, but instead gather together your other single friends and go out to a public event where there will be lots of new people to meet.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/london .jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>You can make your own plans</strong><br /> <br /> One of the biggest benefits of being single is that the only person you have to please is yourself. When you're in a couple, there is often a conflict of interest when it comes to making decisions about how to spend occasions like NYE and it can end up with someone making a compromise and feeling a little bit peeved about it. When you're single, you can choose to do exactly what you'd like to do and enjoy it wholeheartedly, without feeling guilty that you've dragged your other half along when they'd rather be doing something else. Which leads us to...<br /> <br /> <strong>You don't have to keep an eye on anybody</strong><br /> <br /> If you've made your partner or date hang out with your friends on NYE, it's more than likely that you're going to have to babysit them a bit during the evening, making sure they've got someone to talk to and are having a nice time. Whilst this is a thoughtful and caring thing to do, it can also be a bit of a drag. If you're just taking yourself to the party you can do exactly what you like, whether it's tearing up the dancefloor until 5am or having a three hour deep 'n' meaningful with a friend you haven't seen for a while.<br /> <br /> <strong>You can leave when you want</strong><br /> <br /> One of the most irritating parts of being in a couple is waiting for someone else to be ready to leave a party, or knowing that someone else is waiting for you. Sitting around waiting for your partner to have one more drink when you just want to crawl into bed is boring and annoying, whilst trying to have a laugh with your mates whilst someone is pointedly looking at their watch and rolling their eyes is even worse. If you're single, the night is over at exactly the right time for you.<br /> <br /> <strong>You can start the New Year as you mean to go on</strong><br /> <br /> There's actually something quite special about taking charge of yourself as a single person on NYE and you can set the tone for the rest of the year. If you want to have a wild time, snog loads of people and wake up the next day still a bit squiffy but with a smile on your face, then you can really go for it, but, equally, if you'd prefer to see the new year in alone and sober and wake up the next morning feeling hangover-free and fresh for 2016, then you can do that too. Having the choice to do exactly what you want is very empowering.&nbsp;<br /> <br /> We hope you have a great New Year's Eve and we'll see you in 2016!<br /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a><br /> <br /> Fri, 30 Dec 2016 00:00:00 +0100 The best last minute gift ideas for your single friends! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/the-best-last-minute-gift-ideas-for-your-single-friends https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/the-best-last-minute-gift-ideas-for-your-single-friends <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Left your Christmas shopping a bit late again? Us too. But do not fear, because we've come up with a selection of really brilliant Christmas present ideas that are perfect for your single friends. We don't really buy into the notion of Christmas being a woeful time for single people, as there's an awful lot of fun to be had when you're unattached and able to do whatever you fancy, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't buy your mates presents that reflect where they are in their lives. Here are five ideas that we think they'll love.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">A super hot outfit that they'd never buy themselves</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Once people develop a 'look' it can be very hard indeed to get them to change or vary it in any way, which can be frustrating when they're still insisting on wearing that bobbly knitted smock/knackered t-shirt when you know they could be rocking a slinky sparkly dress/crisp new shirt. Take matters into your own hands and buy them something new, then insist they wear it. They'll thank you for it when they start turning heads with their hot new look and newfound confidence.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/christmas.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 466px;" /></span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Take them out for a night out on the tiles</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">However much everyone claims the opposite is true, things do change between you and your friends when you're in a relationship, especially in the initial stages when people tend to disappear off the face of the earth, only popping up occasionally on Facebook to exclaim over their new found happiness and making their friends and acquaintances want to vomit into their keyboards. If you know you've been neglecting your single mates, promise them a good old fashioned night out on the town with no partners and lots of fun.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Get them a Netflix account</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If your single friend spends a lot of time moaning about having too much time on their hands, sign them up to Netflix or a similar TV and film streaming place. Once they've got involved in Orange Is The New Black, House of Cards or Game of Thrones, they'll probably forget all about their single woes and you won't see them until they stop hibernating in the spring time.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Sign them up to MSF</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">This, of course, is the best gift you could possibly give them. Whether your mate is quite happily single, or they've spent the whole of the festive season weeping into their mulled wine because they haven't got anyone to kiss under the mistletoe, they will really appreciate the chance to go on a few dates, especially if they have been resistant to joining a dating website by themselves. That is the beauty of mysinglefriend.com - you can get the ball rolling without them and then be there to support them every step of the way. They'll thank you for it when they're loved up and settled down come next Christmas.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 23 Dec 2016 00:00:00 +0100 The MSF Christmas Survival Guide for Singles part 2 https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/the-msf-christmas-survival-guide-for-singles-part-2 https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/the-msf-christmas-survival-guide-for-singles-part-2 <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Christmas can be the most difficult time of year when you aren't in a relationship or dating. Whether you're navigating who to take, or not, to Christmas parties, trying to figure out how to spend the bank holidays, or just negotiating difficult questions from nosy family members about exactly when you're going to get hitched, the festive season can quickly turn from some fun into something unpleasantly stressful. However, there are some simple coping strategies that can help you bear, and possibly even enjoy, this Christmas.<br /> <br /> <strong>Take matters into your own hands</strong><br /> <br /> Rather than worrying about all the Christmas parties that you've been invited to, take matters into your own hands and throw your own. You can invite only people that you want to see, so there won't be any lingering worries about bumping into your ex and their new partner, and you can make the party just how you want, whether it's a sophisticated evening of champagne and canapes or an all-out massive bash with a big bowl of lethal punch and a pinata full of Quality Street. Invite all your single friends, and encourage them to do the same, creating a nice pool of potential love interest for everyone.<br /> <br /> &nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/snow-man-592024_960_720.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Don't believe the hype</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">At Christmas, the streets, the TV, the internet, magazines and every single other bloody place you look appear to be full of couples and families have the most delightful and joyful time ever, whilst you lie alone on the sofa watching Netflix with only a six pack of mince pies for company. Feeling like you're the only person not filled with the spirit of Christmas is enough to get anyone down, but remember that it's mostly an illusion. Whilst people look like they're having a great time, it's often for show, as Christmas is a time when many people struggle. Make the most of your alone time, as there are a lot of people out there who would be grateful for it.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Get stuck into online dating</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If you've got a bit of time on your hands because everyone else is so wrapped up in family commitments, get online and start looking for people who are in the same position as you are. Online dating sites see a surge in new members during this time of year, so you're actually more likely to meet someone when you're feeling at your loneliest. This is a real opportunity to make Christmas exciting and fun, instead of mooching around in a pool of misery because you're single. If you're flitting around between dates and parties, you won't have a moment to spare to feel sorry for yourself. &nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Wed, 21 Dec 2016 00:00:00 +0100 The MSF Christmas Survival Guide for Singles part 1 https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/the-msf-christmas-survival-guide-for-singles-part-1 https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/the-msf-christmas-survival-guide-for-singles-part-1 <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">'At Christmas little children sing and merry bells jingle,</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The cold winter air makes our hands and faces tingle,</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">And happy families go to church and cheerily they mingle,</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">And the whole business is unbelievably dreadful, if you're single.'</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">From 'Serious Concerns' by Wendy Cope.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Yes, Christmas can be the worst time of year when you aren't in a relationship or dating, even worse perhaps than Valentine's Day, which lasts for a mere 24 hours, rather than a good three weeks. Whether you're navigating who to take, or not, to Christmas parties, trying to figure out how to spend the bank holidays, or just negotiating difficult questions from nosy family members about exactly when you're going to get hitched, the festive season can quickly turn from some fun into something unpleasantly stressful. However, there are some simple coping strategies that can help you bear, and possibly even enjoy, this Christmas.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Get busy...</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The worse thing you can do at this time of year is wallow in the fact that you have no one to spend it with, and this will be made much worse if you have too much alone time on your hands. Although it can be difficult turning up to every single event all on your own, you'll feel better for being social than if you spend your days meandering around in your own misery. There is actually a lot to enjoy about being single at Christmas - you can go where you want and see who you like without having any commitments to a partner - so have fun with it because you probably won't be single for much longer.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/bridget.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 350px;" /></span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">...but be prepared to say no</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Remember that you don't&nbsp;</span><em style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">have</em><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;to attend every single social event that you get invited to and some down time at this time of year is actually a great idea. Spending all of Christmas drunk, hungover and exhausted isn't going to do your overall mood any good at all, and some quality time spent relaxing and resting by yourself will be very beneficial. See it as time well spent taking care of you, rather than time spent being lonely.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Invest in a gorgeous outfit</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">There's nothing better for boosting your self-esteem than having an outfit that you know absolutely drop-dead gorgeous in, so don't be afraid to put some serious time and cash into finding it (you don't need to spend money buying presents for a partner, after all!). When you know you look good, you feel absolutely great and you'll be sashaying into every party like an even more glamorous version of Beyonce, rather than creeping in meekly like a little mouse. Make this your Christmas present to yourself and you'll soon be fighting off suitors.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We'll be back in a few days time with some more single survival tactics, so watch this space.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 19 Dec 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Why Christmas is secretly the best time of year to be single https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-christmas-is-secretly-the-best-time-of-year-to-be-single https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/why-christmas-is-secretly-the-best-time-of-year-to-be-single <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Being single at Christmas can feel a little more lonely and difficult than at any other time of the year. Everywhere you look - from TV to the high street - it seems to be wall-to-wall couples and families, all having a lovely festive time, and that's before you even reach Christmas Day itself and the annual grilling from well-meaning relations about your marital status, or lack thereof. However, if you're single at Christmas, you're actually in a very good position to bag yourself someone special to date.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Statistics show that more people join online dating sites around the Christmas period, and there's an especially large spike at the beginning of the new year, with some online dating sites reporting an increase in traffic as high as 350% during that period. This is most likely due to people having more time on their hands during the holidays to join a dating, but it's also likely to be people deciding to make changes to their lives at the start of the new year.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;<img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/christmas single.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /> &nbsp; &nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Phillip Hodson, of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, says that the reason for the surge in numbers is down to single people taking stock at the end of another year. He told the Guardian: "Christmas tends to be a period of review and revision, partly because it gives you the chance to observe existing models of relationship - the ones that you have, the ones you want to avoid and the ones you want to emulate.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">"It is also the winter pause when you review what has been missing in your life and what you want in it, and a period of great loneliness for people who don't fit into the government-approved vision of family. Many want a crack at feeling better than they did in the preceding 12 months."</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Making the decision to get serious about dating might not just be about having lots if spare time. Research from Florida State University have discovered that romance decisions made in winter are done so with more serious intent than during the summer months. Apparently this is due to the winter weather affecting our brains where a chemical 'love' cocktail of neurotransmitters, including oxytocin, dopamine and vasopressin, compel us to try and form new relationships.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Whatever the reason, it seems that Christmas is definitely the season for dating!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a> Fri, 16 Dec 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Dating at Christmas: The ultimate MSF guide https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/dating-at-christmas-the-ultimate-msf-guide https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/dating-at-christmas-the-ultimate-msf-guide <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The Christmas season is undeniably fun: a solid three weeks where you're allowed, if not positively encouraged, to indulge yourself in pretty much every way and generally have a lovely time. However, if you've just started dating someone, Christmas can be a little bit of a minefield. Should you buy each other presents? Should you expect to see each other on Christmas day? Is it too early to tell them that that snowman jumper fall on the wrong side of ironic and is just plain tacky? Handily for you, we've compiled a guide to help you over these festive hurdles.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Gift giving: thoughtful and generous or pushy and scary?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Generally in life it's a pleasure to both give and receive gifts, but you should have a little bit of a think about how your generosity will be construed before you give your date something for Christmas. If you've only been on a couple of dates there's no need to give a gift, but if you really want to get them something, make sure it's something small and inexpensive. Spending loads of money on someone will most likely make them feel embarrassed and possibly a touch pressurised, and what you imagined would be a romantic Christmassy moment could just get really awkward.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/snowcouple.png" style="width: 701px; height: 467px;" />&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Should I expect to be invited for their family Christmas?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Again, this one kind of depends on how long you've been seeing each other for, but even if you feel like you're a pretty well established couple, it's important to bear in mind that Christmas can be stressful and most people have a significant amount of expectation placed on them by family and friends. If you're a new part of someone's life, you shouldn't expect to be invited to partake in long held family traditions immediately. The most important thing is to manage the expectations of both of you so no one ends up being upset or disappointed. Communicate about what you're both doing and when you'll be able to see each other, be prepared to make compromises and remember that you'll have them all to yourself for the pretty much the rest of the year.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Should I invite them along to my Christmas celebrations?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It depends on the occasion, but generally, yes. Even if you've only been on a few dates they will be flattered that you want them to meet your friends or colleagues, and it will allow them to feel confident in your affection for them. However, have a careful think about which occasions are suitable. Your new date might not enjoy a night of heavy drinking with the lads, or, on the flipside, a few bottles of wine and an intense gossip with the girls. However, going to more general Christmas events will be a lot of fun, and you can treat them as a date in themselves.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Wed, 14 Dec 2016 00:00:00 +0100 Vote for us in the UK Blog Awards! https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/vote-for-us-in-the-uk-blog-awards https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/vote-for-us-in-the-uk-blog-awards The <a href="http://blogawardsuk.co.uk/"><strong>UK Blog Awards</strong></a> is a celebration of the best blogging talent in the UK and this year we are lucky enough to be in the running! As regular readers will know, the MSF blog aims to offer the sort of experience that you'd get from discussing your dating life with your mates: thoughtful, heartful, mostly practical and a bit of a laugh. A lot of the dating advice on offer online is a little bit prim, far too general or, as the internet can often be, completely off the wall, but the MSF blog offers something a little bit more personal and a lot more down to earth. The idea behind mysinglefriend.com is that everything is better when your friends are with you, and the mysinglefriend blog is very much part of that philosopy.<br /> <br /> So, if you're a fan of the blog, we'd love it if you could vote for us! 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