MySingleFriend blog https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog Welcome to the mysinglefriend(r) blog, where you can stay up to date with MSF news, views and the odd pair of shoes. en-gb MySingleFriend Copyright 2017 6 easy ways to give your profile a summer spruce https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/6-easy-ways-to-give-your-profile-a-summer-spruce https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/6-easy-ways-to-give-your-profile-a-summer-spruce New season, new you, right? Well, perhaps you don't need to go as far as a full on makeover, but if you aren't getting enough action this summer, it might be time to overhaul your online image a little. If you've been on the site for a while and haven't yet met that person who makes your heart go boom, a few simple tweaks to your profile can really liven things up. Here are six easy ways to spruce up your profile and up your chances of a bit of summer lovin'!<br /> <br /> <strong>Update anything outdated</strong><br /> <br /> It's really easy to write your profile and then never look at it again, because you aren't the one who's meant to be reading it after all. But you'd be surprised how quickly information gets out of date: new jobs, moved to a different area, picked up a thrilling new hobby - anything could have happened! Keeping your info updated will make sure the people viewing your profile are the ones who are best suited to the ever changing wonder of you.<br /> <br /> <strong>Freshen up your photos!</strong><br /> <br /> We can never say it enough: you might have one go-to profile picture where you think you look like your absolute best, but if it was taken three years ago then you're not playing the dating game fairly and squarely. Let it go and ask your friends to have a skim through Facebook with you to pick some new ones; <a href="https://www.glamour.com/story/why-you-should-not-pick-your-profile-pictures"><strong>studies have shown that your mates will be much better at choosing pictures</strong></a> that show you in the most positive light.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/summer couple(2).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>And scale back on the selfies...</strong><br /> <br /> However hot you look, you'll also look like a bit of a narcissist if you've obviously spent hours on end taking photos of yourself. Candid shots taken by others are not only more natural, but will show you've got some friends and better ways to spend your time than pouting into your smartphone like a Kim Kardashian.<br /> <br /> <strong>Take a pair of scissors to your description</strong><br /> <br /> OK, not literally, but don't be afraid to have a bit of an edit or rewrite the whole lot. Despite the received wisdom that people only look at pictures, descriptions are really important and potential dates do read them because it's the best way to get a genuine idea about your personality, so make sure what you've written demonstrates just how great you are.<br /> <br /> <strong>Be upbeat and spontaneous</strong><br /> <br /> Studies have shown that people find a sense of adventure really attractive, so include something in your profile about an exciting event that you've got coming or a holiday you want to go on. A positive, upbeat attitude and a sense of excitement about the future always go down well with potential dates.<br /> <br /> <strong>Be proactive</strong><br /> <br /> This is our golden rule here at MSF. If you don't make an effort to chat to people and meet up, why should you ever expect them to do the same? People who make an effort reap the rewards, so don't be afraid to be the one to make the first contact and suggest meeting up.<br /> <br /> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">Join now for free!</a></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> <br /> <br /> <br /> Wed, 19 Jul 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Are you dating an insecure person? https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/are-you-dating-an-insecure-person https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/are-you-dating-an-insecure-person <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Making snap decisions about people you've just started seeing is not something we endorse here at MSF, as we believe that everyone deserves a chance and also that some potentially beautiful relationships are nipped in the bud by judgements that are made too swiftly. However, when you've been on a few dates with someone you should be getting a fairly good idea of what they're like, and you should be noticing any potential red flags, as well as all the lovely things about them. One such red flag is insecurity, something that most of us have a bit of, but that can be a real difficulty in a relationship if someone has too much. Here are five warning signs to look out for.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">They put themselves down</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We can all be critical of ourselves, and sometimes we might share those criticisms with others, but if someone is constantly talking themselves down, it's a warning sign. It may be about their apprearance, such as calling themselves fat or ugly, or it might be about how successful they think they are, or how much money they earn. Which leads on to...</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/sadman.png" style="width: 701px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">They need a lot of reassurance</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If someone has had a terrible day, or is going through a difficult time, then it is a good and kind thing to offer them support and reassurance, but if they seem to need it constantly, then they are probably chronically insecure. Whilst you might feel like you want to offer someone this validation a few times, it's going to wear pretty thin if you have to do it every ten minutes.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">They've always got a chip on their shoulder</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">People who have a chip on their shoulder about something tend to feel that they have been unfairly treated or are in some way not as good as other people, which is a classic sign of insecurity. When ever your conversation strays near their insecurity they will most likely get very cross and self righteous about the topic and chew your ear off about it every time. Whilst they might feel a bit better in the short term, it's going to get annoying for you in the long term.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">They are highly defensive</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Nobody likes criticism, but most people can handle a bit of a challenge without too much difficulty. If your date becomes hostile at the smallest suggestion that they may have done something wrong, or they get very cross and uptight at the mildest bit of friendly mockery, they are probably highly insecure (though check in with yourself that you aren't taking things too far and just being plain mean). Defensiveness is hard to cope with in a relationship, so consider whether you want to back out now before it's too late.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">They are mean about others</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When you're out on a date in a busy place, it's only natural to do a bit of people watching and pass the odd, perhaps not entirely flattering, comment. However, if your date is constantly making negative comments or comparing themselves to strangers, alarm bells should ring, and they should ring even louder if your date starts talking negatively about the people you love and value, such as your friends and family. The absolute final straw must be if they start criticising you to make themselves feel better. That is a toxic relationship that you can definitely do without.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">Join now for free!</a></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Mon, 17 Jul 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Five festival dating ideas https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/five-festival-dating-ideas https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/five-festival-dating-ideas <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Now that Glastonbury has been and gone, it's officially festival season in the UK! There's a major festival on somewhere every weekend from now to September, including Latitude, Lovebox, Reading and Leeds, WOMAD and many more. We've put together a guide for dating at festivals to make sure you have the best experience ever!</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Blind date</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Loads of MSFers will be at your festival, so why not make use of your mobile phone, find someone who's around and have your first date there? You'll have to arrange to meet somewhere you'll actually be able to find each other; the designated meeting point is going to be a lot easier than 'to the left of the main stage'. A festival is perfect for a first date, loads to do and see and talk about and, if it doesn't go too well, the likelihood of bumping into them again is pretty small.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Mosh pit</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you want to be at the very front of the stage when the headline acts play, within spitting distance of Tom Yorke or Stormzy, you'll have to stake your claim to a good spot early in the day. This is a great place for a date: you'll hear some amazing music, have plenty of time for a chat between bands and form that special bond that only exists between people who spend all day saving a space in the mosh pit whilst their date goes for a wee.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/festival dating.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Not going in the mosh pit</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size: 12px;">You would never usually spend a date with your face in a strangers armpit whilst 3,000 people jumped up and down on your feet, so why do it at a festival? If crowds aren't your thing and you can live without being spat on by Tom Yorke or Stormzy, then the best way to spend your festival date is chilling at the back of the crowd. You can have a nice sit down, hold a conversation and still enjoy the music.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">Don't watch your favourite band</span></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size: 12px;">Counter-intuitive perhaps, because you've probably based your festival choice on which bands are playing, but often the best times to be had at festivals are those which you trip over without planning. Instead of fighting through crowds of people all trying to be the first to reach the main stage, take your date to the circus or cabaret tents. Stress free and more intimate than standing in a field with 40,000 lairy strangers. Infinitely dryer too if the weather is inclement.</span></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">Create your own festival</span></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-size: 12px;">For those of you who feel faint and need a sit down at the thought of four sweaty days in a tent with no flushing sanitary hardware and your hair slowly forming into a matted bird's nest (possibly with an actual bird in), why not do watching live music the civilised way? Take your date out to see a band in a proper venue where you won't be knee deep in effluence and then go for a delicious meal that isn't served in polystyrene. You'll be clean, dry, well fed and sipping a properly chilled Sauvignon Blanc from an actual glass, instead of cheap vodka from a cup made of recycled trainers. You'll probably get a better view of the bands too!</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a></p> Fri, 14 Jul 2017 00:00:00 +0100 5 ways you might be looking unattractive without realising https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-ways-you-might-be-looking-unattractive-without-realising https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/5-ways-you-might-be-looking-unattractive-without-realising <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When it comes to not looking sexy, it seems obvious to concentrate on the visual side of things, such as greasy hair, dirty clothes and not smelling as fresh as a daisy. However, studies have shown that it is actually more likely that behaviours and habits are more unattractive to potential partners than the way you look. Here are five surprising ways that you might be accidentally harming your sex appeal.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Not getting enough sleep</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">In a study from 2010, researchers asked people to look at photos of people who'd had a solid 8 hours of sleep and people who hadn't slept for 31 hours and asked them to rate their levels of attractiveness. The people who were sleep deprived were perceived as being less attractive, sadder and less healthy. There's a reason why it's called beauty sleep!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Stress</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Stress is bad for us in loads of ways, and it might also be harming our chances of finding a partner. A study conducted in 2013 found that women with high levels of the stress hormone cortisol were viewed by men as being less attractive. The researchers believe that this is because lower cortisol levels indicate health and fertility.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/woman(2).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Looking too happy</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It sounds a bit crazy, but a recent study found that women don't like guys who look too happy. Women were shown pictures of men and were asked to rate how attractive they found them and the results found that women rated men as most unattractive when they looked happy and most attractive when they looked proud.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Dishonesty</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We've always said that lying to impress a potential date is always a bad plan, and there is science to back this up. A 2006 study asked people to read blurbs about men and women, who were described as either dependent or independent. intelligent or unintelligent and honest or dishonest, and say how attractive they found them. The results found that honesty was the only trait to have an effect on how attractive they were.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <b style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Being mean</b><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We're all guilty of having a small mean streak, but taking it too far is a real turn off for your date. A Chinese study asked participants to look at photos of people displaying neutral expressions. Some of the pictures were accompanied by the words 'decent' and 'honest', others were accompanied by the words 'evil' and 'mean' and some had no words. The participants of the study rated people as less attractive when they were described as evil and mean.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 10 Jul 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Phones on dates: The dos and don'ts https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/phones-on-dates-the-dos-and-donts https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/phones-on-dates-the-dos-and-donts If, like everyone else in the whole world, you have a mild to serious addiction to your mobile phone, you probably struggle not to look at it on a very regular basis. In many situations this is fine, but you need to be very careful how you act around your phone when you're on a date. Whilst you might spend an evening in a bar with your friends scrolling through Facebook and replying to texts, it's not appropriate and it will make for a terrible atmosphere if someone is trying to get to know you and you're more interested in checking Whatsapp. Here are five handy rules for good phone etiquette when on a date.<br /> <br /> <strong>Only use it if absolutely necessary</strong><br /> <br /> If you need directions or you want to call a restaurant to make a booking or get an Uber, then by all means make use of that amazing piece of technology. However, idly using it to look at memes or update Twitter is just going to come across as a rude. If you really can't go for three hours without looking at it, do it when they nip to the toilet.<br /> <br /> <strong>Put it away</strong><br /> <br /> Even if you don't use it, having your phone on show isn't a good idea. Putting your phone on the table will provide too much temptation to pick it up, especially if you can see notifications popping up every two minutes. The more attention you pay to your phone, the less you'll be paying to your date and they won't feel good, even if you actually really like them, so stow it away in a coat pocket or bag.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/phone.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 394px;" /><br /> <br /> <strong>Turn it to silent</strong><br /> <br /> Even if you've managed to unglue it from your palm and have put it out of site, your phone will still be distracting if you can hear it binging or cheeping or playing Taylor Swift's Shake It Off, or whatever you use for message alerts or ringtones. Put it on silent before you arrive to meet your date.<br /> <br /> <strong>Ask before you use it</strong><br /> <br /> Yes, obviously you're a grown up and you don't need to ask people for permission to do things, but asking if your date minds if you check your phone is basic politeness and they will appreciate it. Be mindful of why you're checking though: if you're expecting an important text or call, then you have a viable reason, but if you just want to see how many likes a cute picture of your dog has got on Facebook, then save it for later.<br /> <br /> <strong>Expect your date to do the same</strong><br /> <br /> As with everything when there's two people involved, this has to go both ways. We wouldn't recommend telling someone off for using their phone too much on a first date - much better to lead by example - but if you like them enough to pursue things and they're still using it more than feels appropriate you should say something. Keep it light and frame it as a question about both of you, for example "Would you mind if we don't use our phones all the time when we're on dates?", should make your point without making them feel bad.<br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Fri, 07 Jul 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Is there such a thing as too many profile pictures? https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/is-there-such-a-thing-as-too-many-profile-pictures https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/advice/is-there-such-a-thing-as-too-many-profile-pictures <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">As we're all very well aware by now, photos are very important to online dating. It's to be expected that people will want to know what you look like before they meet you, and the better quality pictures you have, the more likely you are to have dates. In the age of the selfie, there's no excuse for not having a good picture of yourself, and you should have loads to choose from as we're all pretty snap happy now that we all have a camera on us pretty much the whole time. So, having pictures is important, but the question is: how many should you have for optimum dating success?</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">One photo</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">One picture is the absolute bare minimum, as people will skate over your profile like an Olympic ice skater if you haven't got any. Some people go with one because they haven't got time to find more, or they don't think people will want to shuffle through loads of pictures, and they could be right as we tend to have pretty limited attention spans. However, if you're going to go with one photo you have to make absolutely sure it's the best one possible, otherwise it's hardly worth having.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/pexels-photo-169928.png" style="width: 701px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Two to four photos</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Having more pictures gives people a much better idea of what you're like. More than one shot can show how you look both close up and in full body shots, plus they can give someone a really good idea of what you spend your time doing, such as hanging out with friends, playing a sport or travelling, which helps support your written profile. However, you have to make sure that the pictures are all top quality as one dodgy photo of you not quite looking your best can change someone's mind about contacting you.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Five plus photos</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Some people love to see lots of photos as it allows them to see you from plenty of different angles and doing lots of different things; think of it as a form of full disclosure. It also demonstrates that you're a confident type with an open personality who isn't scared to share things with the world. However, you may not want to go too over the top as posting too many pictures of yourself can make you look a bit narcissistic, plus people might get a little bored after a while. If you do choose to put up lots of pictures, make sure they aren't too similar as no one wants to see 14 photos of you doing your best sexy pout, however great you think you look.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">How many pictures do you think it's best to have? 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We absolutely love hearing about happy couples - it makes our jobs so worthwhile - so please don't hesitate to get in touch if you met someone lovely through the site. We always love to hear from you! The lovely Naomi and Nicolas got in touch to let us know a bit about their recent wedding and share their beautiful pictures.<br /> <br /> "We met in June 2011, got engaged in June 2016 and got married on the first May Bank holiday of this year", Naomi told us. "We put our original mysinglefriend profiles at the beginning of our wedding guest book which amused people!"<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/naomiNico-0491.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span><br /> <br /> <p class="p1"> "Before MSF, I had never tried online dating, but friends recommended it, so I thought 'What have I got to lose?'. Obviously I think it works as we might never have found each other otherwise. For our first date we met at a tube station on a Sunday afternoon, we were both very nervous. I told Nico I had dinner plans in case it didn't work out, but we ended up parting at 1am after a lot of drinks in the pub and a lovely dinner. I knew that night that he was a good one!”</p> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/naomiNico-0879.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /></span><br /> <br /> <p class="p1"> "Our wedding was amazing. Four days celebrating in the Dordogne in France where Nico's family is from. Fifty close friends and family came for a weekend of eating, drinking, canoing and cycling. We love our city life in London but would like to start a family one day and maybe move, either out of London or potentially to France.”</p> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Huge congratulations to this delightful pair from everyone here at MSF!</span><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">&nbsp;If you're part of an MSF success story, please drop us a line at&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">blog@mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">and let us know!</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> Mon, 03 Jul 2017 00:00:00 +0100 Can you judge your date by their music taste? https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/can-you-judge-your-date-by-their-music-taste https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/can-you-judge-your-date-by-their-music-taste <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Someone's taste in music is a very personal thing and something that can give away more about them than a simple conversation can. Talking about music is a fab idea on a first date, as pretty much everyone will have a favourite genre and artist, and probably a whole bunch of great stories related to the music they love, the bands they've seen and the memories attached to particular songs. So, as well as providing some great conversational fodder, a chat about music can reveal a little more about your date than they think they're giving. A three-year study by music psychology scholar Adrian North that correlated musical preferences with personality traits revealed the following surprising facts.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Heavy metal fans gentle and introverted</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">It might seem unlikely, but people who love listening to loud, aggressive metal or actually most likely to be quiet, gentle types who enjoy one-on-one time more than going out in a big group.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Hip Hop fans are sociable and energetic</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Fans of hip hop enjoy the sociable aspects of music as much as the sounds and will enjoy going out and having a good dance. The study found that they are extroverts with high self-esteem, so you're guaranteed a good time, but maybe not much down time.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/music(1).jpg" style="width: 701px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Pop fans are outgoing but anxious&nbsp;</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">People who enjoy chart pop showed a lack of creativity in the study and also tended to be worriers, but they are also outgoing and sociable.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Rock fans are selfish but relaxed</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">The study found that classic rock fans are easy going people, but they do tend to be a bit self-centred. However, fans of the more indie end of the rock spectrum are creative and open to new experience, but suffer from low self-esteem, so it's good figure out exactly what someone means when they say 'rock'.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Folk, jazz and blues fans are philosophical types</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Listening to these types of music generally requires a more active engagement than other genres, and fans of folk, jazz and blues are reflective, open-minded and creative. They are liberal thinkers and probably very clever.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Country music fans are hardworking and close-minded</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Country music fans are pleasant to be around, high on empathy and lacking in pretentions. They are also more likely to be politically conservative and not very open to experiencing other types of art and music.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Not a&nbsp;<strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong>&nbsp;member?&nbsp;<strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/signup/becomesingle/stage0.php" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">Join now for free!</a></strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> Click to go to&nbsp;<strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">mysinglefriend.com</a></strong></p> Wed, 28 Jun 2017 00:00:00 +0100 4 fabulous dating ideas for Wimbledon fans https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/4-fabulous-dating-ideas-for-wimbledon-fans https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/4-fabulous-dating-ideas-for-wimbledon-fans <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Wimbledon is back and gentle sounds of pocking balls and appreciative crowds is back in SW19. We love the annual jamboree of squash, strawberries and impromptu Cliff Richard performances, and not just for the tennis: there are some excellent dating opportunities to be had. Here are a few ideas...</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Queue for day tickets</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you decided you wanted to buy a ticket online to see a match (without booking months in advance) you'd have no chance, but Wimbledon has a little quirk in that it releases spare tickets every day. The only thing is that you have to queue up for a chance to get them and, with Wimbledon being as popular as it is, that's a pretty long queue; people tend to camp out overnight. Now, a very long queue may not initially strike you as a thrilling date, but actually a very good time can be had. You get plenty of opportunity to chat, there's the buzz of the crowd around you, you can take some fold up chairs and have a picnic and a bottle of fizz and then, hopefully, you can watch an exciting game of world class tennis. Good times.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Watch from Henman Hill</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If queuing isn't your bag, and you don't mind missing out on the live action, then take your date for a picnic on Henman Hill (or Murray Mound as it's now, slightly disturbingly, known), a lovely grassy knoll just north of Centre Court with a great, big screen showing the current match. You get all the atmosphere, plus the genuine sound of the pit pat of the balls and gasps of the crowds from the court, and all for free. Take a blanket, a picnic and a bottle of fizz for a truly classy date.<br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/tennis.jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 504px;" /></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <strong>Play a game of tennis</strong></p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> If you're an active type, all this sitting around queuing and watching might not do it for you. We suggest getting out there and actually playing a game of tennis with your date. It might be a little bit left field for a first date, as all that activity is basically going to mean you end up a red-faced, sweating monster in joggers rather than a beautiful, well-dressed model/angel, but, actually, if they've seen you at your worst and they still like you, then you're probably on to a winner. And it doesn't really matter if you can't play as this means you won't take it seriously and you'll have a good laugh.<br /> <br /> <strong>Find a big screen</strong><br /> <br /> Many cities now show Wimbledon on a giant communal screen, which is not much more effort than watching at home and allows you to catch some rays and enjoy the buzz of the crowd whilst you do so. A quick whizz around the internet will show you where to go and then all you have to do is turn up with the strawberries and cream.</p> <p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br /> <br /> <span style="font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); outline: none;"><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none;">mysinglefriend.com</a></strong></p> <div> &nbsp;</div> Mon, 26 Jun 2017 00:00:00 +0100 4 easy ways to tell if someone is great dating material https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/4-easy-ways-to-tell-if-someone-is-great-dating-material https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/4-easy-ways-to-tell-if-someone-is-great-dating-material <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">When you're searching through dating profiles, there can be times when the sheer volume of potential dates can leave you feeling a little bit overwhelmed. There are only so many people you can favourite, and even less that you can message, if you want to have time to function in your every day life and stay in gainful employment, so it's good to know a few little tips and tricks that can help you sort the wheat from the chaff when you're looking for someone to go out with. Here are four questions to ask yourself whilst you're perusing the site.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">How much have they written?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">You can always tell how committed someone is to having a good quality online dating experience by how much they've written in response to their friends description of them. A couple of sentences is fine, especially if it's a witty on liner, but if they've written just 'Thanks' or 'Message me' or something similar, they're not really giving enough away. A paragraph or two is the gold standard, but beware anyone who writes reams about themselves, because that might be their conversational style too.</span><br /> <br /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/couple(16).jpg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">How much can I learn about them from their pictures?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">If someone only has one picture on their profile, it could be cause for a little concern as it either means that they can't be bothered to put up anymore, or it's the only picture of themselves that they've got, which is a bit of a worry in the era of wall to wall digital media. A good primary picture should clearly show what they look like, hopefully with a big smile, and secondary pics should show interests such as sport or travelling, as well as the all important pictures of them out with their mates. This shows they're a sociable and fun person, rather than a bit on the lonely side.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Do they want to learn more about me?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">We're fans of cutting to the chase here at MSF, as too much time spent messaging can make a potential date go off the boil. However, the people you message should be interested in you and your profile, ask you a few questions and engage in a bit of banter. If they immediately ask you out for a drink, you should be a tad suspicious as, whilst they may simply be incredibly impatient to meet you, this can also be the behaviour of someone just looking for a quick hook up.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Have they got a bit saucy in their messages?</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">There's nothing more fun than sending a stranger a few flirty messages, but if you feel that they're crossing a line and getting a little too familiar too quickly in their messages, you can probably guess what they'll be like in real life. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable is a step too far, so if the banter goes a step too far, let them down gently and move on to someone else.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Not a&nbsp;</span><strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">mysinglefriend.com</strong><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;member?&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/register?p=become" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>Join now for free!</strong></a><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 13px; font-family: 'century gothic', arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Click to go to&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.mysinglefriend.com/" style="color: rgb(46, 164, 197); text-decoration: none; outline: none; font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><strong>mysinglefriend.com</strong></a> <div class="socialRow" id="socialBlogFooter" style="margin-top: 30px;"> <div id="fb-root" style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> &nbsp;</div> <div class="fb-share-button fb_iframe_widget" data-href="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/4-sneaky-ways-to-tell-if-someone-will-be-a-great-date" data-layout="button" fb-iframe-plugin-query="app_id=602162329904660&amp;container_width=701&amp;href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mysinglefriend.com%2Fblog%2Ffeatures%2F4-sneaky-ways-to-tell-if-someone-will-be-a-great-date&amp;layout=button&amp;locale=en_GB&amp;sdk=joey" fb-xfbml-state="rendered" style="display: inline-block; position: relative; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> &nbsp;</div> </div> <br /> Thu, 22 Jun 2017 00:00:00 +0100 How to keep your cool when dating in this sweltering weather https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/how-to-keep-your-cool-when-dating-in-this-sweltering-weather https://www.mysinglefriend.com/blog/features/how-to-keep-your-cool-when-dating-in-this-sweltering-weather <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">For a nation that constantly monitors the sky for the tiniest bit of blue and loves to have barbecues at the most inappropriate moments (in the drizzle, in a howling gale, in a highly flammable tent), we are somehow still woefully unprepared for an actual heatwave. Whilst other countries deal with their hot weather by dressing in cool clothing and going about their business as usual, safe in the knowledge it will still be sunny on the weekend and they can go and relax by a pool, the British tend to either throw all their clothes off and sit in the punishing glare of the sun until they're burned to a crisp, or carrying on as they normally would and succumb to heatstroke after refusing to remove their duffel coat on the tube. And we're no better when it comes to dating: we will cram into a tiny, humid bar or shadeless beer garden and become sweaty, dehydrated and decidedly unsexy within about five minutes. But it doesn't have to be be this way - here are a few ideas for keeping your cool on even the hottest day.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Sit somewhere shady</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">This is very basic advice, but the amount of people who will sit in the sun until their skin literally starts to peel off is worrying. It's true that we don't get sun very often and people want to make the most of it, but getting sunburn is a) potentially dangerous and b) makes you look ridiculous. Rather than spending the evening getting progressively redder in the face and incoherent with sunstroke, meet your date in a shady spot and enjoy the heat without the pain.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <img alt="" src="https://www.mysinglefriend.com/assets/cms/files/online dating sun beach.jpeg" style="width: 700px; height: 467px;" /><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Picnic time!</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Along with many other outdoor events, the British aren't brilliant at picnics. Sweaty sandwiches, warm wine and melted choc ices tend to be the norm, which is no fun for anyone. However, a little forward planning can make a picnic decidedly romantic and memorable. The most important thing to do is invest in a cool bag - you can pick one up in your local supermarket - and bring some food that travels well such as a simple salads, sushi, bread, posh crisps, a cheese that benefits from being a bit melted and some booze that doesn't mind being a bit warm, like a nice bottle of red.</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <b style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Make sure it goes swimmingly</b><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Everyone's immediate response to hot weather is to want to immerse themselves in a large body of cold water, and you shouldn't have to crush this compulsion just because you're going on a date. Apart from the fact that it quickly answers the "I wonder what they look like underneath their clothes?" question that we all ask ourselves, swimming together will be delightful on a hot day. It's also a great litmus test of your date's tastes: will they choose the posh lido where you can still sip some champers, the pond in the park and a couple of beers, or the beautiful river that takes an hour to find but is absolutely stunning?</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <strong style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Stay indoors</strong><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Very hot weather is a bit like the music of Taylor Swift: fun when you imagine it, but spend too much time with it and you'll end up tired, irritable and desperate to get away from it. Rather than feeling obliged to make the most of it, why not do the opposite and just ignore it? If there is any indoor activity that you have previously avoided due to crowds, now is the time to do it, from a trip to the cinema to see the latest blockbuster, to that exhibition that's always crammed to that cool basement restaurant that you've wanted to try.&nbsp;</span><br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'century gothic', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Any tips for enjoying the gorgeous weather? 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